I bet the phrase “love bombing” sounds glorious to you, doesn’t it? Well, it’s a tactic used by narcissists. Yikes!

When some people talk about narcissist, the last word they use is “love.” This is because when you realize that you are with a narcissist, the love you thought was not real at all. It’s strange because, in the beginning, everything was a whirlwind of adventure and excitement.

And this is how it works. The narcissist thrives on intense love at first and then collapses toward the end of the relationship. There is a name for this.

Examples of love bombing

I could talk all day about why narcissists do the things they do, or how they feel about themselves, but would that put it into perspective on life? Not real.

One of the best ways to understand how they act is to talk about some examples of how they lifted you only to let you down. If you can see the similarities, it might save you from this torment of love.

1. “I love you” comes too soon
   Saying I love you is never wrong. But saying that you love someone romantically is something you should think long and hard about beforehand. Narcissists are famous for rushing into relationships with declarations of love.

And the look on their faces makes them seem like they’re being completely sincere. In a way, they are because, right now, they are in love. They like to be in love, not you.

2. Lots of compliments
   Here’s an example of how a narcissist drops the love bomb. Now, we love the way our boyfriends or girlfriends compliment us, right? It’s nice to hear that you’re talented or beautiful, isn’t it?

The narcissist will give you so many of these compliments, it will seem like you are living in a dream. And guess what it is. Some things a narcissist might say are: “You have the most beautiful voice I’ve ever heard” or “I don’t know how I lived without you.”

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The compliments are so thick and sweet, we seem to see them for what they are, but we are hypnotized. We hear these wonderful compliments and they make us feel good about ourselves and give us an adrenaline rush like never before. Watch out for these strong compliments.

They’re not what they seem.

3. But it’s really about them
   You may get a lot of praise, but watch it when it has the opportunity to attract attention. They will quickly drop you to get that extra praise for themselves, usually from someone else.

Not only will narcissists love bombarding you, they will stand under a barrage of love from anyone, anywhere. Remember, it doesn’t matter where it comes from. It is only important that their life is always intense.

4. You are supposed to be their soulmate
   In their journey towards absolute control, narcissists will try to convince you that you are soulmates. From the beginning, that burst of hormones you get during the beginning of a relationship will be called a sign that you are meant to be together forever.

This is what the narcissist will tell you. You’ll know it’s time to run away if someone says they feel like they could marry you, and you’ve only known them for a week or two.

5. Partners in need
   You’ll know you’re being love bombed when your partner is too needy. They will want your constant attention, and when you leave, they will blow up your phone with texts and calls until you come back. This may sound nice, but in reality, it’s a controlled maneuver they use to further trap you.
6. Those wonderful gestures
   Love bombing means extravagant gifts. From the beginning, your partner will buy you a lot of cute and romantic gifts, such as teddy bears, flowers, or even expensive perfumes. Men, narcissistic ladies exist too and can buy you expensive watches or cologne.

These early abundant gifts may feel good at first, but over time, you will begin to feel suffocated. Their actions will no longer match the gifts they give, and when you get angry, they will try to make you feel guilty because they are “doing so much for you.” It’s a really toxic game.

This kind of “love” is heartbreaking

When it comes to love bombing, a lot of people get hurt. The worst part is that they never see it coming. If you are not familiar with the ways of this type of narcissist, you will fall in love with a fairy tale. It will be a fairy tale that will not have a happy ending. You won’t forget it easily either.

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I was there. I’ve had the love bomb dropped on me by a narcissist before and it hurt more than being abused by someone who was an honest jerk with a chip on their shoulder. I think losing love is sometimes harder than never feeling love in the first place.