Trust is fragile, once lost it can be hard to find. Especially when he always breaks his promises. Here’s why he did it. Here are some things you should keep in mind when having a relationship with a married man.
Are you having an affair and struggling because your married man always breaks his promises?
Are you sure that he is your soulmate and that you are meant to be together forever but you don’t understand why he didn’t keep the promise he made?
Why would he tell you he loves you with one side of his mouth and then lie on the other? How can someone who loves you do that? How can you spend the rest of your life with someone you don’t trust?
I totally get that and been there. At last, I know exactly what is going on.
Let me help you understand why your married spouse always breaks his promises so you can decide what to do about it.
Why did your married man break his promises?
- He makes promises he cannot keep.
The first and most obvious reason, the reason why your married man always breaks his promises is because he makes promises to you that he just can’t keep.
I know that back in the day, a married man always made me promises, big and small.
He would promise that he would be there for dinner or that we could go away for the weekend or that he would call me at a certain time. And then none of those things will happen.
He was also promising me that he would leave his wife and that we would be together forever which never happened.
All of those promises were promises he could not keep. For the little things, life will get in the way and it won’t happen. For the big guy, I now know that for him to do that would have required an enormous amount of strength and fortitude, something he just didn’t have.
I guess he wanted to be with me in the end, but he just couldn’t make it happen. There was a lot at stake for him to leave his wife. He knew that his finances would be ruined, that he would not see his children all the time, and that his social life would suffer.
However, even though he knew it, he promised to leave his wife, and I guess he hoped the stars would align one day and he could do it without causing all the damage he feared.
And that time has never come. shocking…
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- You are not his priority.
I know he says you’re the only one for him and that he puts you and your feelings first every single time, but the truth is, he doesn’t. He may like it, but he doesn’t.
There is work, family, friends, exercises, and chores. All of these things are things to do. And none of it is a secret, like you.
I know that when a married man promised me he would come see me on the weekends and then have to work, he always had to choose work. why? For it was not as if he could tell the work he could not do because he had promised his sweetheart that he would visit her.
He cannot tell his family, friends, or anyone else that I exist. As a result, whenever something came up, I was the one tossed aside.
When we are in a real relationship in which no one keeps a secret, we are an open part of any equation in the decision that is made. You know, a man will try to put his wife first because when she’s happy, he’s happy.
The same thing will happen with a girlfriend. Instead of putting everything else first without thinking about you, your man will be able to openly share with others that he should think of you, and more often than not, plans can be changed in your favor.
However, you are now a secret. You are the one who has to hide from everyone. As a result, even if he wanted to, he couldn’t make you a priority.
And this, I fear, is one of the reasons why your married man always breaks his promises.
- He knows you’ll let him get away with it.
So be honest with yourself – when your married man breaks his promises, do you always forgive him?
I think you’re really angry and you’re telling him that. Maybe you make the decision to leave forever, knowing that you can’t handle the lies anymore. Maybe you are already moving away, heartbroken.
But, do you always come back? I suspect that despite the broken promises, you truly believe that he is the love of your life and that once he leaves his wife he will stop keeping his promises and you will live happily ever after after you return.
So, knowing that there will be no consequences if your husband always breaks his promises, why would he make any real effort to make any change, to keep the promises he made?
The best thing to do if your married man always breaks his promises is to get up and walk away. Walk away until he leaves his wife and is ready to put you first.
I mean, if you had a friend who always broke his promises, would you stay, forgiving him every time for his actions? I guess maybe not!
- He just might be a liar.
It might not surprise you to hear that your married man might be a liar.
I mean, after all, he’s stepping on his wife, and at this point, the lying probably has a habit he just can’t control.
Men who cheat on their wives are often men who find it difficult to control their behavior. Men who feel bad about themselves. Men who know they let people down. And when they feel really bad about themselves, they can develop toxic behavior patterns. And lying is one of them.
I know that when we met the married man he was very honest with me. We shared all our hopes, dreams, unhappiness, and from that we shared our love.
But, as time went on and our relationship became more complicated, he stopped being the open and honest person he always was. He knew he was letting me down and he didn’t want to do that. So, to try and keep me from feeling bad, he made promises that he knew he wouldn’t be able to keep. And he did it over and over again despite how much worse I felt than if he hadn’t
And knowing that I would not leave him, even if he lied, he gave him permission to do so, again and again. We developed this pattern where he lied and promised never to do it again and I forgave him and we were happy until it happened again.
Think about your relationship. Has it changed over months or years from based on the truth to full of lies? I think it might be!
- He knows he can’t give you what you really want.
This is why your married man always breaks his promises – because he knows that, in the end, he won’t be able to give you what you want – he.
And the way that feels makes him lie to you, to break his promises.
Your married man loves you. I am sure that. And he wants to be with you in his life because you give him pleasure and sex and allow him to break away from his monotonous life, even just a little bit. Because of this love, he doesn’t want to lie to you but feels he has to to protect himself and you.
So you two are doing this dance, the fancy waltz, trying to create a world where you can be together. And that universe is built on broken promises and fear of the future.
Unfortunately, often such things end. One participant realizes that they must give up because the pain is so intense, and that person is usually the woman.
And men will do anything for them to stay and so they make more promises, desperate to keep them in their lives, even if they know they can’t keep them.
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It’s so heartbreaking to know that your married man always breaks his promises.
I know that you love him and that you truly believe that you are soulmates but I am here to tell you that this is not true. Your married man is just another damaged soul, someone who doesn’t know what to do next.
As a result, they take the easy way out – making promises and then breaking them.
It’s up to you now.
Do you want to keep on the gerbil wheel of lying to her, waiting for your married man to leave his wife and be with you?
Do you want to continue forgiving him in the hope that things will change?
Can you really love someone who lies to you over and over again?
You only have one life to live – do you really live it the way you want to?
If not, make a change! you can do that! I promise you.
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