Before you say anything, know…
Amazing.
Narcissists lie.
In fact, they lie about anything and everything you can imagine. Not only are they the best liars out there – they will do it without a conscience or morals.
And I know that all you want is for them to get caught.
If they did, everyone would see them for who they really are – they’ve done their job!
I want you to see beyond the person they’re presenting to you – because that in and of itself is a big, fat lie.
Let’s take a look at the 9 biggest lies about narcissists, and how you can get away with each one once you know them.
Don’tFool Them With “Honesty”
As much as they want you to, and they really do – don’t believe them.
If you’ve gone through the same process with one narcissist, it’s safe to say you can assume the same for everyone else out there.
They’re all lying. And none of them care.
Falling for their false honesty will give you a false sense of security, and will also leave you deeply disappointed when they inevitably let you down.
Being kind and sticking to their word is never a narcissist’s intention – it’s always where they put your heart – so you always stay and never leave.
TimeToExpose! 9 Biggest Lies About Narcissists
1 That You Can Count On Them
If you think you can count on narcissists, you need to think again.
The only time you can really count on them is when they let you down, because that’s all they’ll ever show you they’re capable of.
Narcissists trick you in this regard. When you meet them, they promise to be faithful in every way.
They’ll make you happy.
They’ll make sure you get what you need.
They’ll listen to you, and they’ll never lie.
They won’t change you.
They’ll always be there.
What happens when you discover that none of this is true? This means you’ve peeled back the layers of fakery to reveal the real person behind it all:
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The Narcissist.
2 They Love You
Love will never be what a narcissist makes it seem. They can throw any fancy thing or promise your way, sure. Does that mean they love you?
No.
It means they know how to comfort you.
Love isn’t something they know how to feel, but they love to talk about it.
Saying the words isn’t the problem – but that’s where the lie begins.
If it’s not the truth – it’s a huge, blatant lie.
3 They Care
Narcissists will always want you to think they care.
I’m just coming from a place of concern.
You need me.
Let me help you.
And why wouldn’t you believe it when someone says those words? They sound so sincere, they’ll make you want to open up and be the one to trust and say yes.
But is that really the truth?
Actually – no. They don’t even care. The only thing they care about is getting what they want from you, even if it means you getting hurt as a result.
Your trauma isn’t their problem.
4 Your secrets are kept
Trust me, I won’t tell anyone.
Your secret is safe with me.
Your secret is never safe with a narcissist. Whatever it is, you obviously want it to remain a secret.
Maybe it’s important news, or maybe it’s a part of your past that you want to keep hidden.
It doesn’t really matter what the secret is – the part that should get your attention is that they promised not to tell – and they did.
Narcissists will spill your secrets for the simple reason that they do:
Their need to gossip about you is more important than their promise to keep it to themselves.
5 They won’t use your past against you
While the narcissist may not be present in your past, they are definitely making sure it stays alive.
6 They want you to have friends and family around you
You’ll notice how much they want to support you and be there for you, and in doing so, they will want your nearest and dearest people to be a part of your life.
This may be the case during the first weeks and months of knowing the narcissist, when they will encourage you to spend as much time as possible with your loved ones.
When you do, one day it will become a problem. And when it does, you will hear phrases like:
“You’re too good for them.”
“You give them so much of your time, and they give you so little in return.”
“Why do you care?”
“It seems like you don’t make time for me anymore. I miss you.”
This is how they start isolating you, so you become dependent on them.
7 You’re Free
If only it were!
No one is free all the time and they are somehow registered with a narcissist, and you only realize how trapped you are when you leave.
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They want you to believe you are, and they can do that by giving you access to a little money, or letting you go out one night.
But you’re wrong if you think you’re free. It’s all just a facade.
8 Your Reality Matters
It only matters at first! Soon, that reality will be:
Taken.
Shaken.
Replaced.
Replaced with their reality.
Without any conscience at all. They will trick you into an alternative way of thinking by simply throwing out phrases like:
It didn’t happen that way.
You must be confused.
I think you’re imagining things.
You seem to have lost your memory.
Are you sure you don’t need to go to the doctor?
You won’t be sure of your reality until you first meet them. Once they get their foot in the door, the game is over.
9 It’s All in Your Head
If you think you’ve put the pieces together and understand narcissism – the narcissist will do everything they can to take that away from you.
Mark my words: It won’t be pretty when they prove how much of a liar they are.
You’ll think, “I thought I met someone who was the best person in the world.” Soon, you’ll see the truth, but you’ll feel stuck in that reality.
It’s not all in your head. You’re not imagining anything.
Narcissism is very real, and it’s very harmful.
Please never assume it’s not real.
