One of the common things people notice when they’re around narcissists is how much they care about their phones.

I know we all have a right to privacy, but this isn’t the case.

Narcissists hide their phones. They don’t want you to see them, find them, or browse them.

You might think they have all the answers to world peace, but that’s not true.

There are always hidden reasons why they hide them from you, and I want to reveal them to you today.

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We all have them, and as annoying as they are, they’re now our diaries, our journals, our social lives, our work communications, our free time—everything.

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Yes, we all keep our phones close at hand. But some of us may take them or leave them, put them in our pockets, and hide them.

For what reason?

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Anything and everything they can do!

Does this answer the question?!

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Narcissists are always hiding secrets, and they can be as discreet as possible…

…we’ll find out eventually!

I’m pretty sure it’s one of the following six things…

1 Inappropriateness

What does that look like?

We’re dealing with narcissists here, so inappropriateness could be one of several things.

Pornographic videos

Home videos they’ve shared in the past

Shared videos or WhatsApp groups of a vulgar or inappropriate nature

No one wants to find any of this on their partner’s phone, and if it is, the narcissist will hide it from you.

2 Internet History

God only knows what kind of internet history they have, who they’ve searched for, and where their search for photos or videos has led them. You could even flip a coin and assume they’re searching for answers to the following:

How to make your partner miserable
How to hide your self-loathing
Signs of boredom in a relationship
How to hide cheating

Imagine if you even glimpsed any of these searches. What would you think? Naturally, you’d feel bad about yourself because that’s what narcissists love.

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But you shouldn’t.

That’s the narcissist’s distorted black-and-white mind, right in front of you.

Except it’s not—because the narcissist is hiding everything from you!

3 Money

And you don’t see it!

When I say money, I want to make it a little clearer, because it’s not just about hiding their checking account from you.

Money can also include any savings, any credit balance they have (or have spent), and even more complex things, like how much they spend on the lottery or how much they’re trying to invest in gambling or betting.

Narcissists and money actually become an umbrella term for problems that will affect you too, if you’re not careful.

Hiding their phones will also hide notifications, or the apps they use to spend, gamble, or waste money.

Because it goes both ways, hiding money could also mean lying to you about how much they have.

If they’re constantly asking you for charity, you might think they’re struggling.

In reality, they may also be hiding what they actually earn, keeping it from you to get the best of both worlds.

4 The Ex

Aren’t they always around? I know narcissists generally like to stay in touch with their exes.

They have someone who once thought they were the best, who was always there to compliment them, support them, and even defend them.

Why would they want to give that up?

Surely the best and most appropriate thing (in their eyes) is to keep them at arm’s length?

I’ll reach out to you when I feel like it.

I know they always have my back.

If I’m sad, I can go right back to them for a little flirting.

Not only is this wrong on every level, it’s also unfair to you—or your ex!

Holding on to the past is unhealthy, and I advise anyone who does it to feel safe to stop.

5 Secret Texting

Friends, family, secret dates, or people the narcissist is dating behind your back—the narcissist is definitely hiding it all.

Yes, they’ll include text messages about you, their true opinion of their coworker, and the problems they’re stirring up behind your back.

They don’t want you to see any of these messages, so the narcissist will always hide their phone.

6 Dating Apps

I’m sorry to say, even the most “attached” narcissists will advertise themselves as single on dating sites.

And these apps, of which there are likely more than one, are used extensively on their phones.

It’s none of your business, but they enjoy seducing strangers and getting instant gratification through conversations and emotional exchanges.

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You may think they’ll consider you enough, but in reality, they never will.

This doesn’t mean you’re not enough, or that you’re not worth your weight in gold.

Sadly, this is just the behavior of these toxic people.

When To Waving The Red Flag

I understand that phones are private, and it’s not acceptable to secretly open your partner’s phone and start scrolling through it, reading conversations, and looking for signs of infidelity or inappropriate behavior.

You should wave the red flag when the narcissist refuses to even let you near their phone.

You’ll see them put their phones in their pockets, even if they’re just leaving the room for a moment.

They even take their phone into the bathroom with them.

They won’t charge it at home, preferring to keep it next to them, hide it, or put it under their pillow.

Instead, they’ll take a charger to work and make sure the battery is full for another night at home.

Away from you.

There has to be a point where the alarm goes off. And when it does, it won’t turn green. Ever.

You can hope and hope that you never find yourself in a situation where you judge someone based on how often they hide their phone.

When that happens, it’s time to ask them if they have something big to hide from you.

Knowing that they’re doing just that should raise alarm bells.