Relationships are never a perfect balance, but there should always be some give and take.
If you are in a completely one-sided relationship, this is a confusing and hurtful situation.
But sometimes, you don’t realize how bad things are until you honestly look at your partner’s actions.
If the following happens, it means that the person you love is treating you like an afterthought.
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lets take alook…
1) I expect you to do everything
If your partner expects you to do everything, he doesn’t value you.
They may say they love and care about you and can’t bear to lose you:
But they certainly don’t show it.
Watch for this bias even in the early stages of the relationship.
It can start very small, with your partner refusing to adjust their schedule or demanding that you spend more than them when you do things together.
No relationship will ever be perfectly balanced, but it should always contain an element of reciprocity!
2) Ignore your emotions and well-being
Part of reciprocity is the emotional connection between you.
If your partner rarely asks how you’re doing or only does it out of obligation, he or she is treating you like an afterthought.
This is very common in relationships, including marriage, where your partner may have become accustomed to your presence and have begun to take you for granted.
They don’t seem to care what you’re doing, and even when you’re struggling they ignore it…
As for the physical aspect of reciprocity, here we come to the next relationship issue…
3) Being selfish in bed or ignoring you sexually
Sexual compatibility is a very neglected aspect of a mutual relationship.
For starters, it’s ideal that you are both attracted to each other much more than any other cute guy you meet on the street.
Second, your partner should care about what you like in bed.
If your partner only cares about getting rid of himself (or herself) and leaves you lying there feeling exploited, he or she is treating you like a glorified dildo or body light.
If they completely ignore you, it’s even worse.
In such a scenario, you can’t be blamed if you ask what makes your relationship different from a friendship or co-worker connection of some kind.
4) Lying about addiction and misconduct
Disrespect is a major sign that you are low on your partner’s radar.
When they lie to you over and over again, it’s a way of not letting you in.
Making promises they don’t keep is another big red warning light:
But there’s a reason this confuses some people.
This is because a partner who gives in to addiction or bad behavior can always say that he is giving in to his weakness.
And maybe that’s true!
But they often don’t honor the promise they made to you because they don’t love you enough. Instead, they don’t fear the consequences if they write you checks they can’t cash.
5) She barely communicates and expects you to read your mind
Another way your partner can treat you very low on his list of priorities is with silence.
Not only will they ignore or belittle how you feel, they won’t communicate with you about how they feel.
They will expect you to read their minds, and use their moods as a weapon against you.
What does this mean?
They will expect you to know the reason for their bad mood or suggest that it is your fault…
They will get excited and demand that you join in their festive mood even if you are struggling with other things.
It’s immature and stupid and it’s enough to make you want to end it on your end. You are treated like a prop.
This links to the next point…
6) Blaming you for any problems that arise
You cannot take responsibility for everything your partner goes through and vice versa.
Sometimes they may feel upset because of something you did or didn’t do.
But your expectation to take ownership of their emotions crosses the line and turns into codependency.
Instead of confronting what’s going on or telling you they’re upset, which is honest and mature, they say you should be responsible for making them feel good.
It’s a vicious cycle in which you are put in the backseat of your own life and are expected to lead your partner’s life for them.
It’s bullshit, and it also leads down a dark path where your partner may start blaming you for everything and anything that goes wrong in their life.
Then you become their emotional punching bag and end up in an abusive relationship.
7) Making fun of you in front of others
Having a partner make jokes about you in front of others is very humiliating.
After all, this is the person you share your life with and care about.
It’s supposed to laugh with you, right?
The last thing you want to do is look uncomfortable or confront them for their mean behavior in public.
But this is exactly why some people do it:
Because they know they can get away with making fun of you in public while you can’t defend yourself.
It’s dirty behavior, but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen.
If this happens, you can be pretty sure that you are at the bottom of your partner’s list of priorities and that he doesn’t love you (or at least doesn’t respect you!)
8) Letting themselves go
None of us can expect our partner to remain in exactly the same physical condition or habits as they were when we met them.
But the habit of abandoning oneself is very frustrating.
If your partner doesn’t take care of himself, doesn’t practice basic hygiene, or doesn’t do any kind of physical exercise, you have reasons to complain.
It’s not just that they’re less physically (and emotionally) fun to be around…
The problem is that their self-esteem and well-being suffer as a result of not taking care of themselves and you are expected not to care.
But you love them, so of course you care!
And if they care about you, they’ll take care of themselves, or at least they’ll worry about why they don’t…
9) Not making any plans for the future with you
Future plans can be scary, but if your partner thinks of you as a priority, he or she will at least not be afraid to discuss the topic.
The content of those future plans may remain very unclear and vague.
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But discussing the future in general shouldn’t scare them too much.
Even if the relationship is fairly new, for example, they should at least be open to talking about their general plans for the future or what they want from the relationship in general.
That’s not too much to ask.
Being someone’s priority
Being someone’s priority doesn’t mean they only think about you day and night.
It doesn’t mean you’re doing it for them.
