It seems unnecessary to look for signs of a bad relationship. But in reality, we stay in bad relationships for longer than we should. One of the main reasons is that we are so used to things going wrong that bad things become normal. The other, more powerful reason is that we love the person and continue to hope that things can be fixed and that the whole situation can change for the better.
We have to realize that getting used to being unhappy is not a solution. You need someone whose main goal is to make you happy and your goal is to make them happy. We also have to realize that sometimes love is not enough even though it is the most important thing. Relationships need trust, honesty, respect, mutual efforts and continuous work. Otherwise love cannot last.
That’s why sometimes we need a little help and signs that will open our eyes and see the truth about harsh things:
- Your partner is too controlling
You feel like you are missing freedom. It watches your every move and doesn’t let you breathe. In these situations, you are dealing with a toxic manipulator or an extremely jealous person. Relationships with any of them will suffocate you, distance you from your friends, and inevitably cause you pain. Relationships are built on trust and both partners should have their own space and time. If you don’t have trust, respect and freedom, it’s time to say our final goodbyes. - He disguises insults as a joke.
“It’s a joke.” “Don’t be angry.” “Why do you take everything so close to your heart?” are some of the sentences he uses as a cover for obvious insults. But you know it’s not a joke if you’re not laughing. Don’t let him get you down or treat you like a joke. - Your communication is limited to battles.
Fighting from time to time can be constructive and make a relationship grow, but it cannot be the only form of communication. If fights become part of your daily routine, you are in trouble. It is clear that you and our partner cannot find the same language and cannot solve anything. The best thing you can do here is to realize that you simply fail to understand each other, and despite your feelings, you shouldn’t stay with him.
- You can’t remember why you were together to begin with.
You lack everything in your relationship. Simple gestures of kindness and affection are non-existent. You try to hold on to the “good old days” but they are so far behind that you can’t remember them clearly anymore. You ask yourself how you ended up here and why you endure and endure everything. But the real question is why don’t you pack your bags? Life is too short to spend it with someone who makes you unhappy. - You stay out of habit.
This is the trap of long-term relationships. People stay together for so long that they themselves are not sure whether they are staying in a bad relationship out of love or out of habit. Sure, you have feelings after such a long time, but is this person standing next to you really someone you can see your entire future with? Are they willing to work on things and fix things that can be fixed? Are they right for you? If the answer is no, the sooner you end things the better for both of you. - He is abusive.
Whether it is physical or emotional abuse, there is absolutely no reason to stay. a period. The person you are dealing with should treat you with respect and affection. It should never occur to them to use or abuse you in any way. If their love is true, they won’t even think about hurting you. Leave immediately. - You’ve already tried to fix things more times than you can count.
You’ve already tried everything you can think of. You had your ups and downs. Your partner will usually try for a shorter period of time and then go back to their old ways. If things in your relationship are broken beyond repair, there is no point in staying. Your attempt to fix things only prolongs the inevitable end.
