There can be various reasons why you feel stuck in your relationship, especially in marriages, without either of you being at fault. Sometimes things can happen and you feel like it’s time to let go and move on. But what happens when a married man is not ready to leave you?
Are you completely overwhelmed that your married spouse will not let you move on? Have you finally found the strength to let him go but do you find it is making it hard for you to actually leave?
This is not strange. Even if you were making each other miserable, it was hard to get away and I think a big part of that was because the married man didn’t want to let you go.
There are reasons why a married man should not move on. Understanding those might be the key to being able to make that final break, and to get away from it so you can have the life you want.
Here are 5 reasons why a married man won’t let you move on.
I hope they help you gain the clarity you need to find the strength to move forward.
- You take care of him.
be honest? How much time do you spend taking care of your married husband?
Do you support him when he quarrels with his wife? Do you listen to him when he talks about how unhappy he is with his marriage, how he hasn’t had sex in years, and how you treat him like a child? Do you offer words of love and support? Would you rub his neck and give him all the love you could to make him happy?
Before he met you, your married man had to deal with his life on his own. He had to deal with his unhappiness, his loneliness, and his uncertainty about his future through his loneliness. For many men, managing their emotions is not something they do easily.
So, now you’re asking him to let go of the one person who can give him the love and support he needs. He thinks he’s going to be miserable, and it might be because he thinks you’re the only ticket out of this misery.
Ironically, taking care of him is one of the reasons why he never left his wife. why him? He has everything he needs from you, all that love and support, and he can keep his family and finances intact.
So, one of the reasons why your married man won’t let you move on is because you take very good care of him. Maybe now is the time to stop doing it and just take care of yourself.
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- Sex.
This is very obvious and you don’t need to go into a lot of detail about it but the main reason why a married man won’t let you move on is because of sex.
Many married men have relationships because they don’t have sex at home, or it’s not enough to satisfy them. Then I came along and the sex was plentiful and amazing, as it often is. Your married man probably thinks he died and went to heaven, that you were the best sex he ever had, and giving him up would kill him.
If you leave it, this genus will disappear. This is a fate worse than death for any human being.
If you are trying to get away from your man and he won’t let you go, know that one of the reasons is sex. Yes, he loves you, but sex is a major thing that makes it really hard to move on.
- Obsession.
I know that when I was in a relationship with a married man, one of the main reasons he wouldn’t let me go was because he was obsessed with me.
Before he met me, his life was miserable. He had a job he hated, was unhappily married, was struggling with his finances and his kids were having a hard time. And then I came and made his life wonderful.
My man was sure that without me in his life, he wouldn’t be able to handle all the things he needed to deal with. He thought I was the only one who could stop him from falling apart. He thought his life was hopeless without me.
So, one of the reasons your husband won’t let you move on is because he’s obsessed with you, he has a vision of you as his savior, as the only person who can make him happy, and that makes him crippled. When it comes to letting go.
- Fear.
One of the reasons you may have had a hard time leaving your married spouse is because you are afraid of the next step. You were afraid of being alone, that you would never love or be loved again, of pain, of loss, of loneliness.
Your man is in the exact same place, scared as hell. Only his worse. You are, most likely, the only thing in his life that makes him truly happy. The thought of losing you scares him.
For you, your future is certain. You are not in a marriage that you cannot leave. You are not afraid to break up your family members. You don’t worry about your money. For you, once your married man lets you move on, the sky is the limit.
You can put yourself out there and meet new people, you can excel at your job, and you can start building a life for yourself that may include marriage, family, and health finances. But with you gone, your man has none of that. All he has is that you live longer in his life. And this is very scary.
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- He wants it all.
One of the main reasons why your married husband won’t let you move on is because he has it all and doesn’t want to give it up. I mean, who will?
Like I talked about earlier, your man has someone he can support, he has someone he’s going to have sex with, and he has someone he thinks is his savior in the world. And he has his family. He has a co-wife. He has children whom he can see every day. He has a comfortable home and an active social life.
He literally has his cake and eats it too. Who wouldn’t want to give that up?
Ironically, this is exactly why you need to let him go. During your relationship, you most likely put your life on hold for him while he was able to live a full life because you were there supporting him.
You had to give him sex and love and he had his family and his finances intact. He never left his wife because he had everything, and leaving you means he just left with what he started with, the unhappiness.
Knowing why you won’t let your married man move on may be the only thing you need to help you make the final cut and start living your life again.
When I broke up with my boyfriend the last time, after blocking him all over so he couldn’t contact me, I made the above five things list and kept it in my fridge.
With this list, I can remember why a married man won’t let me move on. And I made my list absolutely clear – none of my reasons why he should let me go or my feelings have anything to do with it, only what he wants and needs.
