Relationships can be a complex maze of emotions, deep connections, and, sometimes, hidden red flags that many of us inadvertently (or intentionally) ignore.

In other words, as much as relationships are a blessing, they can also be very confusing at times. And even in the end it hurts us.

And if you are lucky in love, you may be at the point where you are thinking and contemplating your current relationship, constantly wondering if those little quarrels and quirks are just regular ups and downs…

Or if these are signs of a deeper problem it could be the demise of the bond that the two lovebirds share.

So, how do you determine if what you’re going through is a normal part of being in a relationship, or when it’s a big red warning sign that something isn’t quite right?

The following seven red flags are ones that often go unnoticed in relationships, until it’s too late.

If these aren’t unfamiliar to you, it may be time to take a hard look at your relationship before small cracks turn into irreparable fractures.

1) Unresolved past issues

We’ve all gone through difficult periods in our past relationships. Overcoming these obstacles is what usually makes us stronger.

But sometimes, those unresolved issues tend to seep into our existing relationships, creating a murky pool of resentment and misunderstanding.

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You may notice that your partner talks about past events, experiences, or people during arguments or casual conversations more than seems normal.

You may also find yourself on the receiving end of reactions that seem out of proportion to the situation at hand.

Either way, let the past have its moment, but know that if it has a seat at the table every day of the week, you can’t live without it.

2) Excessive agreement

The harmony of always being on the same page with your partner may seem like the ideal scenario. However, sometimes excessive agreement can be a subtle sign of an underlying problem in your relationship.

You may notice that your partner agrees with you on almost everything, from trivial decisions like where to eat dinner to major decisions like financial planning or having children. This may make you feel valued and loved at first, but it may also indicate that your partner is suppressing their opinions or not fully engaging in the relationship.

How do you differentiate between a supportive partner and someone who goes along with everything?

How do you resolve a disagreement with someone who comments on and agrees with every word you say?

Because inevitably, he will argue. For one thing, you may find that your relationship catches fire if you don’t learn the tools to fix things…

Although it seems counterintuitive, not arguing at all can actually be a red flag.

So, if this sounds familiar, it may be helpful to encourage open and honest discussions where you and your partner can freely express your thoughts and feelings.

3) Constant search for reassurance

It is natural to seek validation and reassurance in a relationship. However, a constant need for reassurance can sometimes be an indicator of deep feelings of insecurity or lack of self-esteem.

You may notice that your partner frequently questions your feelings for him, needs constant affirmations of your love, or seeks approval for every small decision. At first, it may seem endearing and you may attribute it to their love for you, but over time, this can become exhausting and create a sense of imbalance in the relationship.

How do you differentiate between a partner who shies away from the anxious side of life and just needs a little extra reassurance, and a partner who relies on you for his self-confidence?

Well, although anxious attachments can be difficult to deal with, they can be strengthened by deep, reassuring love.

But if your partner is still clinging to you for validation, it could be a sign of someone who can’t stand on their own two feet.

4) Over-reliance on technology

In this digital age, it is not uncommon for technology to play an important role in our lives. However, when it starts to take over your relationship, it can be a red flag.
You may notice your partner constantly checking their phone during your dates, or you may find yourselves spending the evenings side by side, engrossed in your individual screens instead of interacting with each other.

But if you feel like you’re handling someone else’s smartphone to have a good time, that’s a big red flag.

Although screens are important in keeping us connected with our loved ones far away, and allowing us to work faster, it is still important to be able to switch off work completely and focus on the real world.

And let me tell you right now – a person who can’t look away from their screen and look at your face is doing you a disservice.

5) Abandon emotions

It’s a difficult situation when you pour out your heart, only to have your significant other dismiss your feelings as trivial or exaggerated.

You may find yourself in moments where you share your deepest fears, your greatest joys, or your most painful fears, and they are dismissed with casual phrases like “You’re thinking too much” or “You’re too sensitive.”

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It takes learning and growth for couples to understand and support each other’s emotional needs.

But if you’ve been in a relationship for several months or years, and you’re still left out even though you’re trying to help your partner learn how to love you better…

Bad sign!

6) Excessive gift giving

Gifts are usually a symbol of appreciation and love in a relationship. However, an excessive gift-giving pattern can sometimes be a sign of overcompensation or an attempt to hide underlying issues.

You may notice that your partner showers you with expensive gifts or frequent surprises.

While these gestures may seem charming and generous at first, they may also indicate that your partner is trying to make up for something, distract you from problems or even manipulate your emotions.

7) Always point out flaws
Constructive criticism is a healthy part of any relationship, it helps us grow and improve. However, when he crosses this line and is constantly trolling or belittling, it can be a red flag.

You may notice that your partner frequently points out your flaws, and makes negative comments about your appearance, behavior, or choices.

At first, you may see this person as pushing you to improve, but over time, this may erode your self-esteem and create dissonance in the relationship.

If you’ve mentioned how this makes you feel bad about yourself and you still have this behavior persist, consider how healthy it is to love someone who seems to constantly focus on your shortcomings in the long run.

Red flags: when to leave and when to stay

While the above red flags provide some guidance in spotting potential problems in a relationship, it is important to remember that every relationship is unique and complex in its own way.

What could be a red flag in one context, could be a completely minor issue in another – so don’t let one red flag found in your own relationship be the end of it.

It is also important to remember that people have the ability to change and grow, plus no one is perfect. One red (or amber) flag does not necessarily mean a relationship is doomed to failure. In many cases, these warning signs can serve as catalysts for conversations that lead to better understanding, mutual growth, and stronger bonds.

However, if these red flags persist despite being addressed openly and honestly, it may be an indication of deeper issues that require professional help or a reexamination of the relationship itself.