I’ve always believed that you are the sum of the people you spend your time with. So, if you’re spending time with people who don’t have dreams or aspirations, you probably won’t have any either.
It is also true that you cannot choose your family, but you can choose your friends.
To be your best and most satisfied in life, here are the types of people you should avoid.
1) Users
Users don’t care about you. They are primarily interested in what they can get from you.
This could be your time, money, connections or resources. In return, they will give you little or nothing at all, which will leave you feeling exploited and disappointed.
So, how do you get to know your users? They constantly ask for favors, and will cajole and charm you on their way to getting you to comply.
But above all, they will only contact you when they want something from you and disappear right after that.
They also don’t show genuine interest in your well-being, struggles, or accomplishments unless it’s related to their own interests.
2) Stabbing in the back
Another group of people you should avoid are cheaters. They pretend to be your friends while secretly undermining you or spreading negative information about you behind your back.
For example, here’s something that happens more often than it should:
Behind your back, a friend starts telling people untrue things about you. They may claim that you said or did something you did not.
Whatever the case, this type of behavior can damage your reputation and create embarrassing situations.
And when you discover their betrayal, you end up hurt and betrayed.
Backstabbing happens a lot at work too, especially in positions of high authority, and it certainly happens a lot in politics.
3) They are liars
No one can throw the first stone, really, when it comes to lying, right? We all do it.
As a parent, if I want to avoid going to a three-year-old’s birthday party every weekend, I have to make excuses. What are excuses if not lies?
However, there is a difference between these types of white lies and serious or ordinary lies.
Dealing with people who cannot be trusted with the truth leads to distrust in your relationships.
You’re trying to build a sand castle on a shaky foundation – no matter how hard you try, it’s bound to collapse.
When lies become a regular part of a relationship, it becomes difficult to have open and honest conversations.
You find yourself doubting everything they say, wondering if there is a hidden agenda or if they are being honest.
Think about that for a second.
