You feel physically attracted to each other and align with each other’s values.
You enjoy getting to know each other and learning about your differences and similarities – everything about each other feels new and exciting.
You get along like best friends – your relationship doesn’t suffer from extremes.
Your relationship is built on logical or intellectual decisions.
You resonate with each other’s beliefs, ideas, or religion/philosophy.
You both feel a sense of financial and emotional stability by being together.
Your relationship depends on you being physically present and creating new memories.
You feel the need to get married or start a family to “solidify” your relationship.
At different times in our lives, we will need and want different types of relationships. Neither one is better or worse than the other, it is all a personal decision and you will feel destined for it as long as you follow your heart.
To the person who loves me then
So it won’t be easy…
I don’t know if I’m an easy person to love, because I appreciate the love in its entirety.
I’m very guarded. I don’t trust many people. I know it has nothing to do with you. It is more about people in the past, who are gone. I know I shouldn’t judge you based on people in your past. But I loved it a lot and learned.
I love people the right way. But, not many people know how to do that or know how to respond to people who love as deeply as I do.
I love hard. Even the worst heartbreak, you won’t change that.
It’s going to be hard; We have to work on it.
I will test it for you. I’ll see if you’re worth even the love I can give. You can test me too.
Loving in the right way requires loving as an equal. I have loved many people who could not reciprocate. But the pain is okay. Being hurt means I’m taking the right chances, for something I want. But I am willing to work for the relationship that we both deserve. I know love can be the best thing we have in life. I am willing to take chances. I’m willing to risk getting hurt, hoping you’ll love me again.
But I want to do that…
I am not afraid of pain. I will give you my best. I will love you the right way.
Love is a kind of gamble and I’ll be the first to admit that I love to play the game. But I promise I will play the right game. I will never play you. I will not consider your feelings. I will never intentionally hurt you. I am a shooter in a world full of liars. Of the many things I’m good at, this is what I like best.
Because I want you. I want every one of you.”
I want you. I want us to make it. I want us to experience the relationships they write about. I’ve been there once. I know what it takes to get there. It requires faith in each other. It’s a bit of a risk. It’s kind of weak. It is a kind of letting go of caution and blindly trusting someone. It was letting someone know about the past that hurt you.
I’ll tell you about the scars of the past. I’ll tell you about the wounds. I’ll tell you about the things that went wrong. And when I trust you enough to tell you these things, you will love me even more because I put up with it.
When you trust me, I’ll teach you to dance with your skeletons. I will teach you to love your past, rather than resent it. I will kiss you at your worst and show you how to love someone that way.
If you are willing to take this chance, I promise it will be worth it. You are in for one hell of a ride.
I ask for some things, be patient with me. I am very careful. Trust me first, then I will come back and trust you. Love me and I promise I will love you deeper. Love me truly and I will teach you to love better.
I am not an easy person to love. But that’s because I know how to do it the right way. In a world that teaches us to love only half of our hearts, I don’t do that kind of thing.
I am the girl who will love you in ways you never knew were possible. And when I do, that’s the standard against which you’ll compare everyone else, too. Your life will never be the same