If you’ve ever wondered what it would be like to live just one day in the life of a narcissist, look no further. Here are five common weaknesses shared by all narcissists that cause them chaos and pain:
They Are Addictive
Because their sense of self is entirely built on a constant stream of narcissistic gratification, a narcissist is essentially addicted. Deep down, they crave attention, flattery, and favors. Without them, they experience terrifying existential anxiety and confront the specter of their underlying trauma and toxic shame.
A narcissist may appear calm and in control on the surface, but a prolonged period of indifference or neglect is enough to reveal their true nature.
Because of their intense dependence on narcissistic gratification, narcissists are susceptible to flattery. Feign helplessness, praise them, and obey their commands, and they will portray themselves as your savior and shower you with their time. Being their source of inspiration is the best way to control them, while cutting off that inspiration is the best way to plunge them into crisis and chaos.
They Live In A Fantasy
Narcissists have difficulty seeing others and engaging with reality. They have gaps in their memory, see people as they wish them to be, and ignore important details. This leads to a lot of dysfunction and frustration because the world they see is an illusion and doesn’t respond as they expect.
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As a result, people feel frustrated and confused by narcissists. Society encourages us to be sociable, so people give narcissists a second chance. But deep down, they sense something is off, and it’s only a matter of time before they turn away from the narcissist and their distorted view of the world.
Borderline Personality
The borderline personality is the narcissist’s Achilles’ heel, their greatest vulnerability. The narcissist can’t help but fall for the borderline personality’s charm and feigned helplessness. Initially, the borderline personality is full of energy and enthusiasm, giving the narcissist a surge of narcissistic energy. The borderline personality loves to feign innocence, which aligns with the narcissist’s superiority complex and allows them to play the role of savior. The borderline personality is often sexually active and tends to live in a world of fantasy. The two seem made for each other.
But the narcissist soon tastes the bitterness of their actions, becoming subjected to countless forms of abuse in the borderline personality’s chaotic world. Emotional manipulation, constant push and pull, and relentless drama all contribute to the narcissist’s downfall and drive them to escape.
Their Fate: Cutting All Bridges
Narcissists carry immense psychological trauma, which is why they rely on fantasy to cope with the world. Because they don’t deal with reality, this fantasy quickly fades, leaving the narcissist frustrated and angry.
The narcissist’s typical reaction is to blame others, abruptly and harshly cutting ties to cope with the failure of their fantasy. Because they haven’t looked inward for the root of the problem, the narcissist repeats this cycle again and again, until they exhaust everyone in their life and abandon them, leaving them resentful and alone.
They Never Stop Being Better
The narcissist avoids feeling ashamed at all costs. Whenever someone else demonstrates success or expresses an opinion, the narcissist perceives it as a threat and quickly responds with their own opinion or boasts about their own success. This alienates others and prevents the narcissist from forming meaningful relationships.
