love. The one thing everyone wants. The one thing everyone is looking for. Love is the closest thing to magic in our gray, dull and dreary lives. Love lights up the darkness in our hearts and makes us feel warm in the cold weather of loneliness. No wonder most of us are so desperate to love and be loved. We frantically run around looking for the one, but we need to stop looking for love and let it find us.

Will love come to you if you stop looking for it?

We need to stop being afraid of being left alone. We need to stop being afraid of being powerful. We need to stop getting caught up in fear and pain. You need to stop looking for love and let it find you. I know the lump in the throat and the heaviness in the heart has become unbearable. I know how much you want to be loved. I know how much you deserve to be loved… unconditionally. Which is exactly why I’m telling you, you have to stop looking for this person all the time and just let it happen at its own pace. Let love find you.

To be loved: This is the greatest desire

You come home at the end of a long day and sit tight on your bed. You exhale deeply as if you are trying really hard to get rid of all your fears, frustrations, and exhaustion. You look around your room and feel the emptiness in your bones. You wish someone was here, right now, to hold you. To tell you it’s okay. You did good today. You are strong and brave. The world can never steal your inner beauty. Someone tells you that you are safe now. They got you. they love you.

Someone tells you you can rest now. Someone catches you as you fall asleep…the deep, rejuvenating sleep you’ve been wanting for so long. And when you wake up, you see them sleeping next to you. Happy and calm. You think to yourself that you must have done something really good to have someone so amazing who loves you. You feel the love in your heart and you put your arm around them and go back to sleep.

Paints a pretty picture, right? So why stop looking for love? Why should you give up something so beautiful? Because love never begs. always attracted. Always talented.

What is love if you don’t know you are being cared for?

What is love if you have no one to share silence with? What is love if you have no one to rely on? Knowing that no matter how awful your day is, they will still be there to make it better for you. And that’s what we all want. love. No fancy dates. Not passionate sex. But someone we can call home. And the inherent need for this feeling makes us impatient and desperate to find it.

This whole concept of “the person” or soul mate or whatever you call it, is not about sharing a cosmic connection or a divine romantic relationship. The first is that person with whom you can share the simplest moments and still feel like it was the greatest moment of your life. And when you don’t have that person, you feel like something is missing in life. It doesn’t mean that you feel inferior or anything. no. You are fully capable of taking care of yourself and being alone. But there is this nagging pain in your heart – as if your heart is searching for something.

And it is this psychological, emotional, and spiritual need for love that makes us needy, vulnerable, and hopeless. And so we embark on a journey in search of love. No, you don’t want to stop looking for love. You want to find that hidden treasure that can bring new meaning to your life and fill your heart.

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But love can’t “add to cart”

You start looking around. That hot guy who walks in front of you every day when you leave for work. That cute girl who works at the coffee shop and smiles at you for no reason. We start swiping more directly on desperate dating apps that we know deep down are useless. We go on dates a lot hoping to meet ‘the one’ really soon. but not. We don’t meet them. It breaks our hearts as despair slowly creeps up on us.

Why you should stop looking for love and find yourself instead
But we never stop looking for love. We don’t want to let go of that feeling – the feeling we know deep in our hearts that one day we will be with them. So we try harder, we get more desperate, we lower our standards and eventually fail everything. We rush the process, believe liars, fall for narcissists, stay with abusers longer than we should, and get our hearts broken again and again. In the end, we were left bitter and broken. We console ourselves by saying that there is no such thing as “love”. It’s all a hoax, a scam. We deeply regret our dream of being with someone we can call “home”.

This is why we must stop looking for love. Our despair pollutes our mind and heart. It corrupts our opinions, beliefs and perspectives. It pollutes our intuition and our ability to feel true, real love in our hearts.

This is why we have to stop looking for love

If only we could shop for love online like we do for everything else. If only it were that easy. But we are talking about love here. Love is not exaggerated. Love is not exaggerated. It’s cool, as they say. Love is an elusive elixir that can heal all of our emotional wounds. But the search for love is as fruitless as the expeditions to El Dorado, the lost city of gold.

The biggest problem with looking for love is that we’re always looking in the wrong places. We go after people who don’t care about us, people who don’t value us. We go after people who avoid us even after we know what they mean to us. We chase after people who think our love is an ego booster for them. But love never asks. You cannot ask someone to love you. Either they like you or they don’t. Love is a feeling, not an idea. So stop looking for love. No matter how empty, lonely, broken, damaged, depressed, pathetic, awful, worthless, and hopeless you feel. Stop looking for love. You don’t want their scraps. You want to be loved. You want someone crazy about you. You want to go home to that person and make them come back to you.

If someone doesn’t love you the way you deserve, walk away. Stop chasing them. Stop following her. Stop begging for love. Stop looking for love in the wrong places. It’s not that the universe will help you find love or any of that cosmic nonsense. I don’t know, maybe the universe will help you, maybe it won’t. But you owe it to yourself not to beg for love. You owe it to the person to love you because you don’t beg for love. Stop looking for love. Just stop looking for love.

Love never exists, always attracts

Why go after people who will have little impact on your life? Why worry and cry over the people who will be a speck in your diary? Why of all the things you look for love, something you deserve and it’s all around you? You cannot search, ask, beg, or force someone to love. The more you keep looking for love, the more pain your heart will know. The more you pursue someone, the more you will be at their mercy. The more attention and affection you will seek. And you will never be satisfied with that relationship… with that “love” – if you can call it that.

You have to stop looking for love. Open your mind and heart and let love find you. You have to attract her. I don’t know exactly how the universe or the law of attraction works, but I do know that you will only have love when you let go of your need to find love. When you stop looking for love it finds you. It’s almost magical in how it works. I certainly don’t know the mechanics of how this happens, but I do. Know that love will come to you when you least expect it.

Stop looking for love and find your true self instead

In life, certain things happen because they have to. Like having your heart broken, losing a loved one, or marrying the love of your life. Like it or not, this is how it will work out. But there are certain things that happen because we deliberately make them happen. Like achieving your goals, improving yourself and succeeding.

When your energy and focus are directed toward the search for love, you are depriving yourself of being eager for self-improvement. And focusing on your personal growth is the only way to attract love. This is how it works. When you work on being your best self and stop looking for love, you become your most authentic self. That’s when someone falls in love with you. With who you are as a person without any fear or anxiety. Someone who is happy with himself. Someone who knows how to live in the moment, enjoy the little things, who doesn’t seek to be loved, but to share their love no matter what pain they’ve been through. They will love you for who you are – in all your flawed, imperfect, beautiful and true glory.

Do not find love. Love finds you.

When someone loves you for your true self, you won’t feel the need to change yourself. You won’t feel the need to follow them around and sacrifice your needs in order to meet theirs. You won’t have to put up with abuse and manipulation just to get an ounce of love. You can just be yourself and watch them go crazy on you. They will stare deeply into your eyes and forget about all the distractions in the world. They will keep you close when you get home at the end of a long day and tell you how much they love you.

When you become your most authentic self, you will attract that person who will put you to sleep without any stress or anxiety, and feel all the love in your heart. It will make you feel safe and make you feel like you have finally found your “home”. These are just some of the things that happen when you stop looking for love and focus on yourself.

Make the shit happen and let the love unfold

If you’re still struggling to let go of your need to find love, here’s how to stop looking for love –

Focus on yourself and work on your problems, fears, and mental health
Rekindle, nourish, strengthen, and value your existing relationships with friends and family
Open up to a friend or loved one you trust and learn to be vulnerable
Learn to be patient and trust that the right person will eventually come along
Take a break from dating and delete all those stupid dating apps
Stop worrying about how you look or dress and focus on being your most authentic self
Embrace solitude and spend more quality time with yourself
Stop taking love and relationships seriously all the time. Don’t beat yourself up
Don’t force yourself to meet new people or socialize. Only do it when you feel it’s right
Stop getting close or flirting with people you don’t like very much
Explore your creative skills and start a passion project. Follow your hobbies and interests
Learn to relax and be grateful for the life you already have
Be honest with yourself and others
Learn a new skill or do something new. Focus on personal development
Stop imagining what your potential partner should be like and develop the skills that you find attractive
Don’t rush the process, trust the process. Don’t rush when you meet an interesting person. Let things happen naturally.

Stop searching for your soul mate. Stop looking for love. Find yourself instead.

This is the real secret of happiness my friend. love your self. Boost your self-esteem. Value yourself enough not to stalk anyone. Give yourself permission to be happy for no reason at all. True, eternal and divine love is self-love. When you love yourself, you attract love from others.

As they say in the Law of Attraction, “Like attracts like,” so I say, “Love attracts love.” Love will find you.