Do you see a married man?

It can be an exciting, intense, and at times hair-raising experience.

One moment you think he’s really in love with you, the next you feel like he can’t care less about you.

Here are the top signs that you will never be more than fun for a married man.

Watch out for these annoying signs.

14 Blatant signs a married man is using you

1) He doesn’t open up to you at all
One of the worst glaring signs a married man uses is that he remains a closed book.

Even if you’ve been seeing each other for months, he’s emotionally distant.

It might make a person make an occasional offhand comment about their life.

Or tell you some basic biographical details.

But he is somewhat apart from you in terms of his thoughts, feelings, and private life.

He just shows up looking for some fun, intimate time with you and then makes out shortly after.

Even the times you spend together last longer, you may find yourself thinking and realizing that only you have opened up.

This kind of one-sided arrangement is not enough to satisfy anyone.

2) He only calls when he wants to have sex
The most blatant sign that a married man is annoying is when he only invites you to have sex.

He is sweet as pie when he gets what he wants.

But if you’re just not in the mood or just busy when it’s fun, all of a sudden the magic stops.

cool you down.

He may not answer calls for a number of days, or give a faint smile the next time you see him.

These types of toxic games and events are enough to drive anyone crazy and make you want to completely cut off contact.

The problem is that if you’ve developed some feelings for him, you may find that that’s a lot easier said than done.

Having sex with someone you care about and respect can be a great experience, but it’s a whole lot different when you see that it’s purely transactional and physical for them.

3) He has no intention of leaving his wife for you

A married man’s request or expectation to leave his wife for you will usually end in bitter disappointment.

It is very rare.

But this does not mean that a man cannot be seduced.

When he really falls for you and appreciates your company, he’ll have a hard time turning you down for something more serious.

This is why one of the telltale signs a married man uses is that he doesn’t even pretend that he’s thinking of changing his life for you.

Every moment with him is crystal clear that this is just foreplay.

There is not even a hint of temptation for him to turn his life upside down.

He has you stray into just the right category.

You’re a side part, and he’ll never think of making big changes to be with you.

It’s not comforting to know, is it?

4) He uses you as an emotional vessel
In addition to using you as a physical vessel (yuck), a married man who just takes advantage of you will empty you emotionally.

This can include constantly complaining and venting about you…

He crawls up to you when he’s down and expects to be cared for and petted like a little seal pup…

Otherwise, he demands that you provide comfort, advice, and encouragement to him while he is going through the vicissitudes of life.

This is bonded and sticky behavior on his part if he never returns the favor.

If it’s reciprocal and you find the bond meaningful, that’s fair enough, but keep in mind that if it’s one-sided, that’s usually intentional on his part.

He wants you there for him when he’s down, but when you are, he’s a million miles away.

5) It leads you to sex and intimacy
There is a twist on the previous points when a man is only married for sex and emotional comfort, but he hints at something more and leads you on.

He can tell you’re more attached than he is, so he’s fueling these wild hopes as a way to get an endless supply of intimacy from you.

This is ridiculous, and we hope you don’t go through with it.

But keep in mind that some cheaters are very mysterious people, and they can engage in some really emotionally manipulative behaviour.

I’m not saying this applies to all married men who cheat, but it is certainly behavior that some of them engage in.

They exploit you in hopes of getting something more, dropping hints that they “maybe” would like it someday too…

But all they really do is hit the snooze button.

Emotional manipulation is a common trait in narcissistic people, and if you’re dealing with a married man who does things like this, you’d better get away from him ASAP.

6) He ignores what you say to him
One of the big and blatant signs a married man uses is that he ignores what you say.

He doesn’t remember, rarely makes eye contact, and usually just shrugs, grunts, or says things like “yeah, sure” and “sure” to whatever you say.

If he acts like this, he doesn’t give shape.

You can tell yourself that this is his kind of strong and cool personality.

But in the vast majority of cases, it’s a guy who doesn’t care about you and is just using you as a bit of fun on the side.

If he doesn’t care what you say or pay attention to, don’t make excuses for him.

Maybe he’s had a busy day, maybe he’s stressed, maybe he’s had a few drinks.

But if he wanted to listen, he would.

Harsh but true.

7) He often cancels your meetings at the last minute
One of the other blatant signs a married man uses is when he constantly calls you off at the last minute.

He puts his wife and family before you, and understandably so.

But he also puts his work before you…

friend’s birthday…

Exclusive discounts in a store that loves this only offer for today…

And whatever else needs to be done at the moment from an oil change to a haircut.

Come last, come later.

He’s not even trying to hide it, though he might try to exaggerate the importance of what he’s throwing at you.

Don’t accept these kinds of excuses.

If he’s been keeping you as a backup plan and canceling you all the time, you have the right to put your foot down and let him know that it’s not how you allow yourself to be treated.

8) He keeps you a secret even from his friends
If you are seeing a married man, it makes sense that he would want to maintain secrecy.

If he doesn’t tell his wife and you two are having an affair, he’ll have every reason to make sure your time together stays low key.

However, one blatant sign a married man uses is that he is completely obsessed with keeping you a secret.

He doesn’t even introduce you if his best friend video calls you while he’s with you, or he’ll deny knowing you if you share mutual friends.

If you’re together, he may intentionally act like he doesn’t like you or has no idea who you are.

He may also avoid going out with you in public, eating in public, and going anywhere he can be seen by someone he knows is a married man.

He might also spray tan, use makeup where his ring is, or do other oddly tricky things to disguise that he’s married in case the hotel receptionist notices.

In short: He tries so hard to hide any contact with you that he almost feels ashamed.

And he may be ashamed: of cheating, of being caught.

But that’s a lot to live with, and being the target of this kind of shame can lead to a lot of issues.

9) He asks you for a lot of favors
This item can be true in several cases. This is especially true when you’re talking about a married man you’re seeing.

The reason is that as a married man he is not committed to you.

Yet he still often asks you for great favors.

This could include:

money loans
Ride to get places
Advice on crucial and time-sensitive issues
medical assistance or advice
Help with buying groceries or produce
Help with moving, cleaning, or doing other tasks
If he’s gotten you into these kinds of roles, his favorites are a little over the top.

No matter how much you like it, think of the “trade balance”.

Have you ever asked him for a favor? If so, what is the approximate percentage?

10) He never makes you a priority, even once
As I mentioned earlier, one of the most glaring signs a married man uses is that he always puts you last.

It is important to note that this is a trend that may happen slowly.

At first, there may not be a real situation where you notice how he thinks of you or how much of a priority you have.

The times he refuses to meet up because he’s busy or has something else commitment don’t take it personally, and you move on.

But as your time with this guy increases and you start to have feelings, pay attention to where you are under the pecking order.

It’s common for romantic feelings to sometimes blind us from objective facts.

Manipulators know this, which is why they often give lame excuses for their wrong behavior and are accepted by those who love them.

If a married man is using you, you will know because he never makes you a priority.

Even if you need urgent help or have an emergency, you’ll notice that they pass you on to someone else or tell you to call the authorities.

11) It’s sexually irresponsible and reckless at your expense

Another one of the unfortunate and blatant signs a married man uses is that he is sexually reckless.

What do I mean by this?

I mean, he doesn’t care about using protection, he hardly cares about what precautions you may or may not take, and he doesn’t seem more or less interested in discussing sexual safety.

You might suggest that it’s a risk for him too if he doesn’t know you well, which is absolutely true.

If a guy doesn’t seem to care about using protection or getting pregnant, you have to wonder how many other women he acts this way towards too.

At the same time, his indifference to your well-being shows that you are nothing more than a sex toy for him.

If he doesn’t seem to care at all about sexual responsibility, then this isn’t a guy you want to spend a lot of time around unless he changes his ways drastically.

12) He openly checks out and flirts with other women around you
Another one of the blatant signs a married man uses is that he checks out other women when he’s around you.

And most importantly, if he is cheating on you and his wife, this is further evidence that you mean little to him and he doesn’t respect you very much.

However, it can be hard to tell if he’s cheating on you, too.

For this reason, pay attention to his behavior when you meet or miss other women.

If he’s checking her out in public and gauging her curves with his eyes, this guy doesn’t care much about you beyond what’s under your underwear.

You can make all the excuses you want, but if he’s really interested in getting to know you and appreciating you as a human being, his attention won’t be immediately diverted by the other attractive women he’s met.

13) He expects you to always be available for him
If you are seeing a married man, one thing is clear: he has a lot of restrictions on the basis of marriage and especially if he has children.

If you’re single, you’re supposed to be more open to answering his calls, texts, and messages.

But that doesn’t mean you’re just a free-for-all buffet.

You still have commitments, you still have days when you don’t feel right, you still have last-minute things and crises that pop up and lead to cancellations.

This is why it is not reasonable to expect you to always be available.

And if he is, then you need to get him to do a reality check and realize that just because he has less time and availability, it doesn’t mean he can treat you as something he orders on Uber Eats.

If you are wondering whether or not you have a future with a married man, see the signs below that show he will not leave his wife for you.

14) Withhold his time and attention if you’re not having sex
Abstaining from sex to manipulate your partner is distressing.

It occurs in serious relationships, marriage, as well as in affairs.

If you see a married man using you for sex and companionship, most likely he will.

He will withhold his time and company if you do not give him your body.

It’s disgusting and a treat, and it’s not hard to spot.

If you notice this guy holding his presence back when you fall back on intimacy, that’s most likely what’s going on.

He divides his time and attention when you give him physical affection.

If this happens, rest assured that you are being taken advantage of and also disrespected and rated low.