The first experience we have with women is the experience we have with our mothers. It shapes our relationships with other women and how we view ourselves.

PubMed published a study that looked at how the quality of a mother-daughter relationship during childhood and adulthood was linked to her psychological well-being. The study focused on symptoms of depression and self-esteem later in life.

As you can imagine, mother-daughter relationships are of great importance. Your relationship with your mother may be less than ideal, but you can turn it into a positive experience.

Here are 5 ways to heal from a toxic relationship with your mother:

Manage your expectations.

As children, we need someone to take care of us. As we grow, we become independent and learn how to take care of ourselves.

The problem lies in the amount of independence the child can have, the timing, and the willingness to take personal responsibility. This works both ways; What is the child willing and able to do, and what will the mother allow the child to do?

Things that get in the way of our independence are beliefs like, “You won’t love me if you don’t need me,” “You’re not smart, strong, or pretty enough to do this on your own,” “You’re not smart, strong, or pretty enough to do it on your own.” “It’s my whole life” to name a few of the most common beliefs.

Once you understand how your expectations get in the way of your independence, you can begin to free yourself from them. Remember, you are an adult now, and you can redefine your expectations for yourself based on how you want to live.

Take care of your own needs.

Not everyone can be everything to anyone, but that’s what we unconsciously expect.

We often feel upset, disappointed, hurt, neglected, misunderstood, or rejected when someone does not meet our expectations. To live in a state of joy, take personal responsibility for your needs, wants, and desires.

Hence everything you receive from another person is a gift, and you can live in a state of appreciation.

Know what your communication style is.

Not everyone speaks the same language. Some people rely on emotional thinking, while others rely on critical thinking. The dividing line does not depend on whether you are male or female. It depends on your dominant lobe and is present at birth. This remains constant throughout your life.

If your dominant sense is emotional, you will be aware of your feelings and the feelings of others. When you are tired or stressed, you do not have the energy to be rational about something and will react emotionally when asked to make a decision.

If your dominant sense is mental, you will look at things from logical, practical, and rational angles, often ignoring your feelings and the feelings of others.

Once you understand your communication and realize that others don’t necessarily speak the same language, you can stop expecting people to say the things you want. Then, you can open yourself up to listen to what others have to say, and they can in turn do the same for you.

Understand and reflect on what is bothering you.

When you have unresolved emotional issues within yourself that you don’t like, you will find it very difficult to deal with them or even tolerate them in someone else.

It’s like looking in a mirror.

The answer is to take personal responsibility and look at your behavior and the unresolved emotional issues that are driving your behavior. It is difficult to see your problems and easier to see unwanted behavior in someone else. So, check yourself before you respond to anyone else.

Monitor your health and well-being.

Are you hungry, tired, or irritable? Your blood sugar level could be low. This can happen before you even register feeling hungry. Don’t just grab something sweet. It will only worsen the situation. While sugar will quickly raise your blood sugar level, it will also cause it to drop, putting more stress on your already stressed adrenals. The best answer is to eat something with a more sustained release, like nuts and seeds with fruit or popcorn with real butter and mineral salt.

Fatigue may also play a role in this. Do not bring up sensitive topics when the other party is exhausted. You won’t get the response you want, and it will be difficult to bring up the topic again. If it is a time-sensitive issue, set a mutually agreeable time to discuss it.

One of the biggest problems I’ve found in relationships is that we think everyone should think the way we think. It is simply not possible! The reason for this is that our body chemistry is different.

Here are 5 ways to heal from a toxic relationship with your mother:

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