Les techniques de micromanipulation sont des astuces dangereuses que les narcissiques utilisent pour gagner ou reprendre le contrôle des autres. Cette tactique subtile et manipulatrice est souvent utilisée par les narcissiques lorsqu’ils découvrent que leur victime essaie de se débarrasser d’eux.
Il est assez facile de repérer les tendances narcissiques courantes, de l’éclairage au gaz à la compulsion. Cependant, ils ont aussi quelques astuces plus subtiles dans leur manche qui ne sont pas si faciles à repérer. Si vous êtes enraciné dans une relation avec un narcissique, faites attention à ces cinq signes subtils de micromanipulation.
Narcissiques et manipulateurs
Les narcissiques déforment souvent les faits et modifient les récits pour garder une emprise sur leurs victimes. Ils utilisent des informations personnelles et sensibles pour profiter de leurs partenaires, amis ou parents et chaque fois que le narcissique découvre qu’ils ont perdu l’attention qu’ils recevaient auparavant, ils recourent à la manipulation. Dans la plupart des cas, la manipulation est simple ; Les menaces de suicide ou tout type d’automutilation, donner de faux espoirs ou falsifier l’avenir sont tous différents types d’astuces de manipulation qui visent à garder la victime piégée.
What is microprocessing?
Microprocessing techniques are short and indirect, which makes it difficult for the victim to recognize these behavioral patterns and discover ways to avoid or counteract them. These tactics are primarily intended to appeal to the caring or sympathetic nature of the victim, who is trying to escape the manipulator. Narcissists usually have inflated egos and tend to reject any kind of rejection. So they adopt petty manipulative actions to portray the situation of the hapless victim they consider to be self-centered, gain sympathy, and keep their dysfunctional relationships alive.
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5 Signs that you are a victim of micromanipulation
Because direct manipulation techniques are easier to identify, the victim of a narcissist can choose to leave or stay in the relationship, but when it comes to petty aggressive behavior, emotional abuse is hard to notice. But if you pay close attention, you will see one or more of these five telltale signs of narcissistic abuse:
- Short and casual comments with serious connotations
One good way to micro manipulate is to include short, casual notes that carry heavy overtones of pretension or other serious emotion. An example of this point would be a narcissist singing the praises of his best friend’s girlfriend, only to make his girlfriend feel guilty for not being supportive enough or not being nice enough, in short, not meeting his toxic demands. - Innocent but attentive pursuit of actions
There can be actions that may seem harmless but may draw your attention and make you question the narcissist’s intention. For example, you get a text message from your ex-girlfriend which was not meant for you but has some information regarding her current status. The message might read that the aforementioned ex is miserable, in a relationship, or something out of context. Once she piques your interest and asks her what’s going on, bam! You are tied back into the drama.
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- Arouse sympathy or sympathy
Sometimes the delicately manipulated person ends up feeling sorry for the abuser. Just as a toxic mother wants to be invited to her estranged daughter’s wedding, she might ask a letter asking where the daughter is and cleverly slip a comment about how bad it is with her new boyfriend. Her intention is simply to elicit sympathy and get her daughter to start talking to her again. - Difficulty having easy conversations
You will never suspect when casual chatting becomes a life-or-death situation with a narcissist. As if they have a superpower to connect everything with their life accidents and somehow most of their life accidents have some kind of trauma. Maybe you’re having a discussion with your ex about an upcoming field trip for your son and suddenly he’ll drop a bomb saying he might be fired soon or lose an important client. Obviously, it would be a lie.
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- Nobody else matters
When dealing with a narcissist, the most common behavioral tendency that keeps popping up time and time again is that nothing and nobody matters. Narcissists like to be the center of attention in every area of their lives and the well-being of others doesn’t matter so much to them. Another sure sign of emotional abuse that you can’t miss is that the abuser demands to be the central figure in every plan, idea, or goal in your life.
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Let’s look at some useful tips for dealing with micromanipulation:
Find out if microaggression is an unintended one-off or a pattern of behavior.
If it’s normal, letting the person go is the best option.
Don’t try to fix the manipulator; They will only benefit from your love.
If necessary, seek help from family, friends, or a support group to get away.
Consult a mental health professional.
It’s not too late
If you are a victim of these mental tricks mentioned above, don’t be hard on yourself. It is not easy to understand the twisted mind of a narcissist. Your fears and weaknesses would have remained safely in the hands of the right person, but even if you fall prey to a narcissist and allow them to take advantage of your good nature, it’s never too late. You can cut ties with a toxic person regardless of the nature and duration of your relationship. Prioritize your well-being and don’t let anyone make you feel guilty about choosing your happiness.
