Have you ever wondered why you keep falling in love with the wrong guy? There is something about you that they are attracted to. There is something about you that makes them treat you horribly, and they don’t feel bad about it, even for a second.
I’m not saying it’s your fault. All I’m saying is your vibe attracts your tribe. What we send out into the universe is what comes back to us. It’s time we stopped featuring your best friend in fuckboy memes and started understanding how and why we attract the wrong people.
Here are 7 reasons why you keep falling for the wrong guy
- You are low on confidence.
The reason you accept a toxic person in your life is because you are not very confident in yourself. This is why you fall for every lie they tell. You just love the compliments they give you and fail to see beyond that. You are not focused on seeing what they can do for you.
I don’t mean to be rude, but you love asking to check them out because they make you feel good. While deep down you know that they don’t bring any kind of motivation into your life, nor do they help you become a better person. You like words more than actions.
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- You are so cute.
This is one of the biggest reasons for falling in love with the wrong guy. You have a very humble and giving nature. This is why toxic men are drawn to you. They know you are full of goodness and they benefit from it.
They know that if they play the victim to you, you will fall into their trap.
- You have a lot of empathy for others.
Although it is a gift, some people make you regret being an empathetic person. They pretend to be hurt and deeply saddened just so you can give them a shoulder to cry on. I know it’s harsh but some people are just bad and there is no kind of excuse or justification for that. Some people become bad because of circumstances while some like to hurt others.
And yes it is true. These people play the victim card in front of you just to keep you on their side and then destroy you emotionally. They will constantly hurt you and blame it on their past experiences for being this way. Science indeed says opposites attract. However, too much of this can only hurt one person and break their heart.
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- You can fix anything.
You are known to be a problem solver. You have a solution for everything. This is why your family and friends will always want you. But this is also the reason why toxic men are attracted to you. They want you to fix what’s wrong with them. Now if someone is willing to change into a better guy, you should help them on their journey. But some people just use it as an excuse to waste time and play with your feelings.
You need to catch errors so that you have enough time for this. Please understand that you can only change a guy who wants to. If his mom can’t change him, nothing on this earth should make you feel like you can change him.
- Your heart is broken.
A broken heart can fall prey to toxic men. When our hearts are starving, we are all ready to eat lies. Toxic men target women who are emotionally weak or have broken hearts. They take advantage of this situation and make you feel like they are the best for you. You believe them because when someone is hanging over the edge, they grab whatever rope is thrown at them.
None of us want to be alone. The only difference is that some of us are willing to wait while others rush. You are so vulnerable that it is very easy to deceive you. A broken heart can make the strongest of people weak.
- You don’t know where to draw a line.
You don’t know how to set boundaries. This is why you don’t even realize when someone crosses the line. You allow them to hurt you because you are not what you want in your life and what you strongly condemn.
This makes it easier for them to play with your feelings. They are well aware that you have not set a standard for yourself. This is probably why you chose them in the first place.
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- They see you as hope.
As I said before, some men become toxic because of what they’ve been through in the past. Maybe he broke their heart, too.
Some toxic men are attracted to strong females because they see hope in them. They feel that she is the only one who can get him back on the right path and stop his life from being miserable.
But as convincing as it sounds, that’s not always the case. Some men pretend to be asking for help.
