Double standards in relationships are very common and seem to have been so since the beginning of time.

Both men and women use it against each other, and no one is innocent, but somehow, women seem to get a worse end every time.

Different rules apply to men and women. In general, and in most world cultures, when it comes to male-female relationships, things can get pretty unfair.

I know the world isn’t fair, but should women be judged more harshly for doing the same things as men?

of course not. But they do it anyway, and there are a lot of toxic men who use double standards in relationships to their advantage.

One might assume that things will change in this century, and that double standards will become a thing of the past.

Unfortunately, there are red flags for this type of behavior all over the world.

So be careful and look for the toxic signs of double standards in relationships that you should never tolerate.

List of double standards in romantic relationships:

1. When guys have girlfriends, they expect you to see it as something completely normal and acceptable, but having male friends doesn’t fit the bill.

This is not just a matter of double standards in relationships, but it is also about trust.

When you have trust in your relationship, other friendships between males or females will not be a problem.

The main difference between men and women here is that women are described as jealous and crazy just thinking that something might happen there that goes beyond friendship.

Men, on the other hand, seek understanding because they feel threatened by the whole situation.

Your partner shouldn’t ask you to get rid of your guy friends just because you two are exclusive now.

He should understand that your male friends have been in your life long before him, and if you want to have something more than just friendship, you will already have it.

It’s not okay for him to ask you to bear something he can’t bear. Protect your friendships and don’t risk losing a good friend to someone who clearly doesn’t trust you.

A good partner understands that you have a long life ahead of them, and during that time you have developed many friendships.

Some of them are with men who end up being among your closest friends. If he trusts you, he knows you won’t do anything to jeopardize your relationship.

If he doesn’t, he will pressure you to stop seeing your guy friends.

It’s up to you to decide who controls your life and your group of friends. And this person should be you and only you, so make it known.

2. When men are opinionated, they are described as impulsive, masculine, and confident. When women are too stubborn, they are called bitches.

Big difference there. It is as if the Middle Ages have returned again, and women should be prevented from expressing their thoughts openly and directly.

It’s funny that in this day and age, women are looked at differently and called “bitches” just because they dare to stand up for what they believe in.

A man who calls you a talkative and wants to restrict your freedom of expression is definitely not the right man for you.
The only opinion that matters to him is his own and he has no interest in hearing what you have to say.

There are also men who are intimidated by strong, intelligent women and men like this are not the people you should be dating.

You have to realize that these men are not macho and confident; They are weak and they are cowards.

They feel threatened by a strong, stubborn woman, and they make her feel bad about it to boost their fragile ego.

Recognize a weak man when he tries to dim the flame of a strong woman. A real man builds his woman up and pushes her to be her best.

The weak man puts her down, makes her feel wrong for being strong, and calls her a whore.

I think it’s time for this charade to stop, and the only way for that to happen is when every woman speaks up.

3. When men have more intimate partners, they are applauded, but women who have a similar number are shamed.

When a man sees more naked women’s bodies than he can count, he’s a hero among his friends. He’s a great player and that’s completely normal.

But if a woman had to admit it publicly, she would feel ashamed. They will be labeled as “easy” or called all sorts of names.

Yes, this still happens. Doesn’t seem quite fair, does it? This is because it is not and women should be able to decide who to sleep with and when, just as men do.

If you’re dating someone who’s putting you down because of your high number of exes (and/or open, non-exclusive relationships), you’re dealing with the wrong guy.

This should never be a problem. Your bedroom life or past should never be against you.

Some find love with their high school sweetheart and others find it later. Your number will likely depend on it, and it’s not something you should be ashamed of.

Do not tolerate this type of behavior. Never let any man tell you that you’re a slut because you’ve had the same number of intimate partners as him.
This kind of behavior is horrific and takes us back in time.

Be proud of your choices and support them no matter what. Whoever has a problem with that is a scoundrel who has no respect or morals. You need a real man, and this isn’t him.

4. When a man spends his entire day playing video games, that’s totally fine, but when a woman spends her entire day shopping, that’s superficial.

The important thing is that shopping is, just like video games, they are good leisure activities – something you do to relax and have some fun after all those hectic days.

Obviously, men and women look at things differently, but no one should be judged for what they do in their free time.

If the guy you’re dating expects you to understand that he’s a gamer, he should understand that you want to go shopping, have a girl’s night out, climb mountains, or whatever your favorite hobby is.

Remind him that you don’t understand his desire to play games, but you respect that. In the same way, he should respect your interests as well, and allow you to enjoy your life on your own terms.

5. When a woman works long hours she is looked down upon for being a professional, and when a man does the same he is hardworking and praiseworthy.

There is nothing wrong with hard work and ambition. In a healthy relationship, partners will support and support each other.

They will celebrate each other’s victories and will never feel afraid of the other’s success.

That is, provided that you are never so busy that you cannot maintain the relationship and find time for each other, because what is the point of being in a relationship if you never see your partner?

However, if the relationship is unhealthy and you find yourself with a toxic person, the double standards will be quite evident.

Your partner will not be the wind under your wings that helps you fly. He’ll be the one pinning you to the ground.

It will make you feel like you are not qualified enough or good enough to succeed.

This is exactly the thing you should not tolerate. Be with the person who always pushes you to do more and be more because he sees all the potential and all the greatness in you.

Be with someone who doesn’t see your success as a failure.

Standing up for yourself and your right to work just as hard as men, and getting equal respect, paves the way for young women in the world to find their way and not put up with what you and the rest of us do. .

6. When a guy spends his entire day doing nothing and wearing boxer shorts, that’s cute. When a woman does the same thing in her pajamas, she is lazy, dirty, and completely neglecting herself and her man.

This is also something that should be left in the past. In this modern era, men and women should be equal in everything, including daily chores.

Things like cooking and cleaning should involve both partners.

The same should be done with lazy days, and both partners are equally entitled to them.

No one is above anyone, and the time when women met every man’s needs is long behind us. Tough luck guys!

Two people in a relationship are partners and they both need to invest in their relationship and put in the necessary effort.

So, take turns doing everything, be both diligent and lazy. If he doesn’t agree to this, teach him how to take care of himself by leaving him alone

Once a man is left to his own devices, and has to cook, clean, and take care of daily chores by himself, only then will he realize how much effort a woman puts into everything she does.

We deserve to have lazy days where we don’t have to dress for anyone, impress anyone’s friends, or act in a way that pleases those around us.

We deserve our vacation days more than men because of the amount of effort we put into everything to be treated with half the respect.

7. When he spends a night on the town with guys, you should show understanding, but when you go out with girls, he shows jealousy, anger, and frustration.

Talk about double standards in relationships. He looks for understanding every time he goes out with his male friends.

On the other hand, he is unable to understand your need to do the same with your girlfriends. It’s hypocritical, to say the least.

If he expects you to trust him when he’s out with friends, clubbing, and partying with all the other women around him, then he should trust you when it comes to men, too.

It’s not okay to have different sets of standards for you and him. Once again, let me stress the importance of the word equality in a relationship.

If he’s going to come out and let loose, so do you. If he’s going to party until the wee hours of the night, so should you! No apologies. There is no pressure to be “best” and nothing.

Just two partners enjoying their lives in an equal and fair way. At first glance he suggests otherwise, you should show him the door and never look back.

8. When it’s okay for a man to have a wandering eye, but not for a woman too.
   When an attractive, attractive woman walks by, nine out of ten men will check her out from top to bottom, and see nothing wrong with it.

They’ll even follow up that long stare with random comments about how nice her butt looks or how pretty she is.

On the other hand, if an attractive man walks by and you don’t give him more than a glance, most guys won’t think twice before making a move on you.

They won’t be able to understand why you need to check out a random person.

Welcome? He did the exact same thing the other day to a woman he barely knew in your presence. Don’t tolerate his double standards.

Explain that he did the same thing and you moved him, and if he can control his roving eyes, you will too.

Another solution might be to accept the fact that checking out someone has nothing to do with your relationship or your mutual feelings.

Noticing another person is normal.

Stalking someone else while you’re in a relationship is a completely different, more serious, unforgivable matter, and should not be confused with something as simple as a wandering eye.

9. When he keeps in touch with his ex, it’s okay, but when she does the same, it’s a lack of loyalty.

Bringing your ex into your new relationship is difficult. Not many people can handle it and it causes confusion right from the start.

However, some people can remain in good relationships with their exes, but that relationship should never be more important than the one you are in now.

Your new partner shouldn’t feel like they come last and your ex comes first. There’s a reason they’re exes.

But if your partner is using double standards here, he will justify his contact with his ex but will judge you harshly.

He will blame you, and you will likely have a lot of fights involving the ex.

Don’t let him get away with it. What applies to you also applies to him.

Speak frankly. Don’t let your ex dictate your current relationship. You both should put your current relationship first.