What was that? Behind my back? Are they talking about me? Have they found out? Why are they whispering?
No matter how much you think they’re not, narcissists always assume that others have something to say about them behind their backs.
When you think about it, people with remorse always have one eye on themselves, while the other is focused on the lies and abuse.
For narcissists, it’s no different. In fact, I can think of 14 ways narcissists are paranoid. And I wanted to share them all with you.
Insecurity Is Strong
The paranoia that narcissists experience is on a whole different level than what you’ve come to know.
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The reasons?
Where do I begin?
There’s a deep, palpable insecurity. Narcissists are among the most insecure people, and they look for anything that makes them uncomfortable and post another notification on it.
Then they fear exposure. No one can discover their true colors, because that would ruin their entire plan.
And let’s not forget the assumption that everyone is out to get them. Why? I never know, but paranoia can and will manifest itself in a variety of ways.
Let’s start by talking about that.
1 “What are they saying about me?”
Do they say anything?
Narcissists don’t trust others, and others should trust them, too.
However, a narcissist will always wonder what those around them are saying about them, and that’s a sure way to highlight how insecure they are.
2 “They’re trying to ruin my life!”
Who’s trying to do what right now?
I think you’ll find that no one is trying to do anything like that. But it’s impossible for a sane person to even try to confront you, the narcissist.
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A lot of things become clear when you see someone accuse someone else of trying to ruin their life, especially when that person isn’t even trying to cause trouble.
Narcissists feel threatened. They can’t stand this kind of heat, so they immediately leave the kitchen screaming and yelling.
3 “Why are they being so nice?”
Does this raise suspicion? Is it strange that someone would be so nice to you, or is the act of being nice itself a cause for suspicion?
You know, it’s possible for someone to be friendly without any motive or desire to exploit it for their own gain.
Narcissists think a certain way, and they assume everyone else thinks the same way.
So, if someone is being nice, they’ll see it as untrue.
4 “You’re cheating!”
Why would anyone cheat on you? Just because they’re talking to someone else and you suspect foul play?
Not everyone is a cheater… well… except the narcissist, anyway.
This is how narcissists demonstrate their deep-seated insecurity.
5 “Phone Time”
What are they doing on their phone?
Why do they spend so much time on it?
What or who is so important to them that it takes up so much time?
Why are they more interesting than me now?
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It’s the same old story, isn’t it?
Yet, it keeps coming back, and it shows the paranoid side of the narcissist.
6 “Where have you been?”
Do they need to know your every move? If they’re the paranoid type, they do.
People who are comfortable with their partners don’t need to be closely monitored, and I say this from the bottom of my heart.
It’s nice to care about them and make sure they’re okay if they’re traveling or coming home late. That’s another matter.
This?
This is the anxiety about having a good time without them.
This is the anxiety about talking to people about the state of your relationship.
This is the primary fear of exposing the narcissist, or finding someone else.
It all comes down to their jealousy and insecurity.
7 “I saw it on your social media”
What did you see? An innocent photo? A comment? A meme? Did someone like your post? Do they feel threatened by this person?
To you, it’s innocent because you are innocent. But to the narcissist, who isn’t innocent of mind or thought, there’s always something else going on.
So sad, I think you’ll agree.
8 “You’re going to leave, I know it”
The narcissist clings to perfection. They want to know you’re happy in your relationship, even if all they do is make you miserable!
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If they’re worried that you’re not, they’ll also be worried that you’ll leave them.
And abandonment is a serious insecurity for the narcissist. I mean, really.
9 “Defensive? Me?”
When someone protests so much, there’s always an underlying problem.
What is it? I’ll bet on the guilt!
Those who become this defensive can’t control their emotions. Instead of talking about them, they scream about them.
And what about this protest? It’s all because of paranoia.
10 “Personal details? Forget it.”
If the moment comes when a narcissist needs to divulge personal information, they always seem a little skeptical.
What would you do with it?
Why would it benefit me?
What would they discover about me?
These thoughts circulate in their minds, and this is nothing but fertile ground for paranoia.
11 “Enemies are always watching”
How many enemies does the average person have?!
Any sane person wouldn’t assume they’re surrounded by people who hate them, but narcissists act like they’re looking over their shoulder.
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I mean, if it’s convenient…
12 “You’re jealous and sabotaging”
Saying that a person should be jealous of a narcissist just because they did something or bought something flashy is completely false.
I don’t care if any narcissist I know gets a new car. Mine runs fine.
If that’s what you want, good for you. But don’t assume I’m jealous just because you’re more successful and smarter than me.
What kind of ego comes with that assumption?
He’s a megalomaniac narcissist.
13 “These rules hold me back!”
If you ask a narcissist what they hate most, you’re bound to hear rules brought up.
This is used as an excuse for those who don’t make the progress they want in life.
Too many rules!
Too many restrictions!
Or are you overly suspicious of rules, and just a normal person like the rest of us?
14 “If you’re going to cheat, I’ll do it first.”
Narcissists are deeply concerned about cheating on you.
Their fear of being insufficient and eventually leaving drives them to initiate the cheating.
Leave them. At least you’ll know who they really are, once and for all.
