Most narcissists hate being alone and crave outside support and attention. They often feel an intense need to be the center of attention, demanding constant support from others. This can make them resentful and lash out when they feel isolated.

A narcissist’s need for companionship is evident in their demanding behavior. They may refuse to accept rejection when they want to go out. They call you multiple times if you don’t answer, and they treat any excuses you offer with suspicion.

Even illness is no excuse. If you are sick, narcissists may try to convince you that you aren’t, as if they can keep them away!

If you live with a narcissist, they may follow you around the house, harass you while you’re talking on the phone, and knock on the door while you’re in the bathroom, causing you to choke.

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Why do narcissists hate being alone so much? Why do they constantly need people around them? Here are several reasons why narcissists hate being alone…

Narcissists Can’t Regulate Their Emotions

Narcissism is mostly a defense mechanism, where narcissists detach from their emotions to avoid pain.

But the downside is that they don’t learn how to recognize or deal with their emotions because they don’t practice it. Because of this, many narcissists suffer from emotional immaturity.

Narcissists need people to regulate their emotions for them, to calm them down, and to tell them that everything is okay. Because they find it difficult to maintain their balance, they keep people around to stabilize their feelings.

Fear Of Self-Reflection

When you’re alone, you have time to think and reflect. But narcissists don’t want to do that. In fact, the mere thought of it terrifies them.

Self-reflection exposes you to your inner demons, your flaws, and your mistakes. As you delve into the depths of yourself.

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Narcissists don’t want to see what’s inside them because it’s not beautiful. They can’t face their flaws because of their delusions of superiority.

Anything less than perfection breaks them. So they prefer to bury their heads in the sand and ignore their inner world. Then they can fool themselves into believing they’re perfect and that they don’t have demons.

So, narcissists recruit people to distract them. To help them avoid loneliness as much as possible.

But narcissists can’t always achieve what they want, and sometimes they have to spend time alone. So they often turn to things like alcohol, drugs, and gambling to distract themselves.

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Many narcissists suffer from a fear of abandonment, especially if they have borderline traits.

This fear of abandonment is sometimes due to poor parenting, where they can’t rely on their parents.

They may also fear abandonment because they realize how much they need people, even if they pretend not to.

It’s natural for narcissists to fear losing something important. People are essential to their mental health. People are fickle and can leave them at any time.

Therefore, narcissists protect themselves from loneliness by attracting as many people as possible and building a semi-permanent support network of several people. This gives them plenty of options to fall back on.

Boredom

Most narcissists have a low tolerance for boredom. They need drama and attention to brighten up their world.

Having people around them gives them more opportunities to relieve their boredom. They have someone to talk to, someone to make fun of if they want drama, and someone to do whatever they want for them.

Narcissists Need External Validation

Narcissists need external validation more than most people. That’s why they put more effort into appearing successful than actually achieving success.

Narcissists often go into debt to buy new cars, big houses, and expensive clothes. Just to appear successful, even if this debt makes them poorer. For narcissists, image is more important than reality.

But external validation is impossible without people. So narcissists need people around them to tell them how great they are and to be jealous of their “success.”

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So they may gather people around them, to inspire compliments and arouse their jealousy. This is to satisfy their endless need for recognition.

I want People To Feel Special

To validate their delusions of superiority, narcissists need to feel special—all the time. But solitude doesn’t make most narcissists feel special.

Narcissists often surround themselves with good people, shower them with compliments and provide them with favors. This allows the narcissist to dominate the relationship.

This gives the narcissist a sense of superiority and superiority. They may even imagine these givers are beneath them, which gives them a morale boost.

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Narcissists are hyper-conscious of how they appear to others, even strangers. They want people to admire them because it reinforces their false image of superiority.

Some narcissists use people as props to appear popular. If they appear popular, they must have good qualities, which helps them attract more people.

Therefore, a narcissist may harass people and push them to accompany them whenever they go out, gathering as many people as possible just to appear good.

You may have noticed that most narcissists avoid going places alone. They try to drag people with them wherever they go, even if they have no interest in them. I’ve even seen narcissists take their girlfriends and children to the gym just to watch them work out!

Narcissists Need Someone To Reflect Themselves

Narcissists are just blank canvases, empty vessels, and they don’t know who they really are.

Narcissists create a facade. An external persona is everything they are not. This persona needs careful construction because it doesn’t come from within.

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Therefore, narcissists need people to emulate them. Preferably, they should be kind and empathetic people. This is so they can imitate their traits and fake their emotional qualities. Because if they don’t, they might forget how to act “normally.” And if they don’t adapt, no one will give them time.

Conclusion

Having a narcissist in your life can be exhausting and time-consuming. They expect you to drop everything when they’re in trouble and spend time with them.

Narcissists don’t care if you’re tired, sick, or just don’t want to hang out with them. They’re so desperate for attention that they’ll do almost anything to get it.

Narcissists need people much more than most people. Yet, they abuse them and push them away. It’s like biting the hand that feeds them.

Narcissists act like you need them more than they need you. But this is just a trick, and they know it. They do this to make you believe they have the power. Then they can control the relationship. But the truth is, they need you much more than you need them. And all the power is actually yours.