Have you had bad experiences when it comes to toxic masculinity, but still fail to see red flags in a man? Here’s what you should be looking for!
Who could be better than the men themselves to tell us when it is time for a woman to turn away from a man?
The guys at r/AskMen shared red flags, to warn us, the women, as warning signs to stay away from them.
Ladies, the guys on Reddit have revealed red flags about some guys have shown that they feel we shouldn’t just know about but stay away from.
If you come across someone like this, never be fooled by the occurrence of a disaster. Remember, these signals are by heart.
AskMen, What are some relationship red flags in a guy? This is what they will tell you…
- A Prince Charming is not a magician.
He’s not the Prince Charming that he appears to be.
“If he always says the right thing at the right time, is so charming, and plays all his cards right, but you haven’t seen his friends or where he lives, this is neither my first nor last Tango.”
- The way he behaves with anonymous people is like those who serve him.
“How the waiter/bartender treats. That’s weird. You can get a basis for his kindness, patience, unforgiveness, and generosity. So many things.”
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- He has endless crying stories that make you pity and care for him.
“If the world seems to be taking out the poor guy, and you think he needs you, you need to get the curse out of there. His choices cause chaos and he will drag you with him.
Don’t date out of pity, friends aren’t lost dogs who just need a shower and some love to come back full.”
- He subtly hides that he is already in a relationship.
“If he seems to be hiding you, keeping you away from his friends/relatives, or keeps making excuses, he’s probably just using you.” - Does not want to use condoms.
“If he insists the condom feels bad and he wants to come back bareback even if you’ve only been dating for a few days/weeks or even just meeting up for a hookup: Run as fast as you can.”
- Several bad relationships in their lives with other women.
“Feeling nothing is their duty.
They have very bad relationships with other women nowadays or in the past. This includes each of his mother, sister, ex-girlfriends or any other woman related to him in any way.
Be forewarned that you may just be another woman to add to his ever-growing list of battered women.
A lack of respect for a woman’s desire may not always be associated with something sexual or violent. Forcing her to eat something she doesn’t want is an indication that he’s a control freak. This could turn into something worse later on.
This is a warning sign that men can also take when they encounter such a woman.”
- When he is with other men, his behavior towards women changes.
“If a man brags about the size of his penis. If a man reacts/talks about women differently in front of other men in the presence of women. Two big flags for a dick’s head. No pun intended.” - Lacks self-confidence.
“Self-esteem is low. Do you want someone who is really trying hard? Are you doing well in life, staying out of trouble and drama? Has depth, and isn’t easy prey for others? Do I have a deal for you.”
It’s so cool that it isn’t. You can’t fix it, that’s it. It doesn’t matter if they’re cool, they think they’re bullshit. It shifts and changes under the skin. He never leaves them alone, and you’ll always be out, wondering what’s going on.
They will be strangers to you because they don’t think they are worthy of love, and they can’t risk showing their true faces.
He’s as handicapped as any other, but he hides so well that you’ll probably think he’s “shy.” Shyness doesn’t destroy you, it does.”
- He only communicates with women at parties and social gatherings.
“I’m sure women can see this much sooner than I do, but at parties, if a guy was only talking to girls, he didn’t go there to make friends, he just went there to sit.
I go to a fair amount of “make new friends” events and there are always some guys who go from talking to one girl to another and get visibly upset if I try to introduce myself.
Even worse, he comes with friends and then ignores his friends all night long, or always tries to separate them in conversations.”
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- Brash.
“Acting impulsively without thinking about the consequences + not like the way a condom feels = don’t sleep with this guy.” - The magician.
“Very charming. You have never met a man so charming (always grinning, ass-kiss-type, gaudy) who did not hide one or several appalling character flaws. - He acts like you’re “Just Friends” but he’s not a friend.
“I lost count of the number of times I’ve told a girlfriend that a guy ‘just a friend isn’t just a boyfriend. They never believed me, then a few months later he settled down, went on a nice guy’s engagement, and was no longer friends with her. If he always wanted to hang out with you 1 on 1, he’s especially nice to you, and he does things he wouldn’t normally do to his other friends, he’s probably not just trying to be friends.” - The Cunning Man.
“Beware the manipulator. They come in many packages but what they do hurts emotionally and mentally. They know people, and they understand what makes them tick.”
They are usually selfish and incredibly kind and a good manipulator will seem like the perfect guy at first. All it does is gather information. Easy to communicate with, gentle with strangers. ”
- Always there at your beck and call.
“Capitulating to your wants or needs at every turn at the expense of his own. Neediness alert!”
- Control.
“All the red flags I’ve seen in men…are the same red flags I’ve seen in women too. Unreliable/dominant and manipulative behavior appears to be the same in both sexes and should be approached with caution for both.”
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- The company he keeps.
“If his friends are filthy, he is filthy. Also, I hate cheaters and cheaters, and I will rank them very quickly, every time.”
