Your body, mind and spirit have been crushed by this person who does not respect you enough to never show his face in your life again.
He’s probably still popping up somewhere around you just to make things more difficult for you. This is exactly what a toxic person will do. Toxic relationships are the worst.
At some point, you started thinking about what made you fall in love with him in the first place and why you didn’t leave sooner. But believe me, these are both questions you need to find answers to, because facing the facts and admitting your problems is the first step towards healing.
But let’s be honest for a moment, healing is often very difficult for all of us. We cry, it hurts, we want to go back but we know we shouldn’t, and we feel so many other things that are not easy to deal with.
Especially not in such a fragile state of mind. You are not the only one going through this. We are all guilty of making all of these mistakes while recovering from our toxic relationship.
To make it a little easier on you and remind myself of the mistakes I’ve made before (so I won’t repeat them), here are all the mistakes we make while recovering from a toxic relationship:
- We go through all the memories in our heads
Yes, I know your head is full of memories that you want to bring to light again but this is the worst thing you can do. Especially if you are doing well in the healing process and then memories pop into your head and you burst into tears without any warning.
I am very aware of the fact that you cannot change your past and you cannot erase your memories but what you can do is actually prevent yourself from going through this horror again. By thinking about all those experiences, you relive them emotionally and open those wounds again. So stop yourself.
Have a technique that you will simply use so that you do not allow your memories to get the best of you. For me, this means putting on a song that has nothing to do with my past and walking around the apartment until I feel better again.
- We want to accelerate it
I’ve done this many times. I have always tried to speed up the healing process because I read online about all these methods that can help. But Rome wasn’t built in a day, and we can’t recover quickly either.
Give yourself all the time you need. Trust me, life won’t get mad at you just because you had to take a nap because you had a bad anxiety attack that sapped all your energy. Just give yourself all the time needed to heal properly.
- We believe that someone else is responsible for our emotions
“The heart is a heavy burden.” It’s a quote from one of my favorite movies. The heart is a very heavy burden, especially if it is broken, so we tend to look for help from others, which is a mistake.
It’s okay to find a support group that can help you, listen to you, and be there for you. But it’s not okay to expect them to give up their lives to make you feel better. Our healing is our responsibility.
All the answers to all your problems are hidden somewhere inside you. You should not constantly ask others to solve your problems.
- We come back
Unfortunately, there are many women who can’t handle the fact that it ended this way, so they come back. Yes, including me.
The thing is, toxic people don’t give up that easily, so they may want to come back into your life, but never think about coming back into their arms just because your healing process is difficult right now.
stay strong! You’ve come a long way, and throwing everything aside just because they came back to you is not smart at all.
- We think we will never love again
That’s what frustrates us all the most – the idea of never falling in love again. I’ve been through so much pain and suffering, I’ve spent so many nights crying, and it seems like forever has passed since I’ve been happily in love. But don’t lose faith, you will love again!
Your heart will heal and your body will be ready to receive someone else’s hug. Until then, you have to stay strong! One day, when all of this is over, you will love more than you have ever loved before.
