Narcissism must be redefined. Its premise is a hypothetical attack on the truth. Telling lies to deceive and take advantage of others without remorse forms the basis for a criminal mind, or antisocial personality disorder (APD), also known as social pathology or psychopathology. The post explains why narcissists and sociopaths lie.

Because of the overlap in key traits, social pathology can be considered a more severe form of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD); However, there is a lot of overlap. Both lack empathy or respect for other people’s feelings or rights. They view others—the women in their lives, or women as a group, and perhaps other groups deemed inferior and weak—with disdain, taking pleasure in hurting others or making them feel uncomfortable.

The main difference lies in the severity of the symptoms, which is not always obvious because of how deliberately both APDs and NPDs lie.

What makes these two disorders distinct in the DSM is that, unlike most of the other mental disorders listed, APDs and NPDs intentionally seek to harm others (to establish superiority and dominance), and they do so to varying degrees, ranging from emotional to mental. Trauma on the one hand, to sexual and physical abuse and, in extreme cases, a threat to the lives of others on the other.

For this reason, the terms “narcissist” and “narcissist” in this publication refer to those who meet the criteria for APD and, or NPD.

As human beings, it is only natural for one not to believe that a person lies just to lie! But narcissists do. Maya Angelou said, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.”

Practitioners and clients alike should strive to better define and understand what narcissists mean by the things they say and do!

Because narcissists pride themselves on their ability to lie and deceive others, those they view as “weak and inferior” in particular, it is not reasonable for researchers or practitioners to expect narcissism to be identified through standard interview questions or self-completion procedures. If one looks instead at the words they speak or the gestures designed to impress or put up smoke screens, narcissists almost always self-identify, for example, in couples and family counseling, and display a range of distinct behaviors.

As in George Orwell’s 1984’s Dystopian World, the narcissist regards truth as his greatest enemy, and takes pride in honing artistic friction skills to ensure “a lie replaces the truth.”

To take this seriously, it is important to note the power of beliefs, in activating the neurochemistry of the human brain, to literally shape, start, and stop behaviors. Our body’s cells are designed to “listen” to our stream of thoughts 24/7. The narcissist targets another person’s thoughts to take over. Narcissists believe they are entitled to use any means necessary to maintain status quo power over others. From their worldview, those in positions have the right to lie.

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The good news is that no one can make you feel less than the amazing human being that you are without your permission. Arm yourself with these and other facts.

The narcissist holds beliefs that underestimate the basic principles of what it means to be human in human relationships, and therefore lying is imperative to support their fragile egos, paper illusions and a false self-image as “truth”. “

Where do these life-limiting beliefs come from? Mostly, it is widely disseminated by the values promoted by the major institutions of society in the socialization of children, the family of origin in particular.

In a study of the upbringing of a notorious criminal master, Adolf Hitler, and the harsh parenting practices that prevailed in the decades leading up to Nazi Germany, the hidden cruelty in child-rearing and the roots of violence, Swiss psychologist Alice Miller notes:

“The human being’s capacity to tolerate pain is limited to protect us. All attempts to cross this natural threshold by resolving repression [basic human feelings of compassion and sympathy] in a violent way, as with any other form of violence, will have negative and often dangerous consequences.” .

There are at least 15 reasons why lying is usually the way of life of narcissists.

Narcissists and sociopaths lie:

1. Confuse others and prevent them from thinking clearly.
   The narcissist lies knowing that confusion raises the level of cortisol in the brain and body. When this happens, the body’s survival system is activated, and the thinking areas of the brain automatically disappear. In other words, fear and confusion paralyze the brain’s amazing ability to think reflexively. This makes it easier for the narcissist to get away with lies and delusions.

Narcissists learned many of these domination tactics from exposure to narcissists in childhood. They also usually study methods of persuasion, and the use of words and language to exploit others.

Today, we have nearly a century of science-based methods of thought control available, perfected in the last few decades by NLP studies. These are commonly used in manpower training in almost all industries and sectors, among others, in advertising, sales, military, politics, etc.

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2. Denying the reality of the other and the human reaction.
   Humans are emotionally attached, to form relationships based on empathy with others. Our behaviors are shaped by strong emotional urges to value, contribute to value, learn, grow, and thrive in our personal lives and relationships. Narcissists cannot stand the idea, at the very least, that human beings are moral at heart, that we thrive in enriching social environments, and that our ability to form relationships is damaged or harmed, when we are subjected to constant assault and trauma.

In their view of the world, this is merely evidence of who is best and able to rule, play god, and alter nature at will, regardless of the effects on the real life around them. They view science as a tool for controlling life, rather than what it is: a study of how things work and how they are designed to work.

So they use lying tactics, like gaslighting, to take away other people’s sense of self, to make them feel their human wants and needs are weaknesses, that no one cares about; to make them doubt their ability to love others, which no one else loves or exists for them; To get them to question their beliefs in human ideals, the wisdom of common sense and the Golden Rule, and the ethical treatment of others—as if all of these were irrelevant.

3. To deceive others by misrepresentation or saying any act of deception.
   The narcissist hones the skills of disguise and artistic deception and considers this evidence of his superiority in intelligence and his rights to control others. They consider this as a full-time job; They are available 24/7. They study their prey, biggest desires, and fears, and transform accordingly to surmise that the narcissist is a dream come true.

They put up smokescreens and illusions to obscure the reality they are so eager to turn into their nightmare. Lies are used to lure prey in, manipulate them emotionally, put them on emotional roller coasters, and get their hopes up only to snatch them later, again and again.

Lies and delusions big and small are how narcissists support their false image of themselves as achieving their highest dreams – and trap others into believing their “lies”, so much so that they make others complicit with them, and join in the deception. and deceiving new converts, as happens in sects. Predators know what to turn into, what to say, and when. They enjoy making promises they don’t intend to keep.

4. To control others with fear-activated delusions.
   The narcissist is adept at thought-control tactics, such as gaslighting, which take the focus off any issue the partner wishes to discuss. The result is always a conversation from hell. The overarching goal of gaslighting is to break the partner’s will, training them to silence themselves, feeling fearful of arousing or feeling their pain or desires, conditioned instead to focus solely on feeling the narcissist’s pain and misery.

This way, to avoid upsetting the narcissist further, the partner ignores any mistreatment—and is trained to act like an object or possession.

High levels of fear are used to condition this response. Every time a partner raises their concerns, the narcissist derails the focus on something the partner should feel bad about, and for which the narcissist blames them. This puts the partner on the defensive, but the more they defend and explain, the more gripped and frustrated the narcissist gets.

Because narcissists are cowards, they not only prey on anyone, but seek to depend on unsuspecting others, extremely good souls, and sympathetic women who seek “spiritual” partners and “soulmates” to satisfy and make their happiness happy. Predators know where to hang out, to feed on potential prey.

5. Covering up violations and impunity.
   The narcissist lives in a world turned upside down. They exist without a moral code but often seem to have one because they hold others so strictly. Deep down, it is not about ethical behavior. They have strict rules for others so they can control, intimidate, and punish. He looks for ways to hide, justify, and excuse their abusive behaviors as being “owed,” for example, and the partner feels they “owe” the narcissist some real or imagined hurt in the past.

The partner is trained to feel her pain and her feelings are invisible, they will never be dealt with, no one cares, and it all covers up the narcissist’s faults. Whatever the partner says or does, gaslighting is used to shift the focus away from the narcissist’s cruel actions, for some reason the partner must feel bad, and stand up for themselves, their loyalty, loyalty, integrity, etc.

They are not human in the sense that humans by nature have the ability to think and feel. For example, most humans associate empathy with others. Thus, regardless of the moments in which they are triggered, they do not derive pleasure from torturing another person for no other reason than that it gives them pleasure, and makes them feel superior. Narcissists do. And while most people get angry at the lies, narcissists get angry at the truth. That is, to anger the straightforward person, he lied to them! To piss off narcissists, tell them the truth! Immediately, they will yell, get angry, or accuse the other of doing what they do, lying all the time.

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6. To support the bases of Might Makes Right.
   Narcissists and sociopaths lie about things big and small. Research shows that when lies are large and persistent, they distort the reasoning capacity of the human brain. It is the “emperor has no clothes” effect. However, the lies a narcissist tells are not just “normal” lies that most people resort to at least from time to time. Regular lying is defensive in nature, serving to protect one’s sense of agency.

In contrast, the narcissist’s lies are inherently offensive. They lie because it promotes a worldview that normalizes domination and ruthless violence as a means of maintaining domination. In the narcissistic worldview, humans exist in dichotomous and antagonistic categories of superior versus inferior, strong versus weak, supposed to rule versus supposed to be ruled, male versus female, white versus nonwhite, and so on.

They are active deceivers, and their strategy is to stay in control of “the truth”, how they want others to think, believe, etc., and how they want the world to be. In a world that encourages peace, enriches collaborative relationships, partnership and communities – narcissists and their false self-images as superior and empowered do not exist! This explains why the narcissist’s greatest fear is intimacy, closeness, and cooperation in their marital relationship.

7. To demoralize others to compromise their will.
   Narcissists and sociopaths lie to frustrate and intimidate the partner into abandoning her sense of self and agency, and to divorce herself from her true (human) self, which is wired for growth and learning, to communicate compassion for self and others, to self-considerate and contribute to the welfare of others, to develop common sense and wisdom, and to create relationships mutual, family units, and communities.

They feel entitled to play god, to be treated like gods, or judges and juries, with the right to decide the fate of the other moment by moment, terrorizing them with threats and other tactics based on fear. (In other words, others live in misery and hatred of self and the other as does the narcissist.)

Remember, the long-term goal is to deny the factual truth of what it means to be human — that humans are wired, as neuroscience is now demonstrating, to thrive in cooperative, loving, and inherently meaning-seeking relationships — and to replace that with the lies and delusions (supported by our mainstream textbooks, by the way) that humans They are aggressive by nature, like animals, dangerous and untrustworthy and, therefore, must be broken and domesticated from childhood, by those of status in order to establish dominance and obedience without questioning.

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8. To prove (in their minds) who is better versus stupider.
   Narcissists are happy to light up their partners with a constant stream of lies, with just enough truth, to keep them confused. In their minds, the ability to make others feel stupid is a sign of intelligence. It’s quite the opposite of course! Intelligent people are usually in awe of the wit and power of human intelligence.

They don’t feel threatened or shadowed. Trying to make heads and tails out of the bullshit the narcissist spews is a waste of time. Most of us have been raised to trust others, to give others the benefit of the doubt, and therefore find it difficult to believe that someone will knowingly act to deceive, deceive, and take advantage of as a way of life. We don’t want to believe that someone is lying to keep others confused, to take advantage of them and to easily control them (their thinking, beliefs, choices, feelings, etc.).

Narcissists crave to control the other’s reality, to change it, to turn them into accepting the narcissist’s upside down world of master-slave relationships as ordinary “love”, based on “spiritual” teachings and delusions, and “ordered” by God or biology. We know from the study of cults that the bigger the lie, the greater the chance of deceiving unsuspecting others.

However, this is not a sign of intelligence; It is the desperate attempts of a weak and fragile ego, disconnected from its ability to feel human, that seeks to blame and punish others to relieve the pain and numbness they feel inside (due to their lack of courage to face their fear of being human).

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9. The trap of spiritual and idealistic believers in their schemes.
   Narcissists and sociopaths lie because they do not believe in God or a higher power. It’s mostly nonsense for them. However, they often profess, goof around, or even take leadership roles in church organizations and denominations, playing deity to enjoy the power of abuse, exploitation, and terror, using their disguise skills to attract unsuspecting believers and make them loyal followers.

The tactic of acknowledging that we are gods or gods is as old as ancient Greece. Aristotle’s writings, before the advent of the printing press, were mostly read by aristocrats, like him, and later kings and church leaders.

Aristotle shaped Western politics and taught that tyranny was necessary to maintain the rule of the aristocracy, in his words, “The tyrant must wear the guise of uncommon devotion to religion. The subjects are less afraid of unlawful treatment than the ruler whom they regard as pious and God-fearing. On the other hand, they are It is less easy to move against him, thinking that the gods are on his side.”

10. Discredit and deny what they fear most – human ideals.
    The narcissist fears more than his true inner self, humanity, and human ideals. He fears it, of course, because it would mean his false self-image of himself does not exist. He was taught in traumatic experiences in early childhood, witnessing either violence personally or indirectly, he learned to hate and associate traits of weakness or inferiority with women, he was ashamed of being disgusted by feelings of empathy and other vulnerable feelings in self and others, and he was trained to associate violence and misogyny with strength and entitlements.

For the narcissist, the humanistic ideals of harmonious and cooperative relationships are dangerous because, literally, this means that he does not exist as he currently thinks he is superior and is entitled to exploit and abuse others. In his mind, a person is either of value or of no value, and there is no value without superiority; It is worthless without legitimate domination. The truth threatens to expose the lies that underlie the reality of the world of relationships.

11. To get a “fix” like an addict.
    The narcissist lies to get the drug he is addicted to. He is always at work, working to make others question their reality, to buy into the narcissist’s assertive worldview as usual, to make excuses for him. They are addicted to altering another sense of self, disturbing their ability to think clearly and to separate truth from lies in particular.

He views his relationships through a “get it before you get it” lens. They believe they are genetically superior and thus can play gods, shaping the world, nature, and even human minds to serve as they please. The narcissist always listens, despite not understanding the other, rather than exploiting and using them. They listen carefully to accumulate knowledge about how the human brain works, and what other people like, want, dream about, and desperately desire. They also listen to their weaknesses.

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12. To support the delusions of their false self-image as real.
    The narcissist longs to change the reality of the “non-believers” as proof, first of his superiority over them, and then as proof that others are “stupid.” He looks down on others and believes that human beings fall into dichotomous categories of either superior or inferior, strong or weak, etc.

Narcissists are addicted to a fictional reality of the world, desperately searching for evidence of the existence of such a thing as “superior” race, sex, etc. They are constantly seeking proof, real or false, that they are superior and worthy, and therefore everyone else must live up to their standards, religious or political beliefs, etc.

13. To play God and be treated as if she is infallible.
    To get his fix, the narcissist lies to deceive and trick others into accepting the “lie” that, given their assured superiority, they are entitled to set the rules that govern life and nature. This means that they can also say and do anything they wish. If they do, that’s the “truth.”

The narcissist feels that his job is to turn others into a worshiper of lies and get them to collude with him in upholding the lies regarding their infallibility, entitlement, superiority, etc. It is an entitlement, based on the “boys will be boys” delusion, for example, that men and women alike must protect men’s egos and “masculinity” and thus not criticize them when they mistreat, exploit, and abuse women.

This is of course a ridiculous idea. Narcissists want to play gods, with the rights to domesticate and have others serve their needs on their own. Realizing this, they make it their duty to attack the truth and eliminate any evidence to the contrary.

14. Hiding and denying the “truth” about gender relations.
    Narcissists and sociopaths lie in order to turn human common sense and wisdom—what it means to be a man, what it means to be a woman, what it means to a man and a woman in a pair of relationships, what it means to be human—upside down.

Narcissistic males enter into their marital relationship as they do in a fierce competition. It’s a battle to prove who’s better and who’s inferior – and he considers it his job to fix and keep his partner at her place, and her “emotional madness” at her, so that she only feels his pain, not hers, and thus can’t complain no matter how she handles it. Narcissists do not believe that marital partner relationships are possible.

For them, the man is either the dominant, the dog first, or he is dominant. Many boys are conditioned to believe this. It’s an idea that was later reinforced in middle school; This is how boys treat other boys. Any evidence to the contrary is unreliable, and women are viewed as potentially dangerous or polluted (castrated) to affect virility. The narcissist’s ideal woman is either a bitch or a saint; They both focus on getting their needs met.

15. To denigrate the truth-doers, sages and prophets.
    Since the beginning of recorded history, the powers that be have been afraid of telling the truth. In the words of Joseph Goebbels, Hitler’s Minister of “Enlightenment”:

“If you tell a big enough lie and keep repeating it, people will eventually believe it. A lie can only be sustained for as long as the state can protect the people from the political, economic and/or military consequences of the lie. Thus it becomes extremely important for the state to use all its powers to suppress Opposition, because the truth is the sworn enemy of the lie, and, consequently, the truth is the greatest enemy of the state.

What poets and sages once proclaimed is now hard science based on the latest discoveries in neuroscience: the human brain is an inherently moral relational organ. Ethical treatment of self and others is a truism. Humans thrive in every dimension in nurturing social structures and relationships based on empathy and cooperation. In contrast, mainstream textbooks continue to promote ideas of male dominance, the survival of the fittest, fiercest, and most aggressive competition over scarce resources as the rules.

Across the world, the idea of male dominance as the norm in early civilizations has been refuted by cross-cultural findings since the 1970s. Conversely, throughout the world in early civilizations, to include the indigenous Indian tribes of precolonial North America (i.e., the writings of Thomas Jefferson, describing the Iroquois confederation throughout the East Coast), women and men held and enjoyed leadership roles. Peaceful, partnership relations in all areas.

Near Home and Modern Times, for example, we know from the writings of Thomas Jefferson that Native Indian women played major roles in the political administration of the Iroquois Confederacy of States all over the East Coast. Jefferson amazedly described the three-part checks and balances, the government, judicial, legislative, and executive branches, and in particular how—in contrast to the “wolves and sheep” governance structures of Europe—the native Indians treated each other, life, and nature with reverence as sacred beings.

The executive branch consisted not of a single chief, but of a group of shepherds who, among their other duties, appointed chiefs, and deposed those who became more warlike.

Native Indians knew then, what neuroscience proves today, that all human beings are by nature autonomous, that they seek the pursuit of life, liberty, and happiness, and that aggressive contests of dominance traumatize and interfere with human personal and relational health. and twist. Today, notions of male dominance and superiority pose a threat to human survival.