You have a girlfriend who seems to get mad at you all the time.
You get upset over the smallest things, and he wears you down.
what gives?
This article will help you find out why your girlfriend is always mad at you.
1) She is emotionally immature
This reason comes out on top because in most situations it will be, at the very least, a primary contributing factor to the problem.
We all get crazy from time to time. But when someone often struggles to control their emotions, it is often a sign of immaturity.
It is more common in younger girls and women, but many adults remain emotionally immature during their lives.
There’s no denying that feelings can be powerful, and we’ll all feel overwhelmed by them at some point.
But as we grow, learn, and develop as a person, many of us mature so that we don’t unfairly project our negative feelings onto others.
Unfortunately, not everyone does that.
Immaturity can go hand in hand with a lack of self-awareness. If she does not see her behavior patterns, she will not be able to analyze herself and hold herself accountable.
So at this moment, she may “blind” the motives of her feelings, but she lacks the maturity and self-control to question her words and actions.
2) She “tests” you
Perhaps this reason can be best explained by the example of a young child.
Parents often refer to the “terrible two” to distinguish this stage, as children at this age act out and test boundaries.
Some adult relationships experience something similar. People will see what they can get away with.
They will do or say something to see how far they can push before their partner reacts.
They are testing the waters to see if they can get away with certain behaviors without consequences.
If they find themselves getting into trouble for their actions, then they know they have gone too far.
The same thing happens when people are dating.
The woman may be trying to see if she can get away with being rude or mean to her boyfriend. She wants to know if he will stand up for himself, or if she can just walk all over him.
In some ways, you could end up becoming a metaphorical punching bag if you knew you were going to put up with it.
If you come to terms with it, it’s a way to take out her frustrations that go unchecked.
3) She’s attention-seeking
Attention seeking is doing something in order to get attention.
Even when the attention you create on the outside is negative, for some people the goal is simply to get noticed.
If she doesn’t feel like she’s getting enough positive attention from you, then any on her mind will be.
She may cry, scream and get angry just to get your attention.
The irony is that when someone acts out and gets angry, instead of being arrogant or self-absorbed, they are often insecure people deep down.
She may have low self-esteem. And in a strange way, she tries to feel loved and cared for.
Maybe you’re doing everything badly.
4) She has unrealistic expectations
Do you feel like everything you do is not good enough?
Maybe she gets annoyed at you for not texting her enough, gets mad if you don’t call her right away, or gets upset if you don’t get to spend every second together.
She expects you to read her mind and know what she wants from you all the time.
Many of us unconsciously form unspoken expectations from a partner. Then we get really angry when we don’t get to meet them.
The unfortunate problem is that many of us have false images about love and relationships, which leads to disappointment.
We expect a partner to give us things that they cannot.
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5) She is spoiled
If she’s used to getting what she wants, she may fly off the handle whenever she doesn’t.
In this sense, she uses anger as a way to try to control you and manipulate you into doing what she wants.
The pattern you are trying to establish is:
When I am not happy, you will be punished.
Anger can be a tactic that people in a relationship use to try to gain control. You may give in to trying to please her.
Anything for an easy life, right?
But it’s not unlike a teenager who makes a fuss when he doesn’t get what he wants.
She may feel entitled. Instead of taking responsibility for her moods, wants and needs – she falls into victim mode.
So she can easily get frustrated and dump you whenever she feels like things aren’t going her way.
Essentially, when you sense that some need is not being met, instead of expressing it in a constructive way, it explodes negatively.
6) She is not sure about your relationship
You may be unhappy in the relationship.
I’ll be honest, in my younger years when I wanted to break up with someone, I started acting horrible towards them.
I didn’t have the maturity to handle the situation. I didn’t know how to address the problems I felt were in the relationship.
So instead of being honest and reporting what was happening to me, I let out my frustrations in other ways.
If she has doubts, the uncertainty may manifest in her being angry at you all the time.
This is more likely to be the case if she has recently changed her behavior towards you.
Maybe in the beginning things were fine. I got along well and had fun together. But now she gets mad at you for the stupidest things.
If so, it could be a symptom of a deeper problem lurking beneath the surface.
This does not necessarily mean that she wants to break up. But it could mean that there are some bigger issues that you both need to address.
7) She has anger issues
Anger issues are more than just being immature and acting out when you don’t get your way or feel like you’re not getting enough attention.
The truth is, a certain amount of anger is totally normal.
It’s a natural, instinctive response to feeling threatened. We need it to survive because it protects us from harm.
But while most people are moody at times, some people struggle to control this.
Instead, their anger would explode. If your girlfriend has anger issues, you may notice that she:
Says harsh and verbally abusive things
Losing it to the point of a physical threat (eg, throwing things or violence)
Constantly going crazy on a repeat basis
Seems out of control sometimes
You have to constantly apologize to people for your outbursts
He gets upset and angry over even the simplest things
Various factors can cause and contribute to anger issues.
Things like alcohol or drug use, mental health issues, and personality disorders can all play a role.
8) Hormones
This is in no way an attempt to justify being unreasonably angry at your boyfriend, but hormones are crazy things.
While men’s hormone levels remain more or less constant throughout the month, women’s fluctuate wildly.
This goes back to biology.
Women are more cyclical because the menstrual cycle is highly hormonally regulated. On the other hand, men produce testosterone constantly all year round.
Premenstrual tension is often misunderstood. For starters, hormone issues don’t just affect women “during that time of the month.”
Their hormones are in constant flux. Depending on her body, this can affect a woman in very different degrees.
Even minor changes in diet, sleep, exercise, and countless other things can affect mood-creating hormones.
9) She has psychological problems
It can be said that the world is facing an epidemic of mental health problems.
It is estimated that 350 million people worldwide suffer from depression.
Mental health issues including anxiety, stress and depression can manifest in all sorts of ways.
This can include impatience, fatigue, inability to cope, flying quickly off the handle, and insanity.
This may be temporary and result from some of the external pressures you are experiencing at the moment. But it could also be a deeper issue.
You may also see other signs from her that she is struggling with low self-esteem, low confidence, poor social skills, and/or a lack of motivation.
If you suspect your girlfriend may have issues with her mental health, here’s what to look for:
Feeling sad almost every day
Showing a lack of interest in things you used to enjoy
You have trouble falling asleep or fall asleep all the time
exhaustion
changes in her appetite
Irritability and anxiety
Being really frustrated with herself
You find it difficult to focus on anything
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11) You haven’t learned how to communicate properly
What are your girlfriend’s parents or caregivers like?
I ask because the home environment we are born into goes a long way in shaping the people we become.
Especially when it comes to family, they become our role models as we build relationships.
If her people are constantly getting angry at each other, she has most likely learned that this is how you communicate.
Healthy communication is not something we are born with and know how to do. We learn it. And sometimes we don’t learn it when we grow up and need to relearn it from other (better) sources.
Our past undoubtedly shapes us in silent and invisible ways. But this does not mean that we can evade responsibility.
It’s an explanation of why she might always get mad at you and yell at you, not an excuse.
When we are adults we need to learn new ways of dealing with things.
It may be that you both need to find a more healthy way to communicate with each other and deal with the issues that arise.
12) You feel misunderstood
Compatibility issues in a relationship can cause your girlfriend to become angry with you and to be very moody.
When we are not on the same wavelength as our partner, it can lead to feelings of misunderstanding. This causes the connection to drop.
If she feels you don’t understand her, listen to her, or “get it,” it can lead to frustration on her part.
Being so different from your partner isn’t always a bad thing, of course. Couples can find that they balance each other out.
For example, if one person is more prone to anxiety, the other might calm them down with a laid-back attitude.
In this way, you can complement the differences. But if the differences are more fundamental – it causes problems in the relationship.
When your communication styles clash with your values, love languages, and personality traits, it can create an explosive environment.
13) She has trauma in the past
Who we are today is shaped by a combination of biological and environmental factors that influence our personality.
Our experiences affect us.
If she has had certain traumatic experiences in her past, she may have developed anger as a coping defense mechanism.
When she feels threatened—whether that threat is real or just imagined—she responds with a response.
The way you push back through can be really crazy. Deep down inside, anger is often a mask we use for grief and pain.
If you know that your girlfriend has had a lot of problems in the past, you may need to work these issues out with a trained professional.
In order to let go of her anger and not throw things at you, you may need to find better coping mechanisms.
