Do you always think that people who start fights are troublemakers? They are, but not the same kind of trouble you might encounter on the street from time to time.

Narcissists are known for their aggression, and even more so, for passing problems on to you subtly and starting fights even with a smile on their faces.

And they don’t give you a chance—unless you realize it yourself.

That’s why I’m calling you today!

Fights Are Annoying

Fights are, indeed. So are narcissists. It’s strange how they manage it, but they do.

You get into something you think is honest and sincere, and they wear you out by starting fights.

And it seems like something new is happening every day.

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If you think it’s tiring, wait until you hear why.

They Are Bored

I’m afraid it’s as simple as a narcissist being bored. Bored with what, I hear you ask.

You know, it’s funny that I try to write everything down, because seeing it in black and white only makes it more frantic, but here’s what happened…

Narcissists get bored when everything in life is calm.

No one is fighting, no gossip, no tears, no drama, no fallouts, no unpaid bills, no empty pantries—everything is fine.

If your life is having a nice day—not too hot, not too cold, and sunny—the narcissist is the storm brewing.

Because for most people, peace is boring.

You Look So Happy

Congratulations on your new job.

Well done on that promotion.

You have a week off work where you can finally get away for a few days!

Oh my god. The narcissist isn’t happy with that.

Tolerating your happiness is worthless, so there’s definitely a problem.

I had a client who said her husband would dump milk in the sink and then complain that she forgot to pick some up on her way home from work.

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She was convinced she had, until the day she caught him dumping it. Do you know what he said?

“Oh my God, it smelled funny. I didn’t want you to drink anything.”

The milk didn’t smell funny. He was emptying it, so he had a reason to yell at her.

And that was only on days when she went to the gym before work because she enjoyed the exercise and it felt good.

Coincidence? Absolutely not.

Upcoming Event

She never understood why until her past was examined with extreme scrutiny, and suddenly everything made sense.

Narcissists see events as opportunities to draw attention to themselves.

Yes, it’s a deeply emotional rollercoaster for a person to do this, but it’s their way of sabotaging the event in favor of making it the center of attention—for all the wrong reasons.

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If it makes you unhappy, it’s bound to put a smile (or a smirk) on their face.

I hate even to say it because it’s toxic and demented—but fighting brings out the best in them.

What kind of person likes fighting? What does it mean to them and their character? It proves they’re far from helpful, if that gives them any solace.

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They’ll do anything to push you into the abyss of misery, and if that means yelling at you or teasing you until you collapse, it means they know they have that power.

And they love knowing they have that power.

Eschewing Accountability

What’s Really Going On?

The fight they started may have been what brought all this fuss and attention. But why?

Looking behind the scenes often reveals another side of narcissists’ total weirdness.

There’s something they’re avoiding taking responsibility for, hiding in the shadows, and they don’t want you to find out.

Have they promised you something they didn’t keep?

Maybe they’re spreading rumors about you or someone you know, and you don’t want them to notice or focus on it.

They’re panicking, and the only way to escape is to look at you and realize they’re at your mercy and your morals.

So, they loudly dismiss any wrongdoing and point fingers.

It’s a common way to avoid raising their hands and taking the blame.

They’d rather see you suffer, for no reason other than their own evil.

Have Your Limits Been Tested Recently?

What would you do if you were tested? Would you sit back and let them be trampled on as usual, or would you fight for them?

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Did they stay put, and did you push the narcissist away by adhering to your values ​​regardless of whether they liked it?

Boundaries are the foundation of your survival in the presence of a narcissist, and every behavior and response depends on how strongly you maintain them.

If you’re striving to be strong, be prepared for some kind of fight.

You’re pushing them away from what they consider familiar, and whether they admit it or not, they’ll be a little afraid of this new version of you.

Confusing You

What else is there to do when all else fails?

Narcissists may feel a desire to confuse you. They catch you off guard when you’re at your happiest.

The unpredictability of any narcissistic relationship is what drives victims to despair.

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One moment, everything is fine, and the next, there’s conflict for no reason.

Didn’t you remember I was out tonight?

Why didn’t you bring any dinner on the way home like I asked?

Did you leave the oven running all night? You were the last one in the kitchen.

And because it might make you lose yourself a little, you will.