I spend a lot of time writing on this blog and discussing narcissism on social media. And I often get silenced.

They say various things that lead them to conclude that I should stop talking about narcissism. What do you think about freedom of speech? Many of these same “reasons” keep popping up. So I thought I’d share them here.

If you regularly talk about narcissism online, you’ll likely hear some of these same objections. Because I’ve heard them many times. And I know others have, too.

Knowing what narcissists say to silence you helps you prepare for a response and clarify your thinking. Because narcissists create doubt and confusion, especially with their unique logic!

Without further ado, here are some of the things narcissists have said to stop me from discussing narcissism…

You’re Spreading Hate Towards Neurodiversity

I’ve been told repeatedly that I’m spreading hate toward “neuroscientist” narcissists. It’s as if I’m mobilizing armies to bring down poor, “disabled” victims. But I’m not.

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I educate and endorse people who have been affected by narcissists. So I provide information about typical behaviors and motivations. Because it explains what happened. It shows how the narcissist manipulated things to make the victim look wrong.

I never encourage anyone to harm narcissists. My only goal is to help their victims. Why would anyone, even a narcissist, object to this?

Some say I ruin the lives of people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. But it’s not as if they walk around with the label of Narcissistic Personality Disorder on their foreheads. If they treated others well, no one would know they were narcissists.

I’ve also never heard of people launching random attacks on narcissists simply because they are narcissists. I’ve never heard of my own content or anyone else’s causing such problems. So it seems the only hatred is the hatred of exposing their tactics.

You Are Obsessed /I’m Obsessed With You

I’ve often been accused of being obsessed with narcissism. Some have even told me they’re worried about me because of my posts. As if they’re worrying about a random stranger on the internet!

Yes, I blog about narcissism. So of course I’d discuss it regularly. But that’s not an indication of an unhealthy obsession. And even if it were, why would they care? Is their only concern preventing me from exposing narcissists’ tricks?!

Why Don’t You Write Content That Helps Narcissists?

Many people have reached out to me, asking why I don’t write content that helps narcissists. The problem is, I don’t have Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). What expertise can I offer?

When these people contact me, I sometimes suggest they start a blog to help narcissists. I’ve even offered to send them visits when someone with NPD contacts me. But no one takes me up on it.

Surely, if someone wanted to post content that would help people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, they would do it themselves? Not force a stranger online to do it for them.

I don’t mind people helping narcissists. In fact, I’m all for it. But that doesn’t mean it’s my job to do it. I have enough work to do to help victims of narcissism!

Everyone Is Narcissistic These Days

I keep getting this comment: “Everyone Is Narcissistic These Days.” But nowhere am I implying that everyone is a narcissist!

These people insinuate that I’m following the same line, saying that every narcissist does something I don’t like. But I never accuse anyone of being a narcissist.

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I talk about the traits, behaviors, and motivations of narcissists, and the best way to deal with them. Why is everyone accused of being a narcissist?!

Narcissism Is Rare

Some say I’ve probably never met a narcissist, given their rarity. So, I must be making this up. But I can refute this from two perspectives.

First, I’ve worked in mental health for 14 years. I’ve worked with many people diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. So, I have extensive professional experience.

Also, narcissism isn’t as rare as many people think. It’s true that less than 1% of the population is diagnosed, but that doesn’t represent the full picture.

Narcissists are notorious for not seeking help because they believe they’re superior and perfect just the way they are. A diagnosis suggests something is wrong with them, which contradicts their delusions of superiority. So, they don’t want to put themselves in that position.

Also, many people don’t know what Narcissistic Personality Disorder is, or even that it exists. This includes people who suffer from it. So, a large percentage of people don’t seek a diagnosis because they don’t know anything about it.

A study conducted a few years ago showed that about 6.2% of people are classified as having full-blown Narcissistic Personality Disorder. That’s one in fifteen people. And that’s not uncommon.

Furthermore, narcissists seek companionship more than others. They are the ones constantly seeking new friends and lovers because they dislike being alone, and they often sabotage their relationships, increasing the likelihood of contact with them.

Conclusion

If you want to talk about narcissism, don’t let anyone stop you. You have the right to express your thoughts, experiences, and opinions, as long as they don’t hurt others. Just because people disagree with you or feel uncomfortable doesn’t give them the right to silence you.

Awareness about narcissism is helpful for two reasons. First, it helps victims understand what happened and helps them heal from the damage they’ve suffered. It also indirectly helps narcissists.

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Narcissists often avoid therapy because they have no reason to seek it. Their narcissism helps them get what they want. So why should they change?

As awareness of narcissism grows, people become more aware of its manipulation tactics, making them less effective.

Once a narcissist realizes that their narcissism is no longer serving them, they may be more motivated to change and seek treatment because it no longer serves their life.

However, it’s easier to ignore people and continue their narcissism than to expose it and make an effort to change. Perhaps this is why some narcissists try to prevent people from speaking up.