It’s normal to be hurt after a breakup. It’s completely normal to cry, feel bad, and grieve the loss of your romantic partner.
However, it is completely different when you are involved with a toxic person. In fact, this type of man makes you feel more than one destructive emotion, and here are 10 of them.
Heart broken
The first thing every toxic man you let into your life will do to you is break your heart and leave indelible scars on it.
He’ll smash it with every move he makes to the point where you’ll think it’s absolutely impossible to glue it back together.
Yes, every breakup probably leaves you sad. However, the difference between this man and all the other men you’ve ever been involved with is that a toxic man will not only break your heart once you break up, he will do so throughout your entire relationship.
I am not saying that you will not have any happy moments but I can assure you that unfortunately pain will prevail.
He will hurt you in ways you couldn’t imagine, and he will end up crushing your vulnerable heart into a million pieces.
Emotionally drained
After spending time around a toxic person, you feel tired.
However, I’m not just talking about physical fatigue here, although that is also a side effect that you are likely to experience.
I’m talking about that feeling when you’re exhausted and emotionally exhausted. About losing the desire to live and not having the strength to continue.
A toxic man leaves you depressed and feeling like you can’t get out of bed. It will make you want to give up everything you put your mind to.
You see, a guy like this, the constant arguments he makes and the constant tears he makes you cry wears you down to the point where you just want to spend the rest of your life locked in your room, with a blanket over your head.
You feel like you are too weak to finish your daily chores, let alone do anything with your life.
crazy
Am I overreacting? Did it all really happen the way I remember it or am I actually imagining things?
Am I crazy? Is he gaslighting me or have I misinterpreted our entire conversation?
If these are some of the questions you’ve been asking yourself lately, you’re on your way to feeling completely crazy.
This is exactly what this man wants, to manipulate you and make you think you are crazy and make you doubt your sanity.
Of course, he won’t be able to achieve all of this from the beginning.
However, after spending some time around him, you’ll have a little voice in your head, telling you that maybe he’s right, after all, and that you’re the one making a fuss about nothing.
Another thing a toxic man will make you feel is that he is stupid.
Besides undermining your intelligence and acting like he’s smarter than you and always knows better during your relationship, you’ll continue to feel this way even after you break up with him.
The moment you step out of this toxic romance and the moment you start observing it from a distance, you’ll wonder how you couldn’t have seen some things sooner.
How were you so foolish that you believed this man’s lies and how did you think he would change?
After going through hell with him, you’ll start questioning all your choices.
Are you mature enough to manage your own life and can you rely on your judgment skills?
not enough
When you’re around a toxic friend, you’re never pretty, smart, beautiful, attractive, or interesting enough.
No matter what you do, how hard you try, no matter how big sacrifices you make and how deeply you care – nothing you do will ever be good enough.
At first, he’s trying to “make you better” and “for your own good.” His insults are masked with bits of advice and you don’t notice that he’s doing his best to humiliate you.
You don’t see how he constantly treats you like you’re the submissive.
How he always acts like he’s above you and that you should consider yourself lucky to have a catch like him to lay his eyes on you.
Once you realize what’s happening, it’s too late. You are already dealing with a lot of insecurities that he has managed to ingrain deep within you.
And before you know it, you start questioning your worth and start thinking of yourself as not being good enough either.
After all, you’re doing your best and this guy is never happy, so you must be the problem.
jealous
When you spend your entire relationship comparing yourself to every girl who passes by your ex-boyfriend, especially his ex-girlfriends, it is natural for your jealousy to reach its peak.
When you spend years hearing that all these other girls are better than you and that you can never be like them, it’s only natural that you start hating them, not knowing that they have nothing to do with the fact that you’re dating a toxic person. A guy who only brings you down with his bad comments.
When you are told that you are replaceable and that you are nothing special, when you are betrayed more than
This is exactly what your toxic partner wants: to turn you into someone much worse than you already are.
sinner
Even though you are the victim of this story, your toxic friend somehow managed to turn the tables and make you look like the bad guy here.
Even though he’s the one who treats you like shit, he manages to put all the blame on you.
Instead of taking responsibility and standing behind his actions, it is easier for him to blame you for the fact that your relationship is falling apart.
It’s easier to make you feel like you’re the one to blame than to face reality and admit to both of you that he’s the only one to blame.
If he’s cheating on you, he did it because you denied him sex, or because you don’t look like you used to, or because this other woman gave him something you couldn’t.
Either way, the bottom line is that you pushed him into the arms of someone else and he would never have thought about having an affair if you hadn’t caused it.
If he was abusing you, you made him nervous, looked at him the wrong way, or yelled during your fight. The list goes on and on.
Unable to love
Once you end your toxic boyfriend’s relationship, you become convinced that you can never love another man the way you loved him.
You think it killed your ability to care about someone of the opposite sex, to let someone new in, or to trust anyone else again.
Not only that, he makes you think that all the other men are just like him.
There is absolutely no point in looking for someone better because every friend will treat you worse than they treat you.
So, it is best to stay in your comfort zone, where you know what to expect.
After all, at least you know you loved that toxic guy once and that’s better than being with someone you don’t completely care about.
It’s not about being loved
However, a toxic man won’t just convince you that you can’t love someone else after him. In fact, he will also do his best to make you believe that no man could ever love you the way he loved you.
After all, who wants an emotionally damaged woman by his side? Who will have the patience to wait for you to open up and let him in?
What man would be willing to heal your wounds and live with your scars?
What man wastes his time on a woman who needs repair and is so damaged?
In addition, if this man who has known you for a long time claims that you have a lot of flaws, and if he keeps pointing out your flaws, what else can this new man see?
If he can’t stand you and if he thinks you’re not enough, then every person who comes into your life will surely consider you unlovable.
sacred
Another emotion that all toxic friends awaken within their victims is fear.
I am talking here about irrational and paralyzing fear that does not allow you to function properly.
At first, you are afraid of everything this man can do. What will he do to you next?
Then, when you take off your rose-colored glasses, you’re afraid to leave him. Do you have what it takes to live without it?
Once you finish it, you are afraid to return to the real world. Will you succeed?
You’re afraid to feel like this forever. Will she ever recover and move on for real?
Finally, you are afraid to move forward. Will your next experience end the same way this one did?
