Most narcissists have a hard time celebrating others! Here are the reasons narcissists ruin special occasions and why they will sabotage holidays if they’re not the center of attraction.
Maybe this is a vacation you’ve been planning for some time and the narcissist knows how much you’re looking forward to the vacation. Maybe it’s a reunion for your close friends or a special birthday party. Whatever the occasion, the narcissist loves to spoil special occasions.
They will do everything they can to make sure it’s not as special as you hoped. They want you to share in their misery.
Narcissists ruin special occasions. They do not like to see others happy unless of course they are the cause of this happiness.
Happiness seems very strange to them. Why should you feel joy when you rarely feel content? Why should they put up with being in the company of your friends or family? They are simply jealous of your close friends or the close relationship you have with your family members.
They know that they have never and will never have a close relationship with anyone. If the celebration is a birthday party or graduation celebration, they don’t want someone else to get all the attention that should be directed towards them.
Maybe if they looked depressed, everyone would feel sorry for them and direct their attention where it belongs. The narcissist will do everything in his power to sabotage the occasion.
As your vacation approaches, don’t be surprised if the narcissist fights with you and cancels the vacation at the last minute.
Maybe they just found your replacement. If you find yourself on vacation with a toxic person, and you are doing your best to make the most of your time, they will hate to see you enjoying life.
They will do everything they can to make sure the holiday goes downhill from there on out. They will make a condescending remark just to dampen your spirits, spark an argument, or basically anything to bring your mood down to a level similar to theirs.
During vacation, you may direct all your attention to making sure the kids have fun. Isn’t that what normal parents do? Don’t forget that this person is far from normal. They want your attention, so they may resort to blowing up and bad behavior to get your attention. Any attention is better than none.
You want the narcissist to enjoy the holiday or a special event, so you do your best to get them out of their mood, but no matter how hard you try, nothing seems to work. You feel like they are making you suffer because of your efforts to make them smile and be happy.
It’s as if they see you as an enemy, and of course they treat you as an enemy. Only a sick and twisted individual would get some sort of pleasure from ruining holidays and other important events.
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Without spoiling special occasions, how do you survive the holidays with a narcissist?
Remember, if you are having a good day, the narcissist will do anything to ruin it. They want to make their day memorable for all the wrong reasons. Don’t give them the chance.
Let them be miserable, let them drown in the pool of negativity and self-pity. Move on and leave them to it. Enjoy yourself and let them be too. If they happen to come out with some insulting remark, just reply with something like “cool” or “interesting”, go do whatever you want and above all, enjoy the occasion.
Now that Christmas time is approaching, there is of course a chance that the narcissist will do everything he can to make it an unforgettable Christmas.
