Wouldn’t it be magical to believe in a place where narcissists don’t bother us? Well – there’s no magic needed here!
Narcissists make us want to resist them because we’re increasingly fed up with their lies, manipulation, and deception.
Many people make the mistake of thinking that we can’t be resistant, but that’s far from the truth.
Anyone can be!
No problem – there are five ways to become narcissist-resistant.
Let’s walk you through each one, now!
1 The Deception Scale
If you can own your reality, you can fend off all the fakers!
Sometimes, we don’t give ourselves enough credit – and credit should be given where it’s due – for owning our truth.
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Narcissists are adept at ensuring that their version of reality is a stamp they can place on anyone who believes them. This leaves those under the influence of narcissism uncertain, confused, and unable to fully understand what’s really going on – especially since narcissists are so convincing.
People believe them, and it stems from not valuing your opinion enough.
If your reality is being questioned, step back and see this as an opportunity to fight back!
2 Walk Away from the “Magic”
Stop falling for charming people. Life is not a Disney movie, right? We often see the charming person coming to save everyone, but we never see what happens after the “end.”
It’s time to see an opportunity to fight back against narcissists by ignoring the value in the charm – because that value is not real.
What is the charm covering? Be careful – when someone seems seductive, it’s because they want you to respond with a hypnotic smile.
Be careful.
Walk Away – Run if you can!
3 Education Isn’t Everything
Being smart or educated doesn’t mean anything other than knowing a lot about one or more subjects. Reading books and having dozens of degrees or PhDs doesn’t automatically give you the “nice guy” credentials.
Many people mistake a person’s educational background for positive, likeable traits, but there are plenty of narcissists who will throw what they know at them like a smokescreen.
“Look at all I know, isn’t it great?”
No, you’re not. You’re smart, but that doesn’t make you Mother Teresa.
Don’t believe it.
4 Watch How They Treat People
Narcissists have two sides. They can be incredibly seductive in public, wanting to be everyone’s best friend, but behind the scenes, they’re a completely different person.
If you start looking closely, and really paying attention to how they treat people in different scenarios – you’ll see the real person.
Perhaps look at how they treat waiters at a restaurant, or how they look at those who might make a mistake in their presence. What about someone who jokes with them in front of them, or who may berate them.
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Narcissists talk about people behind their backs and if they can do it to someone else, they can do it to you.
Beware – Be Resistant.
5 Check Their Mood
Narcissists get frustrated easily when things don’t go their way. They don’t have the emotional regulation that non-narcissists have, or the resilience when things aren’t perfect or “as they are.”
What makes it easier for you to resist a narcissist is simply observing and knowing exactly how they act in these circumstances.
How are they when they feel disappointed?
Any show of anger will turn into rage, and you will see red flags everywhere.
Don’t be their excuse, and don’t bow to them.
6 Wealth Doesn’t Equal Kindness
What is money but something acquired, right?
Wealth can sometimes evoke a feeling of, “I’m so much better than you; look at all the wonderful things I have and can afford.”
Like charm, it’s easy to marvel and marvel at all the shiny thighs a narcissist has, but what do they do?
They distract you from their toxic personality and say, “Hey, isn’t everything I have wonderful?”
Related : What do Narcissists do With Truth Tellers?
Resistance means ignoring it and not caring.
No one likes a braggart.
7 Boundaries – Learn to Say No
I want you to read these words and pay close attention to them, and any time you need a reminder, just think for a moment:
No is a complete sentence.
It doesn’t need to be justified, and it doesn’t need to be tied to a “maybe” or a “but.”
No is a way to let someone know that you have no room to deviate or adapt. You have your choices, and if you can repeat that to yourself often enough, you will become resistant to any narcissist because they will quickly learn that they cannot manipulate you.
Resistance will not be useless!
8 Say Goodbye to Enablers
Get rid of them. Get rid of them now.
They all need to go. Why? Because the narcissist is just part of your problem—the enablers are the rest.
Enablers carry with them an extension of the narcissist’s toxicity, but in a different, indirect way. They will continue to annoy you, always ensuring narcissism and trying to deceive you further.
Related : 3 Ways to Deal with Covert Narcissists
When you break up with a narcissist, do the same with facilitators, and I understand that it’s not easy.
This may look like withdrawing from friends or family who still insist that the narcissist is a good person, and I’m not suggesting that you isolate yourself completely, but if you can at least – see them as little as possible.
They’re both the same, bad energy.
9 Second Chances – No!
How many chances can you give someone before they understand their power over yours? With a narcissist – only one!
Mistakes happen, but at least be on guard. If someone ignores you, if they try to change your reality or make you feel small in front of everyone – watch out.
Second chances are like saying, “Sure, you can step on me; I don’t mind!”
Of course you mind – because you matter.
10 Find a good, compassionate circle to be in
Good people are good for the soul. They are nature’s blooming flowers and leaves, while the narcissist is like the Japanese knotweed.
They spread their poison so quickly that it may seem impossible to get rid of them—but getting rid of them is always possible.
Learning how to recognize good people, how they warm your heart, and give you the emotional maturity and support you need is all you need to build your life gracefully, instead of letting the narcissist’s pain and frustration back in.
