Every relationship is unique, and not just in the good ways.
When two people join in life, it’s not all sunshine and roses.
Here are the top signs that your partner considers themselves superior to you and how you can respond effectively and with maximum self-respect and dignity.
12 signs your partner is staring at you (and what to do about it)
If this happens to you, you have a problem.
Pay attention to these signs.
1) They talk to you
Talking to someone is one of the worst things that can happen in some relationships.
It’s not just romantic relationships, of course.
This occurs in family relationships, friendships, work interactions, and many other situations.
This is one of the most worrying signs your partner is looking down on you:
They talk to you like you’re an idiot, a nobody, just an afterthought.
Their voice has a tone of extreme fatigue when talking to you, but it regains its normal state in conversation with others.
There could be many reasons for this, including them being in a bad mood, but when you notice that it happens often and it’s an ongoing trend, don’t write it off as no big deal.
It’s a big deal.
Like it or not, you have been taken to the place of being a weak bitch in this relationship.
Your partner looks down on you, or at least acts that way.
not good!
2) They ignore you
Another annoying sign that your partner looks down on you is that he or she ignores you, sometimes for weeks or even months at a time.
Aside from a quick “hello,” they look right through you.
It might as well be a ghost.
Of course, there are reasons why this happens, and being exposed to constant attention has an unattractive side.
But it sure hurts to be completely ignored by someone you care about.
If this is happening to you, you must try to communicate with your partner and ask them what is happening.
Let them know that you feel like communicating and interacting more and that you realize that this is a challenge for them right now.
If your partner is very busy or going through a difficult time, hopefully, they will open up to you.
If they look down on you and find you annoying to interact with, this will likely show up as well and the relationship will generally end.
3) They leave you confused
One of the worst things about a partner who thinks they’re on another level with you is the feelings of confusion it can create.
You wonder why they don’t seem to care about you or want to be with you anyway if they think you’re worthless.
It’s a good question!
While this article explores the key signs your partner feels over you, it may be helpful to talk to a relationship coach about your situation.
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4) They flirt with others
Another annoying sign that your partner is staring at you is that he flirts with others, sometimes right in front of you.
Talk about disrespect!
The least a guy can do if he’s in a relationship with you is respect your time and your love for him by not showing that he cares about others more than you do.
This type of flirtatious behavior is often accompanied by comments about others’ attractiveness, intelligence, or charm.
There is no mention of your charm and attractiveness.
A little flirty flirtation or pointing out that someone else is very attractive never hurts anyone, but it’s a lot different to openly try to attract someone else in front of you.
If they do, you have some real issues to worry about in this relationship.
Whether they cheat is another question worth asking and investigating…
What’s certain is that they’re telling you that they find others more attractive than you and don’t respect you enough to even hide it.
This is very disappointing and is a sign that your partner considers themselves to be of higher value than you!
5) They treat you as a backup option
Treating it as an afterthought and retreat is painful in all areas of life, especially in romantic relationships.
In the one scenario where you hope to be ranked higher in importance and priority, you are instead told in many ways that you are not as important and not as good as your ex.
It’s really painful to experience this, and if it happens to you, you have every right to feel very upset and disappointed about it.
6) They make you “work” to get their attention
Attention and love don’t come in endless supply, but if your partner gives you the impression that you have to “earn” his love and respect, he is engaging in truly harmful behavior.
This is not a healthy relationship and not something that will bring out the best in you.
The more you work, the lower your self-esteem as you constantly compete for your partner’s approval against a host of other factors.
The basic idea is simple:
They use your love for them to gain power over you.
Then they set hurdles for you to jump through, and it always turns out you’re not good enough at doing it.
How can you win?
Sometimes just leave!
7) They highlight your worst traits
Another sign that your partner looks down on you is that he or she highlights your worst traits.
When you are around them, you somehow become toxic or insecure and you don’t know why.
Here’s why…
Have you ever asked yourself why love is so difficult?
Why can’t it be what you imagined growing up? Or at least make sense…
We’ve all been there: confused, feeling let down, and loving someone but not quite sure if they feel the same way…
When you’re dealing with a partner who makes you feel unworthy, it’s easy to get frustrated and even feel helpless. You may also be tempted to give up and give up on love.
I want to suggest doing something different.
It’s something I learned from world-famous shaman Ruda Yande. It taught me that the path to finding love and intimacy is not what we are culturally accustomed to believing.
Many of us sabotage and cheat ourselves for years, getting in the way of meeting a partner who can truly satisfy us.
As Rhoda explains in this amazing free video, many of us chase love in a toxic way that ends up stabbing us in the back.
We get stuck in terrible relationships or empty encounters, never find what we’re looking for, and continue to feel terrible about things like feeling weak and devalued in the relationship.
We fall in love with the ideal version of someone instead of the real person.
We try to “fix” our partners and end up destroying relationships.
We try to find someone who “completes” us, and then we collapse with them next to us and feel twice as bad.
Rhoda’s teachings showed me a whole new perspective.
While watching, I felt like someone understood my struggle to find and nurture love for the first time — and finally offered an actual, practical solution to a critical, unaffectionate partner who sends mixed messages about his interest in us.
If you’re done with unfulfilling dating, empty hookups, frustrating relationships, and having your hopes dashed time and time again, this is a message you need to hear.
I guarantee you will not be disappointed.
8) They use jealousy as a tool against you
Jealousy is a powerful force that can erode even the brightest and most loving relationships.
At the heart of jealousy there is another emotion:
He is afraid.
Fear of not being good enough…
Fear of being alone…
Fear of abandonment…
These feelings of our primitive, infantile selves continue to surface and can be very difficult to deal with and come to terms with as adults.
Many adults suffer from patterns imprinted on them without ever realizing how they are slaves to emotional wounding that was never their fault in the first place.
This isn’t psychological bullshit, it’s real and leaves a really deep mark…
9) They threaten to separate to achieve their goals
Another terrible sign that your partner looks down on you is that he uses leaving you as an open threat.
It comes back when you don’t do what they say…
When you annoy them…
When you stay away from them…
Suddenly they are about to leave you at any time.
It’s never happened, but that shoe about to drop has given you the creeps.
“You don’t have to live your life cringing every time you say or do anything, worrying that your partner will bring you down forever,” Hannah Orenstein and Carolyn Twersky wrote in Seventeen.
“You should feel secure in your relationship and comfortable enough to be yourself with your partner, and not constantly walk on eggshells.”
10) They don’t involve you in financial decisions
Financial stress divides many couples for the primary reason that finances are too stressful.
Rich people are still stressed about finances and the stress associated with them, which is part of the reason why many wealthy people hire money managers and people to take care of their finances.
It can be a full-time job just managing money and knowing what to do with it, how to save it properly, and what to spend it on to meet your goals.
Apply this to the average couple and you can see a recipe for stress.
What makes it much worse is when one partner won’t condescend to involve the other in crucial financial decisions…
They just do it, even on joint accounts or in situations where they don’t have the moral right to do so (even if they do have the legal right).
This is a clear sign that your partner is looking down on you if he does this.
Failure to involve someone in important financial decisions such as large purchases, investments, withdrawals, or other matters is terrible and indicates a real lack of consideration for the other person.
This is the kind of problem that needs to be addressed head-on.
Creating separate accounts will not always solve the problem, because the issue of disrespect in financial decision-making will continue regardless and cause major problems in the relationship.
11) They all take and do not give
The thing about selfish people is that it’s not black and white. We can all be selfish sometimes, even the most generous of us.
There are times when putting yourself first is essential and is something your partner must respect.
But the problem occurs when there is a partner who only thinks about his side all the time.
When they no longer have anything to give and all they have to do is take…
Then use the love between you as a justification for why this happened…
They need more of your time, love, energy, attention, compromise, or what have you.
But all you need from them is something demanding, unacceptable, weird, etc.
There is a balance! You don’t want a partner who does everything you say and doesn’t care about themselves.
However, at the same time, it is clear that a partner who does not respect you enough to care about your needs is looking down on you in a fundamental way that must be corrected and addressed for the relationship to be repaired and possibly continued.
12) They try to convince you to break your beliefs
The deepest relationships still contain two members: these are two people with unique life experiences, beliefs, and philosophies.
Two people who come together with many commonalities and beliefs often find that they have more differences in their outlook than they realize when growing together.
This is normal and can be a source of positive growth and learning between partners.
But it can also lead to trying to impose one’s beliefs on another over time or breaking the other’s worldview.
This is a sign of massive disrespect. It is one thing to present your beliefs and to speak in favor of them or defend them forcefully: it is quite another to force them or make a relationship conditional on them.
One of the worst signs that your partner is looking down on you is that he or she tries to force you to change your beliefs or shames you for the way you see life, love, and the world.
