If you think that by ignoring the narcissist you have saved yourself from him, remember that this is just the tip of the iceberg. A lot of things will happen after that. It’s safe to say it’s just the beginning.
You think you’ve gotten rid of him forever, but his anger and rage at being ignored will spread and he’ll become worse than he already was.
Narcissists don’t know how to love anyone because deep down they are emotionally disabled. They may have experienced trauma or some kind of mistake when they were younger that led them to become insensitive beings, severely lacking in empathy.
So, when you are ignoring a narcissist, be prepared for the fight of your life because this is the time for them! Their behavior will escalate because their ego cannot handle the reality of their rejection.
When you cut off contact with him and prevent him from communicating, he will feel intense pain from the rejection. You see, narcissists feed off your energy. They suck you dry and they have to do this to survive.
Narcissists don’t know how to love anyone because deep down they are emotionally disabled. They may have experienced trauma or some mistake when they were younger that led them to become insensitive beings, severely lacking in empathy.
So, when you are ignoring a narcissist, be prepared for the fight of your life because this is the time for them! Their behavior will escalate because their ego cannot handle the reality of their rejection.
When you cut off contact with him and prevent him from communicating, he will feel intense pain from the rejection. You see, narcissists feed off your energy. They suck you dry and they have to do this to survive.
So, when you deprive them of their source of life (you), they will not be happy about it. It’s hard to say what will happen next but be prepared for anything and everything.
They will come to you with everything they have. They will insult you to others.
They will stalk you and find any excuse to talk to you. And if you allow them to get close to you, they will have no problem creeping back into your life and manipulating you again.
If you are in a situation where you cannot contact a narcissist because you work with them, or because they are a family member, or you have children with them and you have no choice but to stay in contact with them, giving them no reason to approach you or talk to you about anything but everyday matters The usual.
They will try to engage you in conversations by pretending that they are genuinely interested in your situation and what is going on in your life, but be strong and answer in as few words as possible.
Be attractive as a gray rock, which is to say: be boring as hell. Show them that you are no longer interested and that they will not benefit from being manipulated.
This is called the Gray Rock Method and it usually works but only if you follow all the rules.
You cannot afford to make even a simple mistake when dealing with a narcissist because it could cost you your life and all the effort you invested in the healing process will be in vain.
But first, how do we ignore the narcissist in the first place? Follow the rule step by step so you can get to the stage of dealing with them next.
- Ignore it
It’s like dealing with a bully. If you don’t give them a reason to choose you, they won’t. Be as uninteresting as possible.
They will try to provoke you. They will use every means possible to get a reaction from you, but you have to stay strong. You have to resist their manipulations and turn a deaf ear to their insults and harsh words.
Even if the things they tell you are not true, which they are not, you should not fall into their trap and try to defend yourself.
Swallow them and ignore them. After some time, they will see that they no longer have any power over you and will leave you alone.
But, until you get there, just be strong and don’t let them provoke you or get close to you.
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- Do not seek revenge
You will hurt them the most by not giving them your attention. If the circumstances were normal and you were hurt by a non-narcissist, your first reaction would be revenge.
You may want to get even with the person who hurt you. But this tactic will not work with a narcissist.
By reaching out to them and trying to hurt them, you are setting yourself up to get hurt again by their narcissistic abuse tactics. Contact is all they need to crawl back into your life and manipulate you all over again.
If you want to hurt him, you need to start the healing process and ignore him while you do it. This is what will destroy him the most.
You should not pay any attention to him and show him that his life does not matter to you. Don’t try to figure out what he was doing or if he was hurting without you.
Don’t ask or try to see for yourself. This will give him importance and a reason to hit you again.
Just close it and erase it from your mind completely. This is the only way to beat him once and for all.
- Don’t quarrel with him
This is just the taste. It’s his tactic to try to find out if you still like him or not. He will provoke you and drive you crazy with false accusations.
He doesn’t even have to say it to your face. He will use your friends and social media to get into your head. The worst thing you can do is respond to his provocations.
Let it slide and ignore everything he says about you. If you’re worried about what others will say about his lies, don’t worry.
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The people who are important to you and who love you know what happened and who the victim is and will never turn their backs on you. And those who do, screw them, you don’t need them anyway.
- Don’t serve them your energy on a plate
Usually, people fill their energy with positive things. They surround themselves with friends and use love and positive thoughts to restore their energy.
But narcissists do the opposite. They recharge themselves through someone else’s pain and suffering. They need chaos in their lives to feel happy and fulfilled.
Narcissists are not happy with themselves. They are miserable and that is why they cannot bear the happiness of others.
They need chaos and chaos around them so that they feel that they are not the only ones miserable. And there are others.
The problem is that they are the cause of the suffering of the people around them. So when you take the bait and engage in discussions with them, you are only feeding them and raising their energy levels through pain and frustration.
Don’t allow them to provoke you and create pain that fuels them and makes them stronger. Be happy and be positive. Hurt them that way.
- You are the main character in this story
You’re the good guy and he’s the bad guy. The story is supposed to end well for you because good always trumps evil.
He may have chances to beat you, but in the end, you are stronger than him. You don’t have to keep searching for tools and trying to find solutions to get rid of it.
He’s been inside you all this time. You are the main tool to beat him. Be honest with yourself and understand that nothing and no one can hurt you if you don’t let them.
Use the goodness in your heart and use all the love you have against it. Love yourself because that is the best revenge you can get.
Respect yourself and he will never come back to hurt you. Turn your nightmare into a beautiful story with a happy ending. You are the only one who has the power to do this.
