Today I want to talk about the signs that you are with a covert or shy narcissist.
A covert narcissist is different from an overt or classic narcissist, which is why this information is so important today.
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There are signs that will highlight the fact that you are in a relationship with a shy or secret narcissist and I want to recognize them now.
If he does these six things, he is a covert narcissist:
- You are being manipulated
You are being manipulated mentally and emotionally, they use crude methods of manipulation, they are not CIA geniuses.
I think a lot of times we want to believe that because you can’t see the forest through the trees and also because we have a little bit of an ego that says if we’re being manipulated, it must be some sort of military, top-secret kind of manipulation, not something like this. The tribe. But unfortunately, you are dealing with someone who deals with a lower level of emotional intelligence.
- They have a lot of self-doubt
They have a lot of self-doubt, are outwardly depressed, and have a low energy level—all of which are the opposite of an overt or classic narcissist. Remember, the classic narcissist is that alpha male or alpha female, as opposed to the covert narcissist.
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- Stress really messes with them
Stress puts them in a dizzy state because they are highly vulnerable to it. They are highly susceptible to stress, have difficulty with criticism and love a lot of sympathy. They like to tell you a lot of painful stories and remember the opposite, the classic narcissist who doesn’t want your sympathy. - Anger is a big topic in their lives
The first emotion that comes from them when they are pushed is anger. It’s not just sadness, it’s not something different. It is anger because anger flares up. They are actually angry internally.
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- They often know that the image they have created is not real
They are very different from that classic narcissist, they know that they are actually living a lie. For this reason, they are worried that this lie will be exposed. They stress about it and internally believe that they don’t deserve anything. Hence the basis of the shy and hidden narcissist. - They have the right to self
This is a really interesting warning. They have subjective rights, but conversely, they have serious self-image issues and self-worth issues, so they feel less worthy. They’re not confident, but rightfully so, this can be a very interesting dynamic.
With anything, consider these six tips and these six nuances and flags. There is a wide spectrum, so it is not one size fits all with the covert or shy narcissist.
Remember, once someone takes responsibility for their actions and life, they can overcome anything. So this is not a problematic situation in your relationship. You can actually talk to your colleague and maybe they can actually get some help and start releasing that anger and uncover why you were creating this false air in the first place.
If that doesn’t work, you may have to move on. But in the meantime, this is an indicator that you are with a shy or covert narcissist and I hope you are living your real life today.
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