Every relationship will hit a rough patch every now and then. This is no secret that a happy, healthy couple cannot overcome.
A relationship should be your safe place. The place you go when life knocks you down. The place you go for comfort, a genuine smile and a reassuring hug that everything will be okay.
Even when things aren’t going smoothly, you still know that there’s no one else you can go to when you need a loving hug and a sense of belonging.
He’s your safe haven, and no matter what comes your way, he’s the person you want in your corner.
With that said, there is a fundamental difference between a healthy relationship that has hit a rocky path and a toxic, unhealthy relationship that is causing you serious self-esteem issues.
You should never feel like your relationship is draining your energy.
You should never feel like this person is causing you anxiety or uncertainty.
When you’re feeling exhausted, drained, and emotionally angry, it’s time to reconsider who you spend your time with.
No matter what happens and how hard it is, your partner should always be the reason for your smiles and never your tears.
Remember that.
If you feel like your relationship is causing you to go into a downward spiral but you’re too afraid to come to terms with it, here are the most common signs that usually indicate that the relationship is seriously damaging a person’s mental health and self-perception.
- You don’t feel comfortable expressing your personal opinions publicly
Couples should be open, honest and transparent with each other. In any good, healthy, solid relationship, there is no room for fear of expressing any kind of feeling or opinion.
If you feel like you have to walk on eggshells around him and are constantly afraid of his reaction to something, this indicates that something has gone wrong in your relationship.
Don’t let yourself walk everywhere. If you can’t be yourself with this guy, he’s not the man for you!
- You often feel neglected or left out
Your partner should be your primary support system. He should love you very much and never make you feel like you are alone in this relationship.
It’s supposed to make you feel safe!
If you often feel like he doesn’t really care about you, what you have to say or how you feel, is this really someone you consider a good romantic partner?
Someone who rejects your feelings to this extent?
You know it’s not. If the person who is supposed to inspire you, adore you, and reassure you more than anyone else is the reason for your loneliness and sadness, then you need to get the hell out.
You are worthy of love and your feelings matter. Don’t let anyone make you feel otherwise.
- You feel that he wants to change your personality
Never change for anyone. There is only one of you in this world and you are too special to change for a man selfish enough to ask you to!
If your partner makes you feel like you have to change any physical aspect of you, your behavior, or the way you dress, then leave.
he do not Love You. He loves his twisted idea of you.
The right man will come along. He will love every part of you.
The way you look, how you carry yourself and the energy you have. He will fall in love with your quirks and make you feel like the most beautiful girl inside and out.
Until this guy comes along, save yourself the misery of dating insecure assholes.
- You don’t feel like yourself when you’re around him (biggest red flag!)
If you asked any of your best friends to describe you, they would probably say that you are a wonderful, outgoing girl, with a heart of gold and not a bad bone in your body.
A happy go lucky girl with the biggest smile on her face and an abundance of positive energy.
But when you’re with him, you don’t feel like that girl. Not remotely.
You feel like it’s sucking your energy but you’re too afraid to admit it.
You feel like a girl who has to fake a smile every day, just so he doesn’t suspect anything is wrong.
You feel like a girl who has to go along with everything he says, no matter how bad you feel.
Oh and that adorable smile she always has – she’s nowhere to be seen when she’s with him.
This relationship slowly deteriorates your mental health, as you feel like an alien has taken over your body and all you want to do is scream but are too afraid to do so.
Girl, you need to run away from this as much as you can! Relationships are a safe haven, not a place where you feel tired and lonely! He takes parts of you and won’t be satisfied until he takes everything that makes you unique.
Please, find the strength within you and let him go.
He is destroying you mentally and little by little, he is taking parts of your soul that you will never be able to get back once he is done with you.
No one should suffer like this in a relationship. I know it’s hard, but when things get this dangerous, obviously you have to go out and save yourself.
Decide that you are too precious and powerful to allow this man to kill your soul.
The more you stay away from him, the more you start to feel like yourself again.
Free yourself from this toxic manipulator and let your spirit shine among those who love you exactly for who you are!
