I often joke about narcissists and their ability to make anyone feel miserable.

I know you appreciate my straightforward approach to these people, but let’s not get sidetracked.

Narcissists are bad.

They really are.

I wish they weren’t, but every one of them holds their victims psychologically hostage, causing them so much pain and grief.

It’s time to get to the bottom of it, and what they’re doing is horrific.

Why Is It Horrible?

If you ask a narcissist this question, they’ll ask what you’re talking about.

They’ll insistently tell you they’re a good person, and that you have a problem.

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If you ask me why narcissists are so bad, I’ll give you an honest answer.

Because narcissists are bad, they find their purpose. They don’t fit in anywhere else, no matter how hard they try.

They want attention and admiration; They want people to kneel at their feet just to be near them.

They love crowds and act like the perfect social butterfly, but deep down, they’re filled with hate and horrible behavior.

Remember Who You’re Dealing With!

It’s always a good reminder, isn’t it? Narcissists are capable of hurting you and those you love.

They can easily reach deep within you and tear your identity from the depths of your being.

They love making people miserable, and they’ll pit you against your best friends. Your parents. Your siblings.

They sleep soundly at night, even though they’re causing physical and mental suffering to others. They wake up without any guilt creeping into their bodies.

You’re essentially dealing with someone who’s just a few steps away from becoming a complete psychopath.

1 Erasing Your Identity

First, we have erasing your identity. It goes without saying that your identity is the most important part of you, yet it’s the very thing narcissists want to take away.

They don’t want you to think for yourself. Your hobbies mean nothing to them, and ultimately, they aim to make them mean nothing to you, too.

They hate the way you dress, how much you love running in the morning, and how much you enjoy the holiday season.

It’s a completely destructive concept because it completely empties you out, yet narcissists pride themselves on their ability to reduce you to nothingness, so you can just live to obey, nod, and smile.

2 Mental Health: When It Doesn’t Matter

Do you even matter…? We’ve already established that you don’t, so why does your mental health matter?

When a narcissist manages to get involved in other people’s affairs, they’ll tear your mental health apart and laugh at you while you try to stay above the surface.

You can’t understand why you’re constantly feeling down. You suddenly feel like you’re walking on eggshells, especially when you’re around the narcissist.

You can’t help but lie awake at night worrying about what the next day will bring, or what mood the narcissist will reveal to you.

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Will you be able to do anything right? What decisions will you make that will inevitably be wrong in their eyes?

They will do it again and again.

And you’ll never get better as long as you stay in the environment that made you sick. #3 Turning People Against You

I don’t want to ignore this. It really hurts.

People spend their lives building and maintaining important—even crucial—relationships.

Lovers, trusted friends, strong sources of support—and all it takes is one narcissist.

You know, they complain about you all the time.

They hate it when you call them so much.

I think they’re tired of hearing about your problems.

I know you love it, but they don’t really love it. Even when they say so.

It takes a seed planted for it to grow out of control. You don’t see it happening. You discover it later, and by then, it’s often too late.

Narcissists don’t care how awful what they do is; they simply don’t care.

Don’t say I didn’t warn you.

4 They Block You From Life

What do you really want from life? What did you want before you met the narcissist? What have you become since you’ve known them?

Many of you may have hopes, dreams, goals, and ambitions. What do you do with them while you’re in the company of a narcissist?

It’s hard to imagine yourself achieving what you want while you’re still in a relationship with a narcissist.

What a terrible thing to submit to! Knowing that your life has become smaller, worse, and less bright simply because you know a narcissist who hates to see you thrive.

You are more than just someone with a chance to live. You have a chance to live your happiness, your purpose. You can’t do that if you keep letting them creep in.

5 Stolen Time You Can’t Get Back

One of the hard truths to face is that, quite frankly, you’ll never get back the time you spent with a narcissist.

6 Energy Vampires

I believe our energy is finite. It’s not eternal, and there comes a time when we feel like we’re being drained of our energy.

Does this resonate with you?

What about your energy? Is it gone, or do you still have some?

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The worst thing about succumbing to an energy vampire is that it doesn’t happen quickly. It’s very slow, like the dripping of a leaky faucet, which eventually corrodes the sink it’s in. It takes time, but only when the damage is done do you realize how long it’s been.

7 Costly Healing Time

I often hear and see resentment from people who invest in healing.

Whether it’s therapy (and I never take that personally!), finding ways to help them sleep, subscribing to meditation apps, or joining a gym to improve their mental health, it can cost them money.

Whether it’s small or large, victims can be robbed of what you could have spent on other things to improve your mental health.

But, you know? It can only be good if it ultimately makes you a better, stronger person.

You have to give, and sometimes that means finding the right resources for your journey to better health.