Is it impossible for you to imagine a cold, cruel, “human” being (who has the right to be human because, unfortunately, there is no other official word that defines this type) in relationship with a kind, sensitive, and loving empath?
I get goosebumps just hearing this, but I’m afraid it’s not impossible at all.
You might think that such opposites would never cross paths with each other, however, they always end up together with devastating results.
The only thing this relationship can generate is a wounded and broken victim, scratching the glass prison surface to get out – trying and failing from day to day.
You see, everyone on the outside thinks that an empath trapped in a relationship with a narcissist is free because that’s the big picture.
In fact, this is the narcissist’s main game – to harass and manipulate, while appearing completely innocent.
So the victim was found in a glass prison. She appears to be free, but in reality she is trapped.
If you’re wondering what it feels like to be a prisoner of narcissism, read the stages every empath goes through in a relationship with a narcissist.
- Boy sees girl. Their eyes meet and the love story begins.
The girl believes she has found the love of her life – the man of her dreams.
The truth is that she found the man not from her dreams, but from her worst nightmares.
Their eyes meet and the love story begins. The girl believes she has found the love of her life – the man of her dreams.
The truth is that she found the man not from her dreams, but from her worst nightmares.
- The narcissist convinces the empath that she is the person he has been waiting for.
It gives empathy everything you’ve ever dreamed of.
He lies and pretends to be something he is not in order to gain the trust of the sympathetic – to make her believe everything he says, which is not surprising since his behavior at first is supported by a gentle, almost unrealistic appearance.
- After the end of the first and second stages, the narcissist enters the most important stage, which is manipulation and control.
Over a long period of time, it works to destroy the self-esteem and self-love of the empath.
Through a number of tactics, he succeeds in his plan.
He will assume the role of decision-maker in the relationship, making sure that the empath has no say in any of it.
- Empathy will never stand up to the narcissist at this stage of their relationship.
Empathy will decline and she will unwittingly accept the labels the narcissist places on her, which will gradually lead to her truly believing that she is incompetent and unworthy of love and respect.
- Empaths will put their hearts and souls into their relationship.
Their intentions are pure and their love is selfless.
After all, you can’t choose who you’ll fall in love with.
Unfortunately, sometimes you fall in love with evil and your heart is crushed, and you find yourself at the lowest point in your life.
No one can rely on that. No one can predict or avoid it.
Empaths often fall into this trap because they are selfless. They are givers – which is exactly what every narcissist needs.
- Slowly, the empath realizes that the relationship she has is not healthy.
She gradually realizes that the narcissist cannot love anyone but himself. Unfortunately, by then, it will be very difficult to get out.
So, she keeps meeting his every need just to avoid problems.
- As long as the empath does everything the narcissist wants, there will be no problems in the relationship.
The more love and devotion the empath adds, the more in control the narcissist feels.
Narcissists know that as long as empaths struggle to keep their relationship alive, they have everything under control.
Once the empath begins to break the unhealthy bond, the narcissist begins to feel threatened.
- Finally, the empath takes action.
She eventually accepts that she was abused and doesn’t want to be in that type of relationship.
It needs more; She needs true, selfless love and she’s not getting it. The narcissist is not happy with this realization.
In fact, he feels threatened and that makes him even more dangerous.
- What actually happens is that the empath realizes that the narcissist cannot get enough attention.
None of her actions and fulfillment of the narcissist’s desires will satisfy his insatiable hunger for attention.
- The desperate narcissist goes into hyper-manipulative mode.
His next step is to convince Sympathy that everything bad that happened in their relationship is her fault.
He will convince her that she is very needy and high maintenance.
- Then empathy stops and wonders.
Since her self-esteem has not yet been restored and is still very weak, she will buy into his foolishness and begin seriously doubting herself and her own behavior.
This is exactly the narcissist’s endgame.
- The problem is that the empath does not understand that she is being manipulated.
After the narcissist gets into her head and messes with her mind more, empathy will return to him and he will open up.
You will tell him how you really feel and how much pain you are in.
Unfortunately, these feelings will not reach the narcissist, who will shift the blame back onto her without feeling guilty.
Empaths will openly admit that they think they are losing their minds.
Nothing makes the narcissist happier than hearing that, because, in that moment, empathy once again becomes easily controllable.
- This is when empaths make their biggest mistake.
She believes the lies the narcissist tells her.
Instead of accepting the pain and understanding that what she feels now is normal because she was hurt, she usually blames herself and believes she did something wrong.
- After a long fight, the empath will find a way to get away from the narcissist!
Despite her misfortune, the empath will find a way to comfort herself, take a step back to reevaluate the situation, and try to figure out the mess she finds herself in.
- Empaths must understand that not all people deserve their love and attention.
They have to believe that unfortunately there are bad people out there, people who only care about themselves without any fear of crushing anyone who stands in their way.
Empaths need to realize that not everyone is like them.
The story ends with Empathy struggling to get back on her feet, feeling defeated, embarrassed, and broken.
Meanwhile, the narcissist moves on without any remorse, as if nothing had happened, as if empathy had never existed.
