It is truly suffocating to be in a relationship with a narcissist who only cares about “me” and there is hardly any “you” in that particular relationship. It is quite clear that this type of relationship has an inevitable end and that is – separation.
However, there are many implications of these relationships that continue to haunt the second person in many ways even after a breakup.
Here are some of the most common emotional turmoil experienced by the ex-partner of a narcissist after a breakup along with some tips and tricks for dealing with the same:
- Self-obsession.
The main emotion related to the narcissist is their obsession with themselves.
This often leads to him judging his partner all the time, which is frustrating for the partner. However, this may keep coming back as a threat to the memory after its disintegration as well and one cannot get out of the phase easily. In such cases, it is wise to remind the mind that there are no narcissists around anymore, and the sooner one realizes this and moves on, the better. Usually, according to experts, three months is the average time it takes for a partner after a breakup to completely forget the narcissist.
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- The endless violations
Another major disadvantage of the narcissistic partner is facing endless abuse followed by subsequent excuses that lead to justification of the behavior by the other partner and what is even more infuriating –
It never seems to stop and it goes on and on. Even after a breakup, the habit of justifying doesn’t leave the other partner suffocated by these feelings. The only way to break free from all is to maintain absolutely “zero” contact with the hateful “narcissist”.
- Investigating faults and blame
The narcissist’s partner will always be finding fault with the other partner who will have to bear the brunt of the blocking packages due to the narcissist’s nagging.
Due to the outpouring of self-praise and at the same time, looking down on the partner will only make the other person feel frustrated and anxious. This can also be related to sex as the narcissist may be judgmental about this as well. All of these tantrums stop after a breakup even though the thoughts don’t. To discourage thoughts from coming, experts advise practicing yoga, deep breathing, aerobics, aerobics, swimming, or, in short, engaging in something every day.
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- The sudden absence of everything
After succumbing to the constant comments of an “all-perfect; narcissistic regarding holes,” a breakup can lead to a sudden absence of everything however disgusting.
It may be strange to hear it but it happens because one gets used to a type or way of living and a sudden stop can feel strange and monotonous because the excitement will not be there. However, there are ways to combat this as well with many fun and exhilarating activities that you can do nowadays which include hanging out or relaxing with friends as well. Life is free to live it to the fullest. What more could one need to be happy?
- He shies away from staying in a relationship
One can go so far as to feel ashamed of staying in a relationship with someone like a ‘narcissist’.
This can make him feel very immature, malicious, and completely worthless, and have not had the slightest bit of common sense or logic to choose a partner with the wisdom and simplicity of being deceived for the duration of the relationship. However, it’s time to calm down and understand that “mistake is human” and that a narcissist has the quality of seducing anyone with his or her charm. Anyone can fall into a false trap and learn from mistakes. No big deal with that!
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- Self-doubt after breaking up with a narcissist
The most annoying part is the self-doubt and this is caused by the repeated blows of the narcissistic partner whose only job was to constantly complain.
There was seldom any appreciation or applause for the duration of the relationship, and nothing could be more frustrating than this as this leads to low self-esteem, lack of confidence, and a mounting amount of life insecurities that don’t stop even after a breakup as well. If one can feel difficult to break free from this intense negativity, it is best to go for counseling programs, self-help programs, and therapies so that self-soothement becomes easier.
- Narcissistic partners who engage with the other partner
Narcissistic partners tend to indulge in more conciliation with the other partner as part of enjoying and exercising power over the other.
There are hardly any softer emotions like love and affection here. The intensity and volume of sex may be such that this may make the other partner feel empty and cynical after a breakup but one must combat this thought by believing in the fact that there was an absolute absence of empathy and compassion in those days and it is time to re-condition moderate human feelings again.
- Find another partner right after the breakup
The narcissist will always find another partner immediately after a breakup because the “wanting” or rather the “hunger” for everything is extreme in the narcissist and there is no such thing as feelings.
Therefore, it is very easy for him or her to forget about someone and get attached to them in no time. This may cause jealousy in the ex-partner but well, there is every way to threaten feelings of jealousy by thinking of the “poor girl” or “poor boy”, who is the narcissist’s current prey. The next feeling will be happier and happier.
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- Remorse and accompanying sadness
The regret and sadness associated with relationships with a narcissist are deeply troubling and the pain lingers in another partner even after the breakup as well.
However, one must be mentally strong enough to help the heart heal from past wounds as quickly as possible to improve it.
It’s hard to be with a narcissist, and it’s even harder to forget the painful effects, too. However, with a little effort, it is largely possible to take charge of the bright side of life!
