Is Halloween here?
No!
That doesn’t stop a narcissist from tricking you—and trust me when I say—there are no rewards!…
…Are there even rewards when it comes to narcissism?!
One of the biggest tricks a narcissist uses is their phone—especially text messages. So, how does a narcissist gain even more control over you through text messages?
If you haven’t guessed yet, the answers are here. I know some, if not all, will make you realize how much you’ve been putting up with all this time.
Narcissist and the Phone
It’s a painful conversation we need more of, isn’t it? Narcissists are stalking us, wherever we are and whatever we’re doing, thanks to the magic of the modern world.
We all have phones. We all use them. We all need them in this day and age, with work and relationships just a click away.
Narcissists love to use their social media, too, especially the glamorous text messages that have gained increasing popularity in the past few decades.
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What was once a quick opportunity to tell someone has become the dawn of an endless dialogue with multiple people, day and night.
Narcissists love this more than anything else. They love knowing that anyone they want to message is only 20 seconds away from doing so.
Bored? Text.
Feeling like stirring things up? Text.
Need attention? Text.
Want to make someone’s day? Text.
And that’s the one thing to remember with narcissists—it’s not always the message—sometimes it’s the content.
Control: The Unstoppable Power of Narcissism
All narcissists want, love, and need control. It’s a power you can never break, because it’s what makes narcissists narcissists.
People like you or I are happy to sit back and admit that we can’t control every aspect of our lives, yet this seems incomprehensible to any narcissist.
They have to control situations they want to see a certain outcome. They want to shape the ending as if it’s their own story they’re writing…
And if that means you or someone you know will suffer in the end, so be it.
With texting, narcissists become the most impossible, hurtful, and evil types of people, seeking only one thing: drama.
Trick1: “Don’t forget about me!”
The good old texting trick of not wanting to be forgotten will apply to all narcissists.
They love to remind you of their existence, and they’re especially good at it when you’re having a great day.
If you’ve arranged to go out with a friend, they’ll try to reach out and start all kinds of conversations via text, so feel obligated to respond and make them happy.
And you, the victim, think: “Wow, they look so cheerful. They’re obviously in a great mood, and I don’t want to ignore that.”
You’re eager to please them.
You’re eager to keep things as they are.
But in reality, it’s just because they seem to want you to remember who they are.
So sad, isn’t it?
That someone who seems so confident is so far from it?
Welcome to the world of narcissism, folks!
Trick2: “Bah. I’ll get back to you later.”
When you need to contact him, he’ll act as cold as possible. He sees your priority, your request, or your attempt at contact, and he’ll completely ignore you.
You see, what matters to you doesn’t matter to the narcissist at all. He’s careful not to give you what you want or need most of the time you know him, and seeing you text him doesn’t mean much to him.
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In fact, it’s the textual version of silence, and what does it do to victims?
It makes them wonder what they did wrong and why they’re being ignored.
Trick3: “The Bottom Line”
Okay.
Sure.
It’s okay.
Yes.
No.
Okay.
Now—I want to talk about why “the bottom line” is so unfair.
First, you have someone trying to engage in conversation, and it’s hard to do that when you’re met with one-word answers all the time.
Second, what does this show you? It shows you that, yes, they can respond, but no, they’re not giving you what you need. Victims then fall into the trap of asking, “What’s the problem? You’re silent.”
A valid accusation!
The responses to this are usually:
I’m busy!
I don’t have time to sit around all day texting like you!
Someone has to work! You’re so needy!
You’ll never win.
Trick4: “Block/Unblock”
I want you, I don’t want you.
I love you, I don’t love you.
I want to hear from you/stop calling or texting.
You’ll never know your true standing with some narcissists, but their method of determining when you can and can’t text is extremely cruel and, of course, completely controlling.
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Victims are known to constantly check their phones to see if the narcissist has blocked them that day, and this is persistent and unhealthy.
Trick5: “Hang the phone”
Well, that’s it.
The phone is off, so even if you want to text, it won’t be anytime soon.
If that sounds cruel, it is.
Narcissists don’t care about your calls, not even if it’s an emergency. They just want to control the narrative that sometimes there’s no signal, or my phone’s battery died, or I was asleep.
Enough. You’ve grown up.
Trick6: “What was the message?”
It’s funny how a narcissist would deny receiving your message.
I didn’t get any…
Never believe them. Phones are more powerful than ever, and you can tell if someone received a message.
The simple fact is that they received it, but they didn’t press send.
What a nasty way to let them know you don’t matter and to keep you under their control for a while longer.
Trick7: “Push. Push again.”
Alex, do you think this person is a narcissist?
It’s hard to diagnose a narcissist with just a few messages, but there are major warning signs when you receive a text from a narcissist (usually a request), and they don’t respond immediately.
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The following usually includes:
A GIF.
One kiss.
A picture or meme. One question mark.
A text message about something they know will be of great interest to you to get your attention.
These are the ways a narcissist says:
I texted you, you didn’t reply, and I’m not going anywhere.
We know…
