One of the strangest hobbies narcissists have is collecting things you’d never think of.

Let me be the first to tell you that these things are not meant for public display.

That’s why I wanted to raise a red flag here today so you can spot them, rather than overlook them.

The dangers narcissists pose when they collect usually affect you, the innocent. They affect you. They affect people you know. They affect people you care about.

But what are the strange things I mean?

You May Not Know But…

Narcissists are some of the strangest people on earth. If you think they can’t collect things that should be concerning, you’re wrong.

They certainly do.

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And just because, like the most obvious psychopaths, they don’t collect nails or teeth doesn’t mean they’re beyond the scope of the red flag.

Danger signs are often talked about, but rarely seriously studied. I’d like to give you some information about them to start you looking around for potential signs.

What Are Danger Signs?

When you go to the beach and the tides are particularly strong, or if the water is unsafe for swimming due to sharks or sewage, you’ll see danger signs.

They’re warning signs urging you to stay away, and people do them because, well, they don’t want to get hurt, sick, or worse.

Sadly, narcissists don’t enter your life surrounded by people waving danger signs. If they did, you’d stay away, right?

Instead, they make excuses for behaviors or habits that are considered danger signs.

They invite you into their little world of fake charm, hiding them from sight and mind.

Once you fall in love with them, these danger signs will gradually begin to appear.

Status Symbols

All should be well.

They love expensive things and show off their money so everyone can see how successful they are.

They collect shiny objects that people react to with “oohs” and “ahs.”

“Oh my God, where did you get that?”

It’s so unique!

It must have cost a fortune!

And so on and so forth.

Often, it’s okay to be proud of something you’ve earned, but this is another level.

That’s rude. And they’re proud of it!

Ex Of Awards

Anything, from gifts their ex bought them, to hairbrushes they’ve collected at home, to clothes, to furniture, to books: it’s all on display.

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Narcissists love to use them as trophies in their homes to show people they have a past, that their ex meant something to them.

Really, I mean, who cares?

It’s really weird to have an old Friends t-shirt that doesn’t fit you hanging in your closet.

Social Media Followers / Any Achievement

Oh my God, look at their follower count. They must be so popular!

No…

They add anyone who’s old and count them as another number.

No more, no less.

Did I tell you about the time I…?

Well, like you asked, I have a degree in…

Oh, I’ve climbed that mountain before. It’s actually pretty easy.

Oh, it’s nothing. Just another day for me.

Really.

Well, aren’t you the best…

These are very similar in that: “I want everything I can to show the world.”

…waves red flag.

Evidence From The Past

I heard about a narcissist who kept a letter from the 1970s from his sister when she wrote to him asking him to borrow some money.

It was a real letter, and she was in a very difficult situation. The amount wasn’t huge, and her promise to repay him was as sincere as the letter itself.

This person kept the letter. He refused her offer to return it and gave her the money. After all these years—decades—he’s still using it to show off.

Look. She asked me to borrow money, and she never returned it.

I always had to be the one to save the day.

She always needed me.

How weird! It’s a true story, too. This is what they do.

They hold everything against you, using evidence to bolster their “innocence.”

selfies

Let me scroll through my phone’s photo gallery and look at all the gorgeous, filtered photos I’ve taken of myself.

Which one do you like best?

I love this angle!

You only see these kinds of photos when a narcissist is trying to find a photo to show you, and it pops up.

It’s scary to stand there, smiling politely, realizing you’re both looking at the worst kind of photos known to humankind.

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And of course, these are warning signs. Why would anyone spend so much time improving their appearance unless they wanted to give everyone the impression that their perfect image was a reflection of their perfect self?

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People They Hate Lists

Don’t be surprised if narcissists carry little black books with them wherever they go.

If you annoy, insult, or ridicule them, you’ll move on to the next blank page!

I know it sounds crazy, but narcissists spend a lot of their focus, time, and energy thinking about those they hate. They pretend not to, of course.

You’d love to think they’re that kind of reckless person. They’ll say they live by the rule of not caring what people think of them, but they actually care a lot.

If you make them happy, you’ll never be forgotten. Grudges are real, people, and they last a lifetime.

Forget the fact that they might make one mistake after another, testing your everlasting tolerance, right?!

Excuses

Narcissists are nothing without excuses. I mean, nothing.

I’ve been having a bad day.

Work is busy right now.

I’m just stressed out, I didn’t mean to be.

It wasn’t me.

It was someone else.

It was you.

I don’t know what you’re talking about. I just don’t feel well. Please give me a break.

I don’t think you understand me, and that’s the problem.

I could go on, but I won’t, because you do.

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I don’t think narcissists can survive without launching an onslaught of excuses into the world when they need to.

But what kind of message does this send to you, the observer?

If you have the self-confidence and the ability to reflect and reflect on your mistakes, why do you need an excuse at all?

Surely, it’s much better to raise your hands, say when you’ve made a mistake, and genuinely try to make amends, as well as to make amends for anyone you’ve hurt.

The desire to make things better or make them right again calls for your reluctance to leave behind an emotional mess wherever you go.

This is a red flag, as narcissists prefer to blame literally anything else rather than be honest and open.