The following article prompts you not to affect the PDAs you see on your social media homepage. Facebook and relationships don’t go hand in hand.
As far as I can discern, Facebook is a website that you can visit to feel intimidated and disgusted by your parents’ political views.
It’s like a quarantine zone. All pollutants of humanity are contained there, in order to protect real life from the worst kind of people. But we all have to log in. Otherwise, we will never hear from our family again. If everyone left Facebook today, we’d all realize that we each have, like, only four real friends.
I’m pretty sure the only thing to do on Facebook is hide your Candy Crush requests with a gun in your mouth. Well, plunging your relationship into the toxic dump of the internet isn’t the most wholesome endeavor.
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Why Facebook and Relationships Don’t Gel?
The biggest sign of a healthy relationship comes when there is a lack of presence on social media.
There are two ways relationships appear on Facebook, and both are bad. First, the couples who do the dirty laundry.
Plain and simple, it indicates that you don’t care about your partner’s feelings, your privacy, and your relationships.
You are not a team if you are willing to compete in front of other people such as an audience; You are warriors in the literal sense of the word. And that doesn’t even begin to mention all the passive-aggressive posts. “That feeling when someone forgot to pick up Arby on the way home for your birthday—I feel fancy.”
Yes, I know roast “beef” equals true love, but maybe you’re addressing it to your partner? All it is saying is that you are looking for external validation of your feelings. Do you know what a real couple do when something goes wrong? They talk about it and figure out how to avoid hurting each other’s feelings in the future.
The second way that couples appear on Facebook takes the form of “envy of our perfect lives” in the excessive sharing of couples. Don’t be jealous. Their Facebook wall is literally a facade.
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It is as if they are trying to convince themselves to repeat themselves. Shouldn’t a great relationship speak for itself? Or maybe it’s an unhealthy obsession with their image, rather than the relationship itself.
NFL legend Walter Payton once said, “When you’re good at something, you tell everybody. When you’re great at something, they tell you.”
People notice when you’re in a great relationship. It is reflected in your life in many ways. We all like to scream from the mountaintops now and then, but how terrifying is it to call each of your friends and family every single day and remind them that you still love your partner?
This is what continuous posting to Facebook amounts to.
In short, great relationships are the antithesis of the above couples.
They solve problems without getting innocent bystanders caught in the crossfire. The person they want to share the joy of their relationship with is each other, not 400 strangers.
They know there is value in secret little moments that no one else knows about. They know that showing your love through a third party diminishes their sincerity because when you have an audience, everything feels like a performance.
They don’t spend time on Facebook. They spend it with each other.
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By Bob Alaborda
This article was originally published by YourTango.com.
Choose real connections over Facebook Relationships
Now that you know Facebook and relationships don’t mix well, keep your moments private and work on building a strong married life that won’t need outside validation.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is Facebook bad for my relationship?
Couples who use Facebook excessively tend to get involved in fights related to Facebook which ultimately lead to negative outcomes like cheating or breakup.
How can social media be toxic to romantic relationships?
Excessive use of social media can cause a decrease in the interest and quality of time that couples spend with each other.
What are the negative effects of Facebook?
Lack of sleep, poor attention, depression, and relationship struggles are some of the negative effects of Facebook.