Many use the silent treatment to manipulate and control. Narcissists use silence as a way to emotionally abuse, control, and torture their victims.
The use and enforcement of silence are two of the most powerful weapons in our abusive arsenal. The Silence is easy to deploy and is terribly effective in securing our compliance, control and fuel goals.
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- Silence always makes sense.
You can sit quietly because you don’t have to say anything. You may remain silent because you are listening to another person, or you may just enjoy the silence. We do not allow silence to be used in such a negative and repetitive way.
Our silence is used to express contempt. It is used to arouse anxiety and cause distress in you. When we are silent, the stand of the pregnant woman is an indication of the anger that will be unleashed against us. The longest silence is the imposition of our cold rage as you are banished to a continuous silent treatment. When we sit in silence not savoring the lack of noise, we are thinking, planning, scheming, and calculating our next move.
Our silence is weapons, they are our headquarters of operations, our defense against your grievous injury to us. We use silence to hurt you, warn you, scold you, and indicate that you’ve gone too far. Every silence has meaning, it would be remiss of us to use it any other way.
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- Absence makes silence longer.
Posting the absent silent treatment as we remove ourselves from you, without warning or indication, is your assurance that this silent treatment will not be short-lived. The need to lose sight of ourselves sends you a clear signal that we will be gone for a while. It is designed to have you coming after us, trying to call us, begging and pleading for fuel.
When we impose a period of absence by fading away, we reinforce how easy it is to consider you to have moved out of our lives. You may not even be able to contact us but we gather fuel from knowing that this sudden disappearance will cause you a great deal of panic and anxiety. The silent, absent-minded treatment is also a key indicator that we are engaged in seducing a new prospect and providing this person with our fake love and attention, which we kept from you.
- The silent gesture.
Our silence is not only due to not speaking to you or being away from ourselves for some time. We spread silence through gestures. We may not show up when we agree to a date with you, to reinforce the way that you mean very little to us and that we have any number of more urgent engagements than to come to dinner with you at a restaurant.
Leaving you alone in bed, our side of the bed now empty and cold is also a hammer blow to your confidence and self-esteem as we choose the spare room, sofa, or other bed preferring to be with you during the night. The silent phone call from a blocked number that was used while we moved you is designed to put you on edge. Are we calling you this late? It must not be the case, but you can’t be sure.
Failing to buy a present for your birthday stands out, creating a gap that should have been filled in a big way and allowing us to apply maximum mischief through this silent gesture.
- The silent presence.
By giving you the cold shoulder when everyone is greeted warmly and enthusiastically, we make you feel completely alone even when you are surrounded by others. You try to carry on as if nothing happened but you know people are going to wonder why we’re not talking to you. You feel an outpouring of embarrassment when she tries again to talk to us and receives nothing but a glare and then we walk away.
You want to challenge us but you will always get criticized for making a scene. You want to scare us with our childish frowns but you’ve learned that the consequences of doing so aren’t worth the suffering. We of course know all this and we know how powerfully freezing you in the company of others is.
- They suffer in silence.
You never talk about what’s between me and anyone else. If you do this, you will be committing a heinous act of treason and your punishment for such a transgression will be malicious and fierce. You shouldn’t betray me and talk about what you’re going through. You have to put up with it to become a better person, an obedient and obedient person. do you understand?
I also know you fear the repercussions of speaking out and that enforces my curfew. I also know that you feel obligated to stay loyal because of the golden period and how you feel obligated to stay and try to work things out and work through this difficult period and fix what is broken in some way.
Your indefatigable spirit teeters on the brink of misplaced pride in not telling tales and instead, no matter what is thrown at you, to come up with a solution to our problems. You can’t succeed but you don’t know it yet. For now, you must suffer in silence.
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- I speak, you keep silent.
Never interrupt me, never talk to me, never steal my thunder. When I speak everyone listens because what I have to say is wonderful and wonderful and very important.
Better listen to yourself, please, and avoid making me angry. You are my sounding board, Horatio to my Hamlet, the listener, and in my presence, you speak only when required to honor my accomplishments and extol my greatness. You shall be seen but only heard when I deem it necessary.
