Knowing how to efficiently and quickly protect yourself from energy vampires is useful to all of us at one time or another.
Every day we have a certain amount of energy to go with. When we feel out of balance and tired, we become more stressed and even sick. We also lack energy in our daily lives as well as energy for our loved ones.
Who is an energy vampire?
An energy vampire is someone who has long-term low energy and therefore needs to replenish energy from another person. Most of the time, they do this unconsciously and unintentionally. You may be an energy vampire to someone you know without realizing it.
The important thing to keep in mind about energies is that we always repay whatever we take in. This is also true the other way around; We receive “positive attention on our energy investment” when we raise someone’s level.
How do you read the energies of others?
Think of someone you love who is usually positive and kind. How do you feel when you are in their presence? light? happy? Energetic?
Positive people have a talent for naturally uplifting others. They help you feel better when you’re losing hope, and they inspire you when you want to give up. In this case, they give you energy from a place of abundance of energy. Giving is more like sharing and spreading positive energy than giving and lacking it afterward.
Now think of someone who complains and is always negative. How do you feel when you interact with them? not so good?
Feeling unwell in their presence warns you that something is off and that their energy is hurting you. They lower your energy levels and try to steal energy from you.
Who are the energy vampires in your life?
- Your best friend is the one who talks most of the time about her difficult life and problems.
She couldn’t care less about you, the only thing she wants is for you to feel sorry for her and try to lift her (which gives her energy). If you don’t, she accuses you of being selfish and having no sympathy for her suffering. She might even stop talking to you altogether if she notices that you’re not very invested in her drama.
Just to be clear, I’m not talking about situations here where your friend is going through a hard time, and she needs you to support her — sometimes it’s okay, and that’s human. But what I’m referring to is if she’s constantly stressed out and doesn’t seek real help, but wants to complain about her situation.
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- He’s the manager who pushes you to the limits and brains if you speak.
He wants to obey you and obey you so that he can do whatever he likes with you. If you talk about him, he gets upset and puts you through hard times in the company. The moment you speak, you refuse to give your energy to him, he – as an energy vampire – needs to find another source of energy instead of you. - It’s the partner who’s always manipulating you into doing whatever he wants.
Instead of supporting your dreams, they push you down. When you want to hear that you’re beautiful, he tells you you have terrible lipstick. When she wants to “secure” a relationship with you, she gets pregnant. When you want to change your life, they tell you it doesn’t make sense and it won’t work.
- She’s a drama queen who always needs attention.
She is – but it can also be her – enhancing even the smallest things to the extreme. She wants you to interact and be emotional because only then do you give her your energy. These people love to argue just for the sake of argument. It doesn’t matter much what the topic is. - She is a victim who always feels the whole world is against her.
These people take everything personally. They don’t care why people do something; They feel it was directed against them. They can give you 1000 reasons why they have a harder time than you and why they can’t change it. We’ve all been at some point in victim mode (it’s one of the four archetypes we all share as Carolyn Mays speaks) but if we continue to feel like victims, we deny ourselves the power to change it.
I could go on for a very long time, but I want you to get the main idea of who an energy vampire is. It’s a very real thing, and we all experience them often. So it is essential to understand the dynamics between you and an energy vampire.
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How do vampires drain energy?
I want to give you a little background on how these dynamics work. In our bodies, we have energy centers called chakras.
If the chakras are balanced, we have balanced energy, we feel happy, and we are healthy. If one of them is not working properly, we feel the imbalance almost immediately.
If you say things like; Today is not my day, or I feel burdened, if I were to be you, I would check the chakras first. We feel the energy all the time, but the funny thing is that it’s so simple that we think what we’re feeling is stupid or that we made it up. Our feelings tell us very well about our energies.
Energy vampires steal our energy mostly from the first three chakras. The second chakra located below your navel connects you with everyone in your life. It creates an energy tunnel between you and the person. When you interact with someone and also think about someone, there is an exchange of energy between the two of you through this tunnel.
Ideally, it is a more or less balanced exchange of energy. Your friends help and lift you, and then you also support them when they need it. However, when it’s more like a one-way flow (one of you is mostly giving), you’re likely losing energy.
Guess how many people you can actively feed before feeling overwhelmed or feeling too exhausted?
Energy vampires in relationships
This is why it is better to have a few true friends than hundreds of not-so-good friends who take you down or just talk about you behind your back. Gossip and envy are normal in our time with perfect social accounts. Also, your virtual friends can steal energy from you if they are secretly jealous of you.
If you’ve ever been in a disharmonious relationship, chances are you’ve felt sad, weighed down, or maybe like you’re stuck in a cage. If there is a manipulative or controlling energy or if one partner gives more than the other, relationships cannot last long.
At least it can’t be a happy relationship for long. One partner absorbs the other’s energy causing the other person to lose self-confidence (the third chakra) and making them feel that it is difficult to change the situation. They feel trapped because they are leaking the energy they need to change their condition.
Energy vampires steal our energy from our chakras. The first chakra corresponds to social norms (you must study this and become this), the second chakra is about money, work, sexual energies, and personal relationships, and the third chakra is responsible for our self-confidence and boundaries (the inability to say “no” also leads to energy leakage).
You leak your energy when you have a negative emotional reaction to something.
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How to protect yourself from energy vampires?
There is a lot of information about energy protection. I would like to share with you what I do and hope it will serve you.
- Learn to say no
When you say no to someone (and you mean it), you are stopping the flow of energy between the two of you. Your energy is always at your command.
Think of a moment when you were proud of yourself for saying no to someone. Did you feel more powerful? The reason is that you have stopped donating energy to them and instead have stopped the flow. Having clear boundaries is essential to creating a balanced life. When you say yes, and know you shouldn’t, you are betraying yourself.
- Be aware of your cards
Who are the energy vampires in your life and how to protect yourself
Who are the energy vampires in your life and how to protect yourself
The reason I wrote a long post is that I want you to be more aware of your energies. The moment you know someone is stealing your energy, you can change it. They cannot do this against your free will, but it is also true that they may have a stronger will so it can take more effort to stop the flow. However, it all starts with awareness.
- Your energy stays with you
When you feel your energy leaking, you can place your hands on one of the chakras (usually the third chakra, above your belly button) and simply say in your mind that your energy stays with you. This will give the energy a clear intention to stay with you instead of leaking through the energy tunnel to the other person.
- Love is the most powerful energy
Like in fairy tales, love always wins. If you can feel love and enter the highest vibrational energy, no one will affect you. I know it’s hard to be there all the time, but you can also feel love for a while when you consciously deal with energy vampirism. They don’t want your love until they drop.
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- Cut the rope.
You can consciously cut the energy tunnels – the connections – that connect you and the other person. Imagine them right in front of you and imagine the wire connecting you. Trust your inner guidance – whatever shape or form works best for you. Then imagine a big sword (or axe) and cut the rope. Sometimes you may have to repeat this exercise.
I hope this article helped you understand basic energy dynamics. The one thing I hope you take away from this article is that you’re not weird if you feel like someone is stealing your energy – someone is likely doing just that. Listening more to our inner guidance can help us make smarter, healthier choices in life.
