Sometimes it’s good when the person you think is your soul mate in this life is not single. This may sound silly, but it is what it is. People spend years and years waiting for their soul mate, hoping for the perfect relationship and finally ending up with “The One”.

However, things don’t turn out for everyone the way they’re supposed to. It happens that sometimes even when they find them, they are not single.

Who anyway are we seeing singles these days? But isn’t the idea absurd of meeting a soul mate after all and not being able to do anything about it? Is there a plan for this many of us then?

Sometimes, people find soul mates in committed relationships or even married ones. This raises a fair doubt in their mind if the idea of a soul mate in life is even a thing.

It is illogical for fate to create a person for you who will not be with you. The absurdity of the situation seems to kill the purpose of having a soulmate.

So is there a reason for their existence? Is it required that each person have one?

When your soul mate is not single

Here is the answer to a set of queries and doubts that one has when such a situation arises in life. Everything is written in the fate of everyone. It is only fate and fate that determines when soulmates intend to meet each other.

There is a possibility that when you meet them, they are already in a relationship with someone else but this might just be to give them some clarity about what they want for themselves and what exactly they are looking for in a person they intend to be in a relationship with.

What will happen next is not so simple. Things take their course and happen when they are supposed to.

The complexity of these circumstances lies in the possibility that they will withdraw much learning and experiences from their current relationship that may be decisively beneficial in being conducive to the future relationship you will have with your soulmate.

Meeting them at a time when they are committed to another person can help them see you through a different lens and clearly articulate exactly how things will be especially when they are with you. At first, it may seem too good to be true, but later you realize the importance of such incidents.

Not everyone is comfortable with or believes in the concept of “soulmates” which is why people are rarely ready to wrap their minds around the image of being with someone they are meant to be with.

This may lead them to fear and ultimately fail to deal with the gift they have been blessed with. It is best to work through the challenges associated with a previous relationship. On the other hand, people get upset when they see soul mates in a relationship with someone else. They tend sometimes to blame themselves for these circumstances over which they have no control. They even start cursing their lives.

Little do they know about God’s plans for them. There is a big reason behind everything that happens. All you have to do is believe in yourself and believe in your destiny for the things you have no control over.

Being around them is a constant reminder of what they can get up to in their life. Your presence may be the universe’s way of showing you the right path to your soul mate.

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When people are stuck in relationships they’re not meant to be in, they need outside help and support to get out of them and realize that settling for less can be harmful to you as well as the other person.

So, as hard as it may be to see your soulmate in a relationship with another person, you were sent to be their light and strength that they might need to be free.

Getting out of a relationship can take some time, especially for people who don’t understand the concept of “soulmates.” They get entangled in an inoperable connection because of the time and emotions they’ve already invested in the other person.

They may not even give enough importance or consideration to their personal life and become detached from them. The fact that they are in love with you isn’t the only thing that would help them let go.

But as we’ve discussed, this could be part of the big preparation that is supposed to take place before the real things start. It takes a lot of patience and perseverance to change this situation.

Sometimes, you will have to come to terms with the fact that this is not everyone’s way out of a relationship simply because they are not easy to deal with. Perhaps they are not good at making the right decision for themselves and are not brave enough to take the step. Empathy and compassion come in the way of keeping your interests above the other person’s.

So what’s the right thing to do when things aren’t going the way you want them to when it seems impossible for you to change things?

Is continuing to follow the same path of pursuing them the right choice? Or is friendship all you get? Well, to tell the truth, there can be no one right answer to all these questions because it all depends on the particular circumstances. Every group of soulmates is different. What may work for some, may not work for others!

We might conclude that if your soul mate is not single, it does not mean that he is always bad. What happens is always for the great good.

You cannot allow her to become the cause of your unhappiness and it is always important to make the right choices while dealing with the ball game your boyfriend is in.