So, you have a narcissist in a tight spot they know they won’t escape.

The argument is on, and you’re finding ways to overcome it.

Congratulations!

It’s also hilarious to watch them squirming at your reality, realizing there’s nothing they can do…

…or is there?

Never ignore a narcissist; that’s all I’m going to say here! If you want to prevail, read on.

Notice Them Writhing?

It’s fun to witness, isn’t it? Finally, you’ve caught them. You’ve mastered a way to empower yourself in an instant, and you’re not taking it lightly.

You might even witness an argument between two people, one of whom is a narcissist. Is it at work? Or at home?

It’s interesting to watch the narcissist writhe around, unable to shake off the discomfort around them.

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But pay close attention, because you’ll want to.

Annoy Them By Going To Win

I like to offer as sound advice as possible while remaining professional, but let’s be realistic for a moment.

If you’re going to go for it, you have to understand that you’re going to annoy them. You have to accept it gracefully and accept it anyway.

Let’s say you’re in the middle of an argument that the narcissist can’t seem to win.

What would you experience? What would you expect?

1 Break Your Boundaries

While your boundaries may be valuable to you, they’re worthless to a narcissist. In fact, narcissists see all boundaries people set as challenges.

How can I break them?

I’m exempt from these boundaries.

I have the right to do what I want.

Your feelings don’t matter.

As long as I get what I want, everything will be fine.

How dare you reject me?!

The list goes on, but the fact remains…

…your boundaries don’t matter to them.

But it matters to you, doesn’t it? If it didn’t, you wouldn’t have put it in place.

So keep doing what feels right for you, even if it feels uncomfortable at first.

You have to maintain your boundaries, even when the narcissist literally tries to break them.

This is your survival method.

2 Cry

And here come the crocodile tears.

The narcissist knows they’re a loser in this situation, and they want you to feel sorry for them. They want everyone present to feel the same way, too.

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I’m sorry to say, this is a harsh outcome for winning, because you won’t feel like winning at all.

In fact, all the joy and power you feel from your superiority will be taken away by the narcissist the moment their lower lip starts quivering.

They know what they’re doing, right. If you dismiss their tears as fake, you’ll come across as insensitive. If you indulge them, you’re giving them what you want.

You won’t win—and so they turn the victory on them.

Crying like this is nothing but a cheap way to emerge victorious from a losing battle.

3 Guilt Is Coming

You feel bad, don’t you? No?

Well, you’re about to, because the guilt trip is coming, and it’s coming with a vengeance.

You always seem to know just what to say to really upset me.

I never imagined you had this capacity for neglect.

The only thing that drew me to you was knowing you were a nice person, and you’ve just proven to me that you’re not at all.

Instinctively, your shoulders slump, and you see this soft side of the narcissist that you rarely see.

And there, in the middle of your chest.

Guilt.

A thought runs through your mind.

They’re right. I’m really being unreasonable. Maybe I should give them a chance and go easy on them. Maybe they didn’t mean what they did, and I should listen to their reasoning and back off.

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Great ideas, but these are exactly what the narcissist wants to hear from you.

4 Does he embarrass you? Absolutely!

If they could make you look like a fool, they would.

Look at this guy! He’s losing his temper in front of all of you!

Do you see how stupid you make yourselves look?

God, you look so ugly when you yell at me.

Listen, it will take any effort to calm down and stop what you’re doing.

If they insult you, so what?

If they embarrass you, so be it.

5 Anger

If in doubt, yell.

That’s the motto every narcissist should have on their forehead so we can recognize them, right?

It would make life so much easier!

Instead, they don’t. They blend in with us, the average person, and they fool us a lot.

If you get them to a point where they can’t win an argument, they’ll unleash their anger on you like a rocket.

It’s distracting, but in the moment of anger, it’s like they’re just trying to make you feel bad.

Make no mistake, they’re that way too. But their primary goal is to distract you from the core of the argument and turn it into their anger.

6 Never Forgive

The one time you argue, they’ll never forget it. What the nerve to scream and yell like a little kid!

Now, fast-forward X amount of time every time they want to make you feel bad for daring to win an argument.

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It’s like that time when…

Remember when…?

I’ll never forget the look on your face when…

And so it goes.

On and on.

7 Turn it into an attack: Poor me.

You’re really irritating me.

I feel like your tone is too harsh.

I don’t deserve this.

I’m a good person.

Oh, listen to them.

Why don’t you give them a tiny little violin to play while they do it?

8 Your name? Clay!

Of course!

If anyone mentions your name to a narcissist, they can completely destroy you in one sentence.

It’s usually not offensive, but it can be incredibly hurtful, sexist, or even downright alarming for you (I really hope they get help for what they’re going through).

This is how narcissists like to build up their ego after you’ve destroyed it, and hey, if they can tear your name apart while they do it, that’s extra narcissism points for them!