7 Signs he’s just using you to get over his ex
To be honest, we cannot get rid of someone who was in our life and meant a lot to us like an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend.
But when you get back into the dating scene, you’re expected to at least get over your ex enough so that it doesn’t impact your future relationship.
Many men and women do not even know when is the right time to start a new relationship, so they move from one to another.
This is the unhealthy thing you can do to your relationship, because that way you bring all that unnecessary baggage into it and in the end you end up hurting someone the way your ex hurt you.
If you are in a relationship and things seem to be going well, there may be a possibility that he is just using you to get over his ex.
So, in order to find out if this is really the case, let’s go through these seven signs that he is still trying to forget his ex:
They send text messages frequently
Not only does he keep all of her text messages on his phone, but you see him texting her a lot.
Even when you’re on a date, he tells you that he just had to read that message “really quick” and then tells you how funny that joke you told him was.
He’s still very close to her friends
When you break up with someone, you usually ignore their entire family and friends, but for some reason, this guy still hangs out with her brother and all of their mutual friends.
He says there’s no way he’d break up such a great friendship, and even though she’s still hanging out with them, he tells you that you don’t really have anything to worry about.
Sister, you have a lot to worry about.
He doesn’t seem to have any plans for your future
When you ask him anything about a future together, he says you should worry about the here and now and not the future.
Although this is definitely a nice way to live, you have to make at least some plans, like, is he planning to stay for a longer period of time or is he just a visitor to your life and is he going to leave? morning?
He compares you a lot
Every time you do something nice for him, he says, “You see, my ex did the same thing once” or “My ex did it this way…”
No matter how hard you try, he always compares you to his ex. Every little thing reminds him of her and it’s so scary.
Does he even mention her during sex? Because it can happen.
She was the first to hear the news
Even though you may be sitting right next to him while he receives the email that he’s going to college, he will still send her the news first and then tell you.
He’s clearly not over her and she’s more important to him than you.
I’m very sorry.
He did not throw away the gifts
Let’s be real, do you keep the things you got from a man who mercilessly broke your heart? Of course you don’t because it reminds you of that terrible time you spent with an abuser who didn’t know where he was.
But what does your friend do? Well, he keeps everything he got from her, locked up safely in his room.
He was probably wearing the t-shirts, jewelry she bought him, etc.
Goes to the extreme
There are only two possibilities here: either he talks about it all the time or he keeps everything they went through a secret.
You know, in normal relationships, people discuss their past, simply because they don’t want to repeat the same mistakes they made before and they want to make sure that their partner knows what happened.
But in these two extreme situations, he either can’t stop talking about her to the point that you know her favorite cereal or you don’t even know why they broke up.
It’s really frustrating in any of these scenarios.