When you live in the suburbs, you cannot avoid the discontent of adults, especially parents. Complaints tend to the center of time deficit. Starting 35 minutes every morning, it is necessary to throw children on each shoulder, stick to a toothbrush in their mouths, push the pancakes, and wear their clothes as if you had gave birth to models.
I can overwhelm you with scientific data on how parents working today are eliminated in caring for children than parents at home in the fifties. I can present to you the reasons for this social transformation with additional scientific data. Instead, I read a short story of Simon Rich, who takes the defective views of the fathers in the modern era. Think about an excerpt from “what is going on in my mind when I am at home alone (from my mom’s perspective)”:
Well, my mother left me home alone … ah … dinner time. There is a tupperware container full of pasta in the refrigerator, but it is cold! How will I heat it? I think I will starve and die because I am not qualified enough to warm the pasta. Stop! Note tells me to put the container in the microwave and press an easy minute! Thanks, note! You saved my life.
Common regularly how adults reduce children’s intelligence. Unless you yourself are interested in answering, do not ask my children, “How is the school?” Now, if you want to ask them if they believed that Jordan Bell in the United States had a more powerful political message than going out, or what makes Billy Illish stand out by other musicians or their ideal country to live in the side of the United States. Our misconception of children’s intelligence has severe consequences – and I am not talking about consequences for children, but for adults who hope to live their lives alongside they are fathers.
This leads me to love. Yes, you can measure love. Not completely, but it can be measured. You already know this because you can arrange your neighbors in terms of the amount you think are still in love with each other, and to provide convincing justifications. But the reason I want to talk about love now is that we sold a story that definitely fades in long -term relationships. The intimate relationship strengthens. Friendship enhances. But romance? This is for teenagers with small black books full of poems.
A few scientists have recently asked whether this descending slide was real, and if so, what is the extent of its prevalence? For those husbands who keep romantic and emotional love, how do they differ from others?
My first guide in psychology, Arthur Aaron, his colleagues, Bianca Asifido, Dan Olieri, and others found some answers.
Kham: How common people are in the relationships that last at least a contract to report that they are in a state of severe love? zero? It may not happen. From two to three percent? A rare and strange occurrence deserves the zoo gallery. From twenty to twenty five percent? A decent piece of husbands pulled it. Or is it more common, but it was kept under the winding of the rest of society?
If you are thinking that the injury was greater than 25 %, give yourself a license to absorb Strubaville with a spisal size without guilt. In a representative sample at the national level of adults in the United States, out of 274 years, she married 46.3 % of women and 49 % of men reported that they were “in a state of severe love.”
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The results have changed accordingly to the period in which she married, with a great diving in intense love in a 10 to 20-year window-perhaps when children appeared, and they absorb all IOTA of the energy and time their parents possess. Or is parents the problem? (See the shape below.)
At a time when scientists realize that the results should not be trusted until they are repeated, these researchers conducted a second study to reduce any doubts. In the second study, 807 random adults from New York and 396 who were married, 33.3 % said they were “in an intense love.” As in the first study, married people were less than 10 years of romantic love than two or three decades or more.
This is the time when you should ask the basic question: Why should I care? I will tell you why. These three behaviors had the strongest links with the severity of love:
- I spend almost a time every day with my partner in enjoyable activities such as cooking together, watching TV, or walking together.
- I feel that my body responds when my partner touches me.
- I sometimes find it difficult to focus because my partner’s ideas are in my mind.
It looks good, right? Especially the first two. The third is a little strange, as I want to put the exercise in my chest, check the blue sad during the rowing, and accomplish some writing.
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But there is more: people feel more growing as a person after associating with partners who offer a way for normal and intense love. Their knowledge, wisdom, social network, values, philosophies, and perspectives expand themselves. They become larger, better, and stronger because of their ability to extract their partner as well as share their lives in accumulating with them.
Pay attention to your children. Watch March Madness games. Go walking long distances, drink, and global travel with your friends. And when the question arises, “Does a long-term relationship kill romantic love?” Remember that for a large minority of people, the answer is no. Therefore, since you are not convicted, invest your time and energy with your romantic partner with greater wisely.
