A relationship is a haven between two people where they can be their true, unapologetic selves without any fear of being judged.
Every relationship is built on certain foundations that help it run smoothly and prevent it from falling into mistakes and obstacles. It’s very simple, if you don’t take care of your relationship, sooner or later it is doomed to failure.
So, if you want to keep your relationship healthy and happy and make it last for a long time, you should be aware of the things that are proven to make a big difference when it comes to its quality and longevity.
After some time, most couples get too comfortable with each other, so they forget to be careful about some things which puts their relationship at high risk of early and messy breakup.
In order to avoid any complications and keep your perfect relationship intact, be careful of these five most common relationship killers.
- Poor communication skills
Let’s face it, we all believe we’re really good at communicating and getting our points across, but the truth is that we all make mistakes and let the severity of the situation get the better of us sometimes.
It’s very easy to turn a normal discussion into a screaming session where nothing gets done and all that gets done is to make you both more annoyed and annoyed with each other.
Next time you want to pounce on your leg, try this. As annoying as it may be in the moment, count to ten, collect your thoughts, and listen to what he has to say to himself.
No boycotting, screaming, or pointing fingers.
Listen to him and try to understand where he is coming from. He, in turn, will do the same for you. Talk about it calmly while trying to find common ground instead of shifting blame, which leaves no one happy.
- An inability to fully trust each other, even when it means taking a leap of faith
If you cannot trust your partner, you will never be truly happy in your relationship. The whole point of a partnership is to know that you have each other’s backs no matter what.
But it won’t work if you doubt everything else he says and does, and it’s ultimately a waste of your time.
Sometimes, being in a relationship means taking a huge leap of faith and believing them even when you have no proof they’re telling the truth.
This is your person and your rock. Will he lie to you? I think you know the answer to this. So give him the benefit of the doubt, trust that he makes good decisions and keeps you informed.
Until he proves otherwise, choose to trust him and let yourself feel happy without the burden of unnecessary doubt.
- Only introduce yourself as someone’s friend
Maintaining your own identity throughout the life of your relationship is essential to its continuity and success.
It’s cute when you’re so close that you finish each other’s sentences and don’t mind just taking a nap when you’re together without having to actually do anything. It feels good no matter what you do, as long as you’re together.
But don’t let the role of your girlfriend be your entire identity!
Remember who you are outside of your relationship and keep doing your own thing. Don’t neglect your people and your emotions, and make sure you find a balance between the two worlds.
You are a great friend and this is a wonderful part of your life, but there is so much more than that. So don’t lose sight of your other world, and be honest with yourself.
- Making excuses for each other for fear of loneliness
Of course, there will be times when you fail, and the ultimate thing to do is to forgive, learn from it and move on.
But when it comes to bad behavior and emotional abuse, you should never make any excuses for this type of behavior. It is infinitely better to be alone than to be with someone who puts you down.
Make sure you are being treated right, and only forgive when your heart tells you it is the right thing to do. If you feel that your partner is truly sorry for certain actions that led to you being hurt, search your heart for forgiveness.
But don’t let it happen twice. Once is a mistake, twice – it’s a choice.
- Not showing up for each other through thick and thin
Sometimes your partner takes on more than he can handle. Sometimes, you won’t agree with his choices, but you have to let him do what he wants, and if necessary, let him learn from his mistakes.
You’re supposed to support each other no matter what. Even when it seems like a bad idea, let him try and encourage him as loudly as you can.
It’s important to support him and vice versa, because without each other’s support, where would you be?
Be your partner’s biggest cheerleader, and show him that you always have him. If he fails, be his shoulder to cry on, and if he succeeds, be a proud friend!
Sometimes, just being present and not interfering is the best thing you can do.
You won’t always agree with his choices, but that doesn’t mean you can’t support him to succeed. Be there even when it’s hard to do, and he will do the same for you.
