- He is a master of manipulation.
If you always feel like you’re the only one invested in your relationship, you’re probably right. He’s acting like this is how things are supposed to be and you owe him something.
He will make you believe that everything he says is true. It will make you feel guilty even if you know you are not the person responsible. He’s so good at manipulation that you can’t even detect him. The reason you can’t see it is because you care too much and are too close to seeing the whole picture.
The first thing you need to realize is that you don’t owe him anything. If you stay at a distance from Him even for a while, you will see that He is not the gift God sent you and that He is not all-knowing. Don’t let him use the fact that you care about him to manipulate you.
- You have to prove your love.
He always puts you in situations where you have to choose between him and someone else or something else. Somehow you will always feel the need to choose him and that is exactly what he wants.
He’ll say things like: “You don’t really like me if you’d rather spend the night with your friends instead of me.” “I think you look your best when you’re dressed casually. Who are you wearing your clothes for then? Isn’t my opinion more important?”
Everything you do that doesn’t relate to him, or goes against what he believes, makes him feel bad and insecure. Therefore, he is constantly looking for proof of your love.
Don’t fall into this trap. You have to have things to do for you. You should have your own friends and spend time with them. You may need to dress and look nice to make yourself happy. Let him know that you are important too and you don’t have to agree with everything he says.
- He has sudden mood swings.
He will have moments where he is very sweet and loving, and within seconds, he will be mean and unpleasant towards you. He’ll try his best one day but the next you’ll find yourself wondering what you did to upset him (or what you did to make him ignore your texts).
The usual answer when you ask him what’s wrong is: “Nothing. It’s fine!” And you can feel that everything is good. You will know that this behavior is unjustified but you will excuse it anyway and do your best to make him feel better.
Get rid of the need to indulge in it. He’s very used to you trying to encourage him in these situations. The best thing you can do is go – walk and come back when things settle down. Don’t allow him to make something out of nothing. If something is really not right, he should say it out loud like a real man; You are not a mind reader.
- Sorry is not a word in his dictionary.
He’ll make you say, “I’m sorry” as many times as necessary, even for something you shouldn’t be sorry about. He’s good at guilt tripping. But when you expect his apology, you wait in vain.
His ego does not allow him to apologize or admit that he made a mistake. He would rather lie and spin the story his way than apologize.
So, don’t spend your precious energy expecting him to act differently. Simply move forward, but without it. Don’t get too involved in discussions but don’t give up on the truth either. Maybe he cares more about being right than being happy.
The above things are the most common things that happen when you are dealing with a toxic man. His primary weapon is manipulation and it can have many different types, so be careful and keep your eyes open.
If he becomes desperate in his manipulations, it’s because he needs something from you, not the other way around. Maybe he needs to feel your love. Seeks your approval. He needs you to feel better about himself.
You can stay or leave, the decision is up to you; Just make sure you don’t regret it. Make sure you don’t suffer because you love him. The price you pay should not be too high.
