Why does falling in love online matter?
I’ve been there, done that – and still wonder. Not that I’m not sure about it, but when I read so much of the argument against it, I wonder – is this a story made up inside my head – or does this have anything to do with reality, too. Am I alone here. Or do I have people like me around? The question here is – to fall in love with someone you never knew – via online interaction. Personally I feel it is possible but yes – it may not be possible or safe every time.
There’s this movie PERFECT STRANGER, which had something very nice to say –
The Internet – It’s a world where you believe that their actions have no consequences, where guilt is masked by anonymity, where there are no fingerprints. An unseen world full of strangers both online and offline in life. He will steal your secrets, spoil your dreams, and pick your identity. Because in this world, where you can be anything you want, anyone you want, you may lose your identity.
While I was googling – I came across many of these articles – I speak literally. I really couldn’t agree to anything. And here it is. Although it doesn’t support my idea (better said experiment). But it brings to light a lot of things – that are overlooked but very real. If you feel like you are falling in love with someone – as I did, maybe this article will help you question your feelings.
Hope you find it useful too.
Well, we’re already in an online relationship — right?
Why falling in love online doesn’t matter
You can’t (strictly) fall in love online. a period. end of story. a point. True love doesn’t happen like that.
I’m sure there’s a study out there somewhere (and if I don’t feel like dying typing this – the flu is fun! – I’ll take the time to Google you girls) that says that in order for a real relationship to take hold, humans need to be physically close to each other In order to develop a bond of love. It is a physical complement to the virtual atmosphere you will achieve if you will. Not in a medieval marriage and sex way, but a psychological chemistry match to prove and confirm any emotional/mental connection you developed while writing and texting.
Sure, she’ll sit there and say to me, “The thumb doesn’t lie! I’ve never felt a connection so strong!” Yes. we will. You’ve never felt a connection like this ever, because you’ve never really experienced anything. I just thought about it. I imagined how you would feel. Written and expressed orally. I slept on it. Then reimagine it again via Twitter, Facebook and G chat.
But if you haven’t met your mentally stimulated man, you have no idea how a real relationship could develop. Idea number.
You don’t know how your hand fits into his. You have no idea how his lips landed on your lips. Will the conversation flow? Or will it falter? Is he as affectionate physically as he is verbally affectionate? Is this what you want? You won’t know his idiosyncrasies and whether he’s going to make you feel bad or make you feel bad.
And you sure don’t know how fair the two of you are between the sheets.
If you don’t believe me, spend 30 minutes of your life watching an episode of Catfish on MTV.
And if that doesn’t work for you, here’s the truth for a minute: This relationship? It’s synthetic. You created these feelings out of 0’s and 1’s. You created an emotional attachment to an idea – not an actual person – and filled the feelings as the chemistry of mind, body, and spirit naturally picks up and helps. Said vibes will sound so perfect and so real as FACK (hint: since you created them based on a fantasy, they’re perfect), but don’t drink Kool-Aid sister. They are definitely not a real deal in real life. So, step away from the keyboard. Leave Snapchat and Kik and set up a coffee date for crap. Because, really, why would you hide behind a screen? What do you fear most about interviewing your information highway sank? I think it’s time to stop and find out.
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