You’ve been told you’re “too sensitive” or “too dramatic.”
That’s why you tend to fool yourself when you suspect a guy is being rude to you.
You tell yourself, “Maybe that’s just the way he talks,” or “Maybe he’s just being playful and funny.”
Sometimes, you think, “Maybe you deserve it.”
Well, it’s time to see them for what they are so you can stop making excuses for bad behavior.
If a guy uses these 13 phrases in a conversation, he’s not respecting you.
1) “Is that true, Miss Smart?”
Even if it’s said in jest, this is a sign that a guy doesn’t respect you enough.
He’s telling you to shut up because you’re a “loud, stubborn woman.”
Men don’t say the same thing to other guys, even if they sometimes say stupid things.
If a guy says this to you, especially in front of others, it means he doesn’t respect you (and it’s probably because he’s afraid of you).
He may feel threatened by your intelligence, and by saying this, he wants others to see that he is superior to you.
2) “No drama.”
You’ve expressed your frustration, anger, or genuine resentment…
He shrugged and said, “Okay, no drama,” like you’re just a kid getting angry on the playground.
If a guy says this to you, it means he doesn’t respect your feelings.
He probably sees you as a “hormonal drama queen” every time you express a legitimate concern.
A guy who respects you will never ignore your feelings—especially if he knows you’re a highly sensitive person.
He’ll be so happy to hear them that he’ll figure out how to make things better for both of you.
3) “Hey, hottie.”
While this is cute if it’s coming from your boyfriend, it’s frustrating if other guys say it.
It’s insulting and it’s a way to show dominance.
Men know that if you resist, they can do it over and over again because there’s nothing you can do about it anyway.
Well, do something about it!
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If this happens at work, report it to HR.
If it happens near where you live, report it to the police.
If it’s someone you know, you should call them. They’ll tell you, “It’s no big deal.” Well, show them that it is.
4) “Are you thinking?”
For some reason, women are seen as the dumber sex.
We get called names like “stupid girl,” “Barbie,” “dumb blonde,” and many other derogatory terms.
When a man asks you this question, he’s asking, “Are you stupid?” without actually saying the word “stupid.”
So if a man says this to you, and he says it a lot, he’s disrespecting you.
A respectable man would simply say, “I see your point, but…” or “Are you sure about that?” if he disagrees with your thoughts.
Questioning what you’re thinking is not the best thing to say to anyone.
So yes, if you feel offended when someone says this to you, you’re not being sentimental, you’re just being disrespectful.
5) “I didn’t ask for your opinion.”
If you express an idea—whether it’s about a big project or what kind of shampoo to buy—a guy who lacks respect for you will say this line.
While this is obvious when said in a harsh tone, it becomes confusing if they say it in a very calm, playful, or passive-aggressive way.
It can make you wonder, “Wait, did they just offend me or am I being serious?”
Again, it’s another way to silence you—“put you in your place.”
And if you keep hanging out with these types of guys, you’ll slowly learn to doubt yourself, too.
6) “I don’t want to embarrass you because of your body, but…”
They may be nice to you. They may give you gifts.
But they can’t help but express their opinions about you… especially about your body.
People like this don’t respect you as a person.
By saying, “I don’t want to embarrass you but…”, they are giving you no reason to complain or feel offended.
After all, they just want to “help” you. They don’t “intend” to offend.
Well, here’s something you should know: you don’t have to listen to their opinions.
You can just tell them to shut up because they have no right to say anything about your life and your body.
7) “I don’t want to be that guy, but…”
Again, “I don’t want to be an asshole, but I’m going to be an asshole anyway.”
Don’t fall for this.
It’s very disrespectful especially if they throw insults and harsh criticism at you because they tell you that’s what they “care about.”
They’ll say things like:
“I don’t want to be that guy, but I think you’re single because you’re fat.”
“I don’t want to be that guy, but you’re not smart, you know? You shouldn’t study engineering.”
They think that once they say “I don’t want to be that guy,” they’re allowed to say whatever they want. But they’re using it as an excuse to attack your self-esteem.
8) “Yeah, yeah, feminism. Hahaha”
Have you ever met those guys who think women are just looking for attention? And that women are mad about everything? Are feminists annoying?
They even say things like “Oh, stop being a Nazi feminist” when you try to tell them it’s wrong to stare at random girls on the street.
Well, if they do that when you start asserting your rights or speaking up, then they don’t respect you (and probably all other women, too).
A man who knows how to respect people will encourage women to express their concerns and not ridicule them for doing so.
9) “Don’t be a coward.”
If you’re scared of something, a man who lacks respect for you won’t comfort you. He won’t try to make sure you’re okay.
Instead, he’ll lose patience and say “Come on. Don’t be a coward!”
He’ll never stop and try to understand your concerns.
He may even think that your concerns are just because you’re a woman – you’re too “girly,” you’re too “soft,” you’re “acting like a princess!”
And he wants you to get over it and act like a man.
10) “Blah, blah, blah…”
Again, another phrase designed to make you feel bad for simply expressing your thoughts.
A colleague of mine did this once and it was the most irritating thing ever!
I was trying so hard to express my opinions about our work in the nicest way possible. When I got excited about it, he muttered “Blah, blah blah.”
So disrespectful and immature!
I bet he wouldn’t do that to a man.
I stopped talking to him after that incident because I can’t respect a man who doesn’t know how to respect women – especially when they’re just trying to express their opinions.
11) “Do I have to repeat everything I’m saying?!”
If you didn’t hear them or didn’t understand what they said, of course, you’d ask them to repeat themselves.
But they might get impatient and say “Do I have to repeat everything I’m saying?”
Once again, they’re treating you like you’re an idiot with an old computer brain.
But regardless, they feel disrespected because someone like you doesn’t listen to them!
You know they wouldn’t say that line to people they respect even if those people asked them to repeat it five times.
12) “I’m not sure I can trust you with that…”
You volunteer to do something, but they’ll say that line.
You’ve never done anything in the past that would make them doubt your abilities. You rarely make major mistakes!
But then, probably because they lack respect for you (and women in general), they don’t think you’re good enough for the job.
13) “Oh yeah, women.”
You check your Instagram for a second, and he’ll be judgmental and say “Oh yeah, women.”
As if you’re superficial and stupid.
You get emotional, you’re five minutes late, you complain about something legitimate…
“Yeah, women.”
And he rolls his eyes and scoffs if you try to explain yourself.
Men who despise people because of their gender, color, culture, or social background will always say this kind of nonsense.
While it may seem harmless, it shows how little respect they have for you.
Final Thoughts
If you hear all of these statements from one man, it’s clear that he doesn’t respect you 100%.
If you can’t completely cut him off (yet)—for example, he’s your father or your boss—try to limit contact as much as possible.
Then find a way to slowly escape their clutches.
