Not you…it’s them.
Do you simply find people annoying? You are not alone.
We all have negative personality traits that can drive people crazy.
Some days, you may find yourself wondering if you’re the only one who feels this way. I can assure you that you are not.
Some people are better at ignoring.
Others are great at getting away.
Some have a very high tolerance for these annoying traits.
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Here are the top reasons why people are so annoying (and what you can do about it).
1) It’s fake
If you’ve ever encountered a fake person (it’s almost hard not to these days), you’ll likely find yourself annoyed at the mere thought of them.
They are very easy to spot in a crowd.
It’s so inauthentic that you can smell it from a long time ago.
Fake people spend a lot of time and effort trying to be who they want to be, and it’s hard not to be upset when you spend time with them.
You don’t get to know a real person. You simply get to know the version of them that they want to share. This version is often so far removed from their values and who they are that it is almost infuriating.
The “external” personality has to be one of the most difficult personality traits to deal with. They’re in it for the attention.
It’s not you, it’s 100% them.
Your best choice? Avoid them completely. If that’s what they’re after, the best thing you can do is deny them it. Don’t get involved. Don’t play along. Don’t call them. None of these tactics will get you far.
Fake people are very committed to their cause and a few words from you won’t stop them in their tracks.
If you can’t avoid it completely, just keep it short and move on.
The less time you spend with them, the less upset you will be afterward.
It’s a win-win in my books.
2) They are judgmental
Why do some people feel like they can prop themselves up on a pedestal above the rest of us and turn their big, thick noses into our business?
Judgmental people are annoying. It’s a simple fact.
They talk, think, and act in a way that suggests they are better than you. Better than those around you. Here are three things they all have in common:
- They rule over everything.
- They have little regard for your feelings.
- They believe in their truth.
No one can afford to be criticized all the time, which is why judgmental people are so annoying.
Not to mention, we all define success in life very differently. What makes their truth the right truth? Nothing of course. This adds fuel to the fire of nuisance we are burning here.
So what can you do about it?
Although it may be tempting to throw it back in their faces and get emotional, the judgmental person will take this as a sign that they have struck a chord with the truth. Don’t give them satisfaction.
Instead, let them know you didn’t ask for their opinion, and that’s the end of it. If you feel like this, walk away in the process. Finished.
You will find that your annoyance level decreases in the process.
3) They are selfish
I feel uncomfortable just thinking about these people.
Those who insist on being the center of attention and making everything about them, and only them.
You could be hit by a car and be lying in the road dying, and they will still turn their attention to them and the horror they experienced while witnessing that event. True story.
Ultimately, the only thing that matters to them is their ego.
It will come first, second, third…you get the point. Quite simply, they are selfish.
No wonder we find these people so annoying. You can never get close to them, as there is no place for them except in their lives.
So, what value do they add to your life?
Not much, I’m afraid. It is better to get rid of them until that ego falls.
If you’re looking for the best way to deal with this type of person, tell them that when they’re around you, it’s not just about them.
Interrupt them (in a good way) and shift the topic of conversation to someone else. You may have to be upfront about this and tell them that it’s time to let someone else chat.
Arrogant people won’t give up the spotlight without a little resistance.
4) They are pessimistic
Doom and gloom.
It’s not something we want to find ourselves surrounded by all the time.
However, the pessimist seems to be striving for just that.
They are always trying to prove that the universe does not love or care about them at all.
When things are going well, they think it’s fleeting, so they don’t try to enjoy it.
When things go wrong, it’s proof that the universe is really against it.
They are not nice people to be around. They can bring down the mood of the entire event.
People who want to be miserable for the sake of being miserable are just annoying to be around.
So what can you do about it?
Aside from the obvious, avoid them at all costs.
The next best thing is to counter all their negative feedback with something positive. Look at the good in every negative thing they say and do your best to change the mood around you.
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Hopefully, they will start keeping their food to themselves.
5) They are greedy
If you’ve ever met a greedy person, I bet you hope you never meet them again.
Greedy people are very draining.
No matter how much you give, they want more and more.
It’s not just about greed for money.
It could also be other things, like being greedy for your time.
Greedy people are very draining and very annoying.
Don’t bother wasting your time asking them for anything. If it doesn’t serve their interests, they’re not interested in it.
Nothing is ever enough for them.
How do you deal with a greedy person who annoys you? Well, you have to start by saying no. You can be sure they won’t like to hear it, but they have to.
You can also put conditions on things. Tell them I will give up my time to help you if you help me do it next. (Or maybe ask them to help you first so you know they won’t quit)!
Greedy people often need to be put in their place.
But even that won’t stop them from being annoying.
You might just have to cut your losses, get out of that relationship, and feel better!
6) They are not honest
Is there anything more annoying than someone you can’t trust?
You can never be sure when you’re around them, but you can be sure that they never have your best interests at heart.
Annoying isn’t it?
Whether they are lying, keeping secrets, being hypocritical, or trying to deceive you, who has time for dishonest people in their life?
Although you may do your best to stay away from them, some people have a way of sneaking around without you noticing. They could be a co-worker or even a friend of a friend.
The best thing you can do with dishonest people is to remain vigilant when you are around them. Keep your guard up and always be suspicious of them. Although it is not a nice way to live, it is the best way to protect yourself.
Don’t worry about trying to get back at them if they cheat, lie, or steal. Let’s face it, it’s not worth stooping to the same annoying level that they have.
Instead, fight lies with honesty. Let them know that what they did was wrong and call them out on it. Never let dishonest behavior slip under the radar, or they will likely continue with it, thinking they can get away with it.
The last thing you want to do is trust them.
7) They are merciless
In other words, those who like to hold a grudge.
Honestly, is there anything more annoying?
After all, we all make mistakes in life, and being around someone unwilling to forgive under any circumstances is not fun for anyone involved.
Granted, some errors are much bigger than others, which makes it easy to see where these people are coming from. But a ruthless person is the type to hold on to petty grudges as well.
They’re the ones who remember that time you stole a work project from them 5 years ago and still bring it up in office drinks.
No one needs this kind of negativity in life. You just want to ask them to build a bridge and get over it, but that doesn’t seem to work.
So what can you do about it?
Make a point to move forward. If this person is a part of your life, you need to find a way to make it work for both of you.
If they keep bringing up the past, you need to be firm with them. Let them know that the past is in the past and it’s time to look to the future now.
Keep this line every time they talk about a past mistake or a mistake you made and steer the conversation in another direction.
Hopefully, they get the hint and become less annoying over time. We can only hope!
8) They are helpless
Okay, let’s stop for a second. How annoying are helpless people?
Those who cannot see can do anything for themselves.
They can’t decide where to eat. They can’t go to the bar to pay themselves. God forbid they wander into the bathroom alone.
Helpless people have one of the most annoying personality traits, for the simple fact that they depend on you so much. For absolutely everything.
No, thank you!
It’s like having a little child following you around all day asking for help and never giving you room to breathe for even a minute. Nobody has time for that.
So what can you do about it?
I would love to tell you that you can just tell your husband that he is growing, but unfortunately, it simply doesn’t work that way.
You also can’t act as a savior for them, otherwise, they will suck you in with them.
The best thing you can do is encourage them to make the most of their situation. To stand up for themselves and give something.
You don’t want to push someone out of their comfort zone, but it sure is annoying when someone clings to you.
Set some boundaries and stick to them.
The ironic thing is that most helpless people cannot be helped!
9) They are impatient
Have you ever noticed how annoying impatient people are?
Of course, you do! They are the ones who are always trying to move the group from one activity to the next and never seem to slow down one bit to have fun along the way.
And never be late. Impatient people hate waiting!
While some situations require it, most don’t require it. Having an impatient person on top of you all the time can be very annoying.
But, you can learn to live with it.
This means letting the impatient person know that they have been heard while letting them know that the rest of the group is not ready yet and will catch up.
If they talk a lot about someone being late, something being late, or just any kind of impatient banter, remind them that you’re all there to have a good time, and that’s all that matters.
It can often be helpful to let this person know that impatience will get them nowhere. You won’t rush them. You won’t be making snide remarks about the late friend, and you certainly won’t be rude to the staff.
What you will do is ignore them and enjoy yourself.
the win!
10) They are passive-aggressive
This has to be one of your worst personality traits because you simply never know when they’re going to strike! Out of nowhere, a passive-aggressive person will do something behind your back and will avoid confrontation at all costs.
They keep a safe distance and enjoy reaping the fruits of their plunder, while never stepping out of the shadows. Annoying, isn’t it?
One of the best things you can do is contact them. They don’t want to cause controversy, which is why they tend to work behind your back.
Well, don’t let them. Bring them out of the shadows and make them uncomfortable with their behavior. It’s a great start to help her sink in.
If you can, remove yourself from the situation and do not engage with them. Confront them, tell them what they did was wrong, and talk to them, then move on without fighting.
Don’t tell them how they affect you. This gives them more satisfaction and motivates them again next time.
In this case, it’s better to be the bigger person and walk away, regardless of the costs.
Then keep your eyes wide open for their next attack.
After all, you never know when it will come!
So why are people so annoying?
The answer is simple, people are so annoying because almost all of them seem to have one of these annoying personality traits. In other words, they’re annoying simply because they’re downright annoying.
Unfortunately, there’s not much you can do about it. It’s helpful to do a little self-examination and make sure you don’t exhibit any of these traits yourself.
You don’t want to find out that some of your friends feel the same way about you! Then take a deep breath, read above how you can approach each trait, and go from there.
Just remember, don’t let them get to you. Annoying people are not worth your time and/or energy. This makes them more annoying than ever if you give in to it.
Find out whether you need this annoying person in your life or not, and if yes, it’s time to find the right way to deal with him so that he starts annoying you less and less. Over time, you may start to feel like you have fewer annoying people in your life.
