Why are smart women attracted to narcissistic men? No offense but the answer is kind of a no-brainer. Have you ever met a narcissistic man?
Smart women, like you and me, appreciate an impressive man. A man who knows his worth and is not afraid to take control of his life. It’s bold and somewhat attractive. And yes, he’s a great communicator as long as the conversation comes back to him. All roads eventually lead to him.
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Highly empathetic, intelligent women can live with this for a while. It’s nice not to be with a shy guy.
Narcissistic men initially bring out the best in intelligent women, at least for a short time.
Did I say it can be endlessly charming, at least at first? He has a way of attracting smart women by enticing them with a world of possibility and boldness. He’s able to express how good a catch he is, and she’s the lucky one who got him!
Smart women love this bravado in a man. Finally, a man who is not afraid to be a man. It’s all rather exciting and feels ridiculously unusual. Oftentimes, a smart woman is not attracted to a man at first. He does that certain right thing at the right moment to catch her and get her attention.
Smart women love healthy competition, and sometimes they ignore tough competition. Smart women feel it’s natural to share their knowledge with others.
They love to communicate in meaningful ways with others. She’s not shy. She can show him the many ways she can support him when he becomes somewhat insensitive. She believes that when she opens her heart and shines for him, it will make everything better.
#This is why even the most intelligent women are attracted to narcissistic men:
The narcissistic man mirrors her joy and takes it. He pulls the rug from under her feet. She has no reference point to understand how misery replaces her joy. When he becomes cold, selfish, and mean, she’s sure it’s just a flaw. It must just be a glitch.
It can’t be because he’s ruthless in his competitiveness. Moreover, he cries easily when he sees her in pain. Well, you can’t expect a smart woman to know everything. Sometimes the smartest thing you can do is stop and figure out why all this emotional chaos is happening.
There are risks to being with a narcissistic man.
An intelligent and empathetic woman is loyal, strong, and loving in her concern for whoever she is with. This can be a blind spot. Oops, she didn’t know that when she gave her love, it would trigger and feed his narcissism.
The deep blind emptiness inside him directs his behavior. It bites the intelligent woman with a temptation of sorts, and then a major blow to the integrity of the relationship.
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Narcissistic men have a dark allure about them.
He’s not seductive, but he’s just showing the woman he’s with that he’s loyal to her. The moon promised her. He tells her that there is no other person in the entire universe as special as she is to him.
A narcissistic man declaring his love for an intelligent woman is very complicated. It can be quickly followed by passive aggression or simply aggression that shames and shocks her. She can feel like she’s being kicked to the curb over and over again.
Do I need to go further? Yes, he gets distracted and tells her that empathy isn’t his strong point. Everyone knows this, but of course, his intention is always good, because he brings a gray cloud into the soul of your being.
The narcissistic man is deliberately smooth and confident in his way of presenting himself. He calculates how to remove her defenses, arouse her sympathy for him, and show his intense tears and pain.
Everything is rehearsed. He is an educated man. Studies what smart women like. Then he acts like a hotel concierge who is only focused on how to please the customer. Unlike a hotel concierge, where there is no intent to harm, just to serve the person in need.
A narcissistic man deliberately pampers an intelligent woman to control her.
He knows just the perfect fragrance you’ll love from the downtown mall. He romantically and casually bestows abundant accolades on her. It slowly eroded her self-confidence. You learn to rely on him for support. He hurts her and then pretends to support her. He just makes her stick to him.
Smart women know how important it is to stick with someone. A narcissistic man knows an intelligent woman and surpasses her with remarkable kindness and sweetness. He’s the quintessential James Bond, seducing his women into submission and bliss for a whole month, maybe two.
After a short while, more of these errors appear. She cries when she realizes he is attracted to another woman. He looks at the other woman the same way he looks at her when he takes his thumb and runs it down the other woman’s arm.
She told him how this hurt her. He looks at her with disbelief and contradicts her. He reminds her that this is her lack of trust. He will ignore her this time and forgive her. Or he tells her that he has this problem doing this or that. However, he is working on changing it and maybe you can help him.
This smart woman feels warm from this compliment. I realized once again that no one is perfect. No one had ever loved her this much before. She had never felt so happy or so confused before.
He then reminds her that he only has eyes for her forever. Smart women understand how rare it is to meet such a pure man. A man who finds it so easy to express his love for her as he does. She remembers when he told her that yes, he had hurt another woman. He did the same thing to another woman as he did to her. But he was messing with that woman.
He didn’t mean it. right? She wonders about this.
Of course, a smart woman will immediately address this matter with a narcissistic man. He then immediately looks at her somewhat horrified and feels sorry for her because she has no sense of humor.
After all, he was just messing around with that other woman! This other woman seemed very lonely and he thought he would give her some fun. He looks at his smart woman. He says in this low, sexy, critical tone.
The smart woman is confused. She tells her friends, and each of them gives her their scientific opinions. After a while, she feels ashamed and embarrassed about how regularly these kinds of soul-destroying things happen to her and her husband. She decides on an exit plan. However, she feels that he is much better than these other men.
These other guys are kind of clumsy. They lack the wonderful ingenuity of the narcissistic man. Her man has great confidence in himself and lets the world know it. Unlike most men, who seem less able to talk about themselves in such great ways.
Narcissistic men know how to present in a very confident manner. They know how to make their woman feel like Sleeping Beauty.
No healthy man can compete with the sexy, cunning, seductive, and sweet temperament of a narcissistic man who wants to hurt those he is with. A truly narcissistic man tries to seem like he has it all. He prepares the intelligent woman for the brilliance of heaven and “accidentally” drops her into hell.
He couldn’t imagine why she was so upset. He looks at her with confusion with his soft eyes and tells her again as he always does: “I love you! I love only you! Why can’t you be like me?”
He promised he would never change. He will always love her. Why does he change when he is not an unhappy person?
In Buddhism, there is a story. If you put a frog in a large bowl of hot water. The frog jumps and survives. When you place a frog in a pot of cold water on a fire, the water slowly heats up. The frog adapts poorly and does not survive. If that happens, it will take a very long time to heal, if at all.
If you are an intelligent woman and you think you are with a narcissistic man, seek professional help and do not isolate yourself. Get help now!
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